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Post by hellsbells on Feb 15, 2012 9:39:28 GMT -5
My shortest ever relationship was around 24 hours. I was 15 :-) Sorry it didn't pan out babes, there's a fab man waiting to appreciate your fabness out there somewhere x
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Post by JC on Feb 23, 2012 19:52:46 GMT -5
Today I tried to give cousin advice all out of good intention and my words got so misunderstood and twisted around that now she's mad at me and all of her disgusting friends are putting nasty comments on facebook about me. I'm so f**king upset.
My cousin was talking a bunch of crap about her kid's father and I tried to tell her that if her kids could see her comments then that's kind of messed up to put her kids in the middle of their custody/child support battles. I've been the child of divorced parents and I know all too well how parents try to turn their kids against the other parent and it's an incredibly awful place to be in. I wanted her to take a second thought when she bashed their dad because they'll grow up one day and resent her for it.
Oh no. What she got from my advice is that I think she's stupid and I'm talking sh*t and my comments are negative and I don't understand what it's like to be a divorced mother with kids blah blah blah. Why the f**k did I even try to care? All I wanted to do was save her poor kids from going through the trauma I had to go through. Now all her nasty friends are getting involved calling me names saying I need to go take my 2 cents and buy a muzzle with it.
All I tried to do was help. I even lowered my pride and apologized for making a mistake and apologized for saying anything. Nope, didn't help. I'm just a horrible mean, heartless bitch that likes to talk sh*t.
I wish I didn't care.
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Post by 1234 on Feb 23, 2012 20:22:51 GMT -5
It's weird, Jenaya. I had almost the same experience recently--a friend was posting stuff on her "blog" criticizing her husband and complaining about one of her kids while idolizing the other kid. It sickened me, and I called her just to ask her to think about how hurtful this could be to both kids, but particularly the kid she kept calling "bad". She blew up on me, in person and on her blog and facebook. I don't understand why people put things discussing their kids and other things that affect their kids on things like facebook or blogs. It's so hurtful to the kids--and they will find it, at some time.
What you did was kind and sensitive. Some people just can't deal with the consequences of their actions, or even have the empathy to think about it. I'm sorry.
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Post by JC on Feb 23, 2012 22:49:07 GMT -5
I was telling my husband today that I haven't been caught up in a situation like this since HIGH SCHOOL!! I thought I could be an adult and apologize but they just kept ripping into me! Adults don't do that! Teenagers do that! I was really upset but I have better things to do that worry about a bunch of immature comments. She'll get what I was trying to tell her the day her kids resent her and stop having a relationship with her.
That sucks that you got into a similar situation because I know you're a kindhearted and genuine person. I'm sure you didn't mean any harm. I have found that people in general are highly sensitive to how they raise their kids and are usually not open for advice or criticism and I can totally understand/respect that. I think I would feel the same way. But what do you do when you can obviously see that their actions have potential to really do some harm to their kids? Just let it happen?? I think I learned my lesson. No matter how I feel about how someone raises their kid, it's none of my business. Because caring and trying to make suggestions turns you into a bad guy and in the end, they're gonna do what they want anyways.
Oh well. I tried to help but instead I got made out to be a monster. I'm really REALLY growing to hate facebook. If I wasn't so far away from home I'd delete the piece of sh*t and say good riddance to all this nonsense.
