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Post by MustangGtGirl on May 4, 2012 15:08:54 GMT -5
Wow. I am so sorry. Here is a loving couple that wants to open up there home, lives and love to help a child in need. I do not understand it. I am so sorry.
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Post by 1234 on May 4, 2012 16:12:56 GMT -5
Thanks, you all. The thing is, I even understand why there are all of these rules. I mean, children get abused in foster/adoption situations all of the time. I don't understand this particular application of the rules, as most people who aren't parents yet don't have experience parenting. And my husband and I are in a stable, 5+ year marriage, with stable jobs. And I've worked with kids my whole life and have an MS in adolescent education...who knows.
I'm really just putting it down to nobody has yet made the DC govt functional, despite the very dedicated attempts of lots of good people. the city councilmember for my ward just went to jail for 3 years for stealing funds from a youth services org to buy fancy shoes and an SUV. most of the rest of the city council is under investigation for something or other. and need I say Marion Barry? I heard him give a speech at a community event at which I was volunteering a few weeks ago. Forget crack and womanizing and everything else--the man is fully senile now, and was still re-elected for a bazillionth term as council member!! If you want a laugh, check out his tweets! he calls it "twaggin" (tweeting with swag). and the city department responsible for foster children is so epic-ly mismanaged that it's been threatened to be taken over by the federal govt several times, so it's not surprising. But still. Still!
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Post by JC on May 4, 2012 16:54:01 GMT -5
I'm still in shock and I'm really upset about this.
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Post by MustangGtGirl on May 4, 2012 17:19:43 GMT -5
If they set standards for people who could have babies then maybe teenagers would wait until they were adults to have children instead of at 15 or 16. what do they know about being a parent they are not even grown up themselves. But let's say know to a married couple educated and employed who could be great parents. I just do not get this.
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Post by hellsbells on May 4, 2012 17:32:14 GMT -5
It's very sad and frustrating. I hope something changes for you somewhere down the line x
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Post by loveshoes on May 4, 2012 18:55:39 GMT -5
Oh no, I'm so sorry to hear this Rusty! I think the whole system is messed up. Why is it that the awful weirdos get the kids and the nice caring people like us who can be responsible get screwed all the time? I don't understand. Sending you and your hubby a BIG HUG! I will keep you both in my prayers for something to work out. I PM'd afew of the girls the link to the message but if you are interested, Joel Osteen had a great message this past weekend about basically having to go thru the No's to get to the Yes's. It was very powerful. If you are interested here is the link: I found it amazingly powerful and gave me hope for many aspects in my life. I think this might be uplifting to many members of the board so I really want to share this message. www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZwmrlwYCfGc |
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Post by JC on May 4, 2012 19:40:05 GMT -5
My mom doesn't remember the name of the house that I was talking about earlier. But apparently you can just go and volunteer to hold and rock the babies.  Then the woman I told you guys about just fell in love with one of them one day and adopted her. I'll try and find the name of this place. |
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Post by JC on May 4, 2012 19:41:10 GMT -5
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Post by semicolon on May 4, 2012 21:56:37 GMT -5
Rust, that is very disheartening. Our system is pretty messed up. I wouldn't take this as a no (I get fired up about these things), I would find someone in the system to go over more details of why your application was rejected. Maybe they would give you guys a second look especially with your experience with kids. Maybe I'm just frustrated for you, and actually trying to talk with someone would be akin to beating your head against (insert your favorite DC monument here).
And ugh, Marion Barry! I didn't know he was still involved in politics, there are definitely pros and cons to our democratic system.
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Post by 1234 on May 5, 2012 9:58:14 GMT -5
Haha. Marion Barry is a bad habit DC can't get out of. The only time Marion Barry wasn't either the mayor or a councilmember since 1979 was when he was in jail (bang head against some monument). He's looking for a communications director for his office now, and even is joking while "twaggin" on how that job "isn't for the fainthearted".
It's funny--I think you all are angrier about it than I am. I appreciate it! I think I'm still a little bit in shock and a little bit I just expected it. The person who did our interview was clearly not a fan, and I don't want to get into the weird relations of this city, but she pretty much told us she didn't like the idea of interracial foster care because it wouldn't "preserve the community". I understand and get it--some things you can't fight directly without making more problems. I think that when we do have the energy, we'll try to figure out what happened. or simply submit another application.
On the bright side though, since this didn't work out, I'll continue all of my volunteering with teaching kids and community events and etc. If we were fostering, i wouldn't be able to do that because I wouldn't have the time. So, in some ways, it's probably for the best.
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Post by JC on May 5, 2012 11:14:56 GMT -5
Doesn't like the idea of interracial foster care....I.... just can't. wow. What the. I don't know.
I'm pretty sure these foster kids don't like having a home either. I have no words. This is just disgustingly pathetic.
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Post by MustangGtGirl on May 5, 2012 15:08:50 GMT -5
OMG. That is aw-full. They shouldn't care if you your purple. You are a loving responsible couple that is all that should matter is that you could provide a good safe and loving home. I am in shock.
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Post by JC on May 5, 2012 17:32:59 GMT -5
I'm mad about it because I have come to know you and your husband as nothing but loving and kind hearted people who truly want to make a difference in the world. I'm appalled at this "preserve the community" nonsense. Who cares about the damn community when you don't have a family!?!?
These poor kids just don't stand a chance. Who the hell cares what color you are when it comes to love???
I could seriously cry Kristin. This bothers the hell out of me!
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Post by loveshoes on May 5, 2012 18:34:19 GMT -5
I'm aggrivated by it too - it's almost like they are hating on white people or something by that comment that it wouldn't "preserve the community" how ass backwards is that! Unreal. I have to stop before I say something nasty to get myself in trouble but it makes me sick that we try to be kind people and do what is right yet these racial lines are still drawn by some people, really makes me mad. What happened to accepting everyone as they are and not by the color of their skin? I'm really pissed about this.
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Post by JC on May 5, 2012 19:16:51 GMT -5
I'm aggrivated by it too - it's almost like they are hating on white people or something Welcome to Washington D.C.! |
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Then the woman I told you guys about just fell in love with one of them one day and adopted her.