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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 14:50:04 GMT -5
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 14:51:50 GMT -5
I don't know how I feel about this. I do plan on child-led weaning from the breast, but is there a certain age when enough is enough? I can't see myself going past like 3 or 4. Definitely not past 4 out in public. Hummmm. Is it different if the milk is pumped and given in a cup past a certain age? I know we're humans and meant to drink human milk and not cow milk...but it seems so weird to nurse until 8!
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 14:53:03 GMT -5
Oh. My sister-in-law's father-in-law (follow that? LOL) had wet nurses and nursed until he was 9.
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 14:55:10 GMT -5
Oh. And these girls def. have to be homeschooled! LOL!
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Post by cherry on Jul 3, 2008 15:11:42 GMT -5
I love the line 'I'd rather have lots of breast milk than a million melons' I think with personalities like that, those kids are definitely not let out of the house too much. They sound kinda whiney and like they'd be very clingy There's a sketch show here called Little Britain, with a sketch through series 2 called bitty it makes me cringe... www.youtube.com/watch?v=l8orUaCJ0GYI do agree, why not pump? What's wrong with a cuddle and warm cup of milk before bed? Feeding off the breast til 8 isn't necessary. And the TEETH!
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 15:20:10 GMT -5
^A lot of babies get teeth even before 6 months. Luckily, we don't have teeth here yet at 8+ months, but I'm sure she'll have teeth soon. From what my friends and mom have told me, biting isn't usually a problem. UGH. Guess we'll see!
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 15:21:08 GMT -5
LMAO @ the video, cherry!
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Post by JackMcFarland on Jul 3, 2008 16:03:05 GMT -5
I want bitty!!!!
"i'll tell you WHY it means higher IQ's, cause they i bet they get bullied at school. and bullied kids tend to do better at school cause they have no friends. thats a scientific fact" --- thats all i gotta quote! lol
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 16:09:08 GMT -5
LOL!
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Post by lmk1019 on Jul 3, 2008 16:26:26 GMT -5
my personaly opinion is if they can ask for it, they are too old for it...
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 16:37:30 GMT -5
^My baby came home from the hospital with a "word" for it. By 6-weeks old, she turned the phrase in to a question, with proper inflection and everything. They can ask for it before they are even rolling over!
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Post by ouchy on Jul 3, 2008 17:03:36 GMT -5
LOL! I just asked her if she wanted to nurse using her "question" for it that she came up with herself wayyyyyyyyyyyyy back, and she started shrieking and kicking her legs.
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Post by ouchy on Jul 4, 2008 0:19:04 GMT -5
Okay. While I'm not a fan of nursing until 8, here are some AWESOME facts on extended nursing (nursing past 1) from kellymom.com . Even benefits to the mom! I think now that I will be prepared and okay to 1) tandem nurse an infant and a toddler, 2) nurse until the age of 5 if so desired by the child.
I'll start with some benefits to the MOM! My OBGYN said that a lot of his patients who co-sleep/nurse throughout the night and nurse on demand manage to keep their periods away for up to 2 years! Combined with no period for the 9 months of pregnancy, that sounds GREAT for endo sufferers! ____________________________________________________________________
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Post by JackMcFarland on Jul 4, 2008 9:05:00 GMT -5
The benefits are fantastic, no doubt about that... but I think nursing past the age of two/three is disturbing. There has to be, at some point, a moment of detachment. I think that often extended breastfeeding parents (like beyond the ages of 3, 4, 5...etc) tend to be biased. There is no question that there are only benefits to this, but where is the line? While it may be a warm & loving place for a toddler to let out frustration, I can't help but think that now this child will learn that in order to calm himself he will always need some type of security blanket. I'm still a strong believer in that children need to learn to be independent... the playing alone is good sometimes, that being angry is ok. Perhaps it's just the fact that I have yet to become a mother, but if I'm going to nurse my children to 3 years old, I need to make sure this child is also getting the benefits from being socially adjusted by playing with other children... that my child is smart because I'm reading to him and teaching him... that I'm not exposing him to dangerous foods that he could be allergic to, and that I am not relying on BF to keep myself healthy. From the stuff I've read, and even from the youtube... I think mothers are relying soley on nursing to achieve one or all of the above. I would tandem nurse, and I would nurse till 2/3 if I'm a stay at home mother (and if I could pump so they can have the milk another way, I'd do that as well... Heh! your cereal is ready kids), but I think it needs to be done in a mindset where mom is also allowing her child to grow.
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Post by ouchy on Jul 4, 2008 9:53:36 GMT -5
I wouldn't be doing it strictly for the mom benefits. I posted those first and tilted it that way to try to get more people to read it. LOL! Nursing is actually quite independent here already! You'd be amazed! She is quite head-strong and nurses WHEN she wants and WHERE she wants. She won't nurse under a cover when out in public (I've tried numerous times...just plays peekaboo through the top of teh cover. LOL), when at home, she won't let me touch her when she's nursing--I can't play with her hair or touch her back. She even chooses which breast and what position she'll be in. Quire comical sometimes as she likes to nurse on her HEAD with her tush in the air swaying back-and-forth. I plan on doing everything you said, tess, coupled with breastfeeding. A lot of children fall down and need mommy to "kiss their booboo." She'll probably come over, have two sucks, and go back to playing (what she does now when she gets hurt). I won't be nursing in public past 2 or 3, though. I'm guessing, she'll probably nurse in the morning and right before bedtime (and sleep in her own bed ). Nursing sessions for older kids (and even mine now at 8 months) aren't like cuddling a tiny newborn. Some sessions are rambunctious (spelling), quick, and to-the-point. A lot of nursing sessions we have last even under a minute. Just a quick check-in...and then she's back to playing. I think it is something you have to experience on a personal level to fully understand. It's completely different from what I thought it would be before I had the opportunity to nurse. Oh. And the whole "when they're too old to ask for it, they dont' need it" reason, I heard a good response to that. "It's like when kids are old enough to ask for a healthy vegetable or healthy piece of fruit at dinner--if they are old enough to ask for it, then why do they need it? I dont' know. I totally think you have to "do it" to "get it." Like I said, my views changed after actually, I think when she got to 4 months. 7 months for sure was a turning point. She is quite commical at times while nursing and will pop off cracking up laughing. Nursing can be serious, short, long, funny, hillarious, flirtatious. ETA: I also like to look when other animals, especially in the primate world, wean their babies. Of interest to me, too, is how long babies in other, less developed, nations nurse. I also think that one of the big reasons EN is so taboo in the Western world is our fascination and sexualization of the breast.
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