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Post by semicolon on Feb 24, 2012 14:29:44 GMT -5
It is very hard not to care. There are a lot of people I am not friends with on FB or whose posts I block just so I dont have to know what they are saying. Sometimes I feel like all I do is piss people off when i cant just let something go but I find this quote sort of reassuring: "you have enemies? Good, that means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." -Winston Churchill. On a totally different bitching note, I took a major digger running last night and banged up both knees. Righty is the worst with swelling and both have road rash, but I think it's better than last night. I talked to my doc who said if it was bad today to swing by the office, but I don't know if I need to. We were supposed to do some hiking/snowshoeing this weekend, I'm so mad at myself right now! Home from work early, icing on the couch  |
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Post by JC on Feb 24, 2012 15:39:33 GMT -5
AW sad! I'm sorry! That really sucks I hear ya on the facebook thing though. I think in my 30 years of life I have learned that there are 3 topics you should NEVER bring up if you're trying to keep peace: 1. Religion 2. Politics 3. How to raise children I think I learned my lesson the hard way. From now on, I'm minding my own damn business cause it does more harm than good. |
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Post by painttheseconds on Feb 24, 2012 18:23:15 GMT -5
I love that quote semi. I'm sorry you are having to deal with the drama of facebook Jenaya. It's never fun. Just so you know you are not a mean heartless bitch quite the opposite actually. <3
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Post by hellsbells on Mar 3, 2012 12:35:13 GMT -5
Ughhh stupid bints. Even if you were in the wrong, which I'm sure you weren't, you apologised and that should be the end of it. I really hate it when women turn into absolute bitches when they fall out with a friend. I'd rather be quietly dignified about it.
My rant: I can't stop eating!! And it's really bad stuff like crisps and nuts! So much salt and fat!! Aarggh!!
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Post by Karen on Mar 8, 2012 21:02:50 GMT -5
I'm taking tomorrow off work and I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeally want to relax tonight, but I have to finish something up for work that'll take a few hours and I just can't bring myself to do it. It absolutely must be done tomorrow, but I want to relax right now! Just need to pout about that for a bit longer... Grr.
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Post by angelicky on Mar 9, 2012 1:07:03 GMT -5
so angry with myself; i over did it on wednesday. I was feeling fine and thought i would tidy my daughter's room after having cleaned the pc room; by the time i sat down, i realised that i had 10 mins til i had to pick my daughter up and i knew i would be paying for not having a proper rest. So yesterday i kept my daughter home, i probably could have managed to take her to school but the weather was terrible on top of it all. And today i still feel exhausted and all i've done is taken my daughter to school and picked her up, done the dishes and put on an easy-ish dinner
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Post by semicolon on Mar 9, 2012 18:55:02 GMT -5
Ugh, the last two days were terrible at work, I was about ready to walk out at lunch today. I am hoping that people were just crazy from the full moon!
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Post by batgirl on Mar 17, 2012 13:18:19 GMT -5
I'm currently at work again this weekend trying to finish this project (it's due Monday), I'm in lots of pain, and all of my friends and coworkers are posting on facebook about some fun party that I wasn't invited to. Arrrrgggggh. One, I'm mad I'm the only one working on this when it's a 5 person project, and two, shut up about your stupid party jerks. Whatever happened to not talking about parties to people who weren't invited as a matter of politeness?
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Post by JC on Mar 17, 2012 13:33:02 GMT -5
I'm not doing anything fun either. And I can sympathize on the project. I had my physiology lab group leave me stranded to do our entire lab report by myself this week. I had to pull an all nighter to do it and skip all of my classes Wednesday. It took me 10 hours and was 28 pages long. I was LIVID. Smithereens, I totally hear you on that one. I hate when people do that. It makes it harder for people who are really in pain to get the medications they need. |
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Post by Karen on Mar 17, 2012 19:37:25 GMT -5
Ugh, that sounds horrible! Jenaya - I'm glad you got a break for a bit now, and Batgirl, well, I hope work goes quickly enough for you. That sucks about the party. |
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Post by painttheseconds on Mar 19, 2012 22:16:28 GMT -5
I did something really really stupid and now I feel incredibly embarrassed about it. This is why I hate facebook sometimes. I looked up someone from my past and I knew I shouldn't have. It's someone who hurt me really badly in college and now he's off living this care free life. It just pisses me off that he's out living the dream after what he did to me. I know this sounds all really vague. I just couldn't bare telling people I talk to in everyday life because I feel like they would think I'm crazy.
Ugh I just hate that he still has this affect on me almost 7 years later. Sorry I know this probably isn't the most appropriate place for me to be posting this. I just had to get it out somewhere.
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