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Post by cherry on Jan 2, 2011 17:59:46 GMT -5
So for the sake of being tidy and bringing in the new year, a new bitch-fest!
This was from yesterday but in an effort not to get stressed over things I try to think about them and sleep on before I reply or take action on something that has annoyed me...
Yesterday I went outside on my break and noticed a young Japanese girl looking at the busstop timetables outside our building, the buses had stopped 2 hours before and when I told her she clearly didn't speak English very well either. The trains were off and she was going across the river to a different county. Hackney cabs were charging 3 times as much fare due to it being New Year's day so I offered to call her a private hire taxi as the company I use are quick and could tell me the fare before I ordered.
She went to get cash at the ATM and I waited with her as it was dark and the city centre was deserted. The cab arrived, I gave him the directions and felt better having helped her.
Anyway I got back off my break 10 minutes late and the team leader on duty was fuming, when I told him why he didn't want to hear it 'you should have just left her, it's her own fault' well considering she was about 5ft in height, in a strange city with little English and travelling a fair distance and not even knowing the public transport had stopped early... no way would I have left her.
He likes me this tl (after 6-9 months of me proving myself to him) but he's one of those gay guys who has an obvious distaste for women, always has to remark if a button is undone on my blouse (accidentally) etc. Well I stood my ground in that I said I would never leave someone like that and he wanted to rant on about her being stupid so I walked away from him. I literally don't rest easy if I see something that I could have helped with and I didn't care about his adherence to timetables, but it's still annoying me that he could be so callous. There were drunken gangs of lads and hardened drinkers wobbling around the quiet streets!
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Post by sunshine78 on Jan 2, 2011 23:10:41 GMT -5
Sounds like he's a jackass. That's okay. One day, when he needs someone's help, he's going to wish there was someone like you, there.
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I hate migraines.
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Post by gemstone on Jan 3, 2011 5:59:58 GMT -5
You totally did the right thing - most people wouldn't, including him. I think you dealt with that really well - proud  |
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Post by JC on Jan 3, 2011 9:03:28 GMT -5
I don't get why he got mad about that! You HELPED someone! Why would he be mad??? What a jerk!
I think you did the right thing too Cherry! That poor girl would have been so lost!
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Post by cherry on Jan 3, 2011 9:32:30 GMT -5
I know what a poo-head, right! He was literally just thinking about his figures but kindness is so rare these days, and in my mind it wasn't even being kind it was just the right thing to do. Asking me to leave her like that would be like asking me to lick my elbow, just not possible unless you're Gene Simmons.
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 3, 2011 9:33:39 GMT -5
What a prick
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Post by sunshine78 on Jan 3, 2011 19:27:15 GMT -5
Haha, I just tried to lick my elbow.
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 4, 2011 9:32:23 GMT -5
Me too
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Post by pretty on Jan 4, 2011 13:16:11 GMT -5
I always try to help too Cher. Of course I work with a bunch of social workers so often it's like the opposite of your situation - all these dang do-gooders rattling around being helpful and compassionate and nobody gets any work done lol. good on you girl, screw the boss, he's lame.... silly man! Bitch of the week: had to delete ALL hubby's relations from my FB due to their being idiots. His sister had posted a whole thing on her status about her 8 year old, who has Aspergers (autism), peeing her pants in church and 'ruining' Mass for their family! Can you imagine writing this to all your friends? Anyhow, it made me so mad, but I waited a couple days and then sent her a private message with a quote about compassion from Mother Theresa (the woman is crazy, but she's religious so I thought it would make sense to her) anyhow I also said it makes me so sad to see you writing those things for the whole word to see, and Izzy (her daughter) is very smart and reads everything. So in addition to having her own mother basically hating her and blaming her, she has to now hear about it from all her siblings, aunts, uncles, and friends. Poor little kid. Plus having to deal with being so different already. God. Anyhow, I sent this woman a short and very kind note offering to listen and help any way I can ( I've already offered to be Izzy's guardian so she can get the help she needs) and said it was sad to see this all over FB. She got super mad (which I understand to a point) but she ALWAYS gets mad.... anyhow, told me to 'erase myself' lol from her friends. I was happy to do it because just reading the selfish, angry daily status reports from her makes me so depressed. Then I deleted all the rest of that whole giant family becuase the last thing I want to do is remain frieinds with SOME of them but not all of them, and I'd still have to read what they say.... lol anyway, this is a new year and I'm trying to be more honest and less passive agressive. as I understand it this means being direct about my feelings not acting like everythings fine. So if that means finally being honest with my giant bitch of a sister in law who has 5 kids and shouldnt even have 1, that's ok. I swear it's so sad what damage she is doing to the 3 kids that remain in her custody, get yelled at all the time, and thier faults publicly shouted to the world on FB! I dont thing this woman realizes that with her privacy setting the way they are, it's not just HER friends that read her horrible remarks, it is all thier friends too, and all my friends, and all my other people too. Hello! Stupid mean lady! The one thing positive is my hubby's reaction. I wasn't even going to tell him, but it came up in conversation with one of our friends yesterday so I told him and after hearing the whole thing he totally supported me. One thing about him, he really feels that in marrying me he 'forsook' all others lol. So he chooses my and my way over them and their way. Also when I told him what his sister wrote on FB he couldn't even believe it either. He said I did the right thing and she will probably call me and apologize soon! I said I'm not counting on that lol. I wish we could take all her kids and keep them forever....  but that aint real life. I can basically pray that they don't learn to be like her but that aint real life either. All I can do, is stay out of it.... |
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Post by cherry on Jan 5, 2011 12:15:12 GMT -5
It's sad that she's so openly unkind to her kids but having grown up in that environment I can tell you now that a) you remember the kindness of others during those hard times and b) it's made me determined to never ever be that way with children. No shouting, no beating, no overt dislike when it's not their fault that they were born. I wouldn't cut yourself off though. Be the good force in their lives seeing as mother isn't really doing it herself. You obviously care for their welfare so be there, they need you around! I love converted old houses. Except that they're often cold and have all kinds of sins that are hidden when you move in and then come to light as the years pass. The wiring in my place is a bit crappy but not bad enough for my landlord to rewire, and the socket that the kettle was on, it blew (a bang and now doesn't work) and did some thing to my washing machine which isn't even on the same double plughole. It blew the pcb on my beloved washing machine and sod's law, the kettle is fine. I never buy cheap appliances and was planning to buy a new Dyson as we need to replace our old one (I am certain that my cats have sabotaged it, doesn't run like it used to) and I did some overtime over Christmas... but now I have to pay for an engineer to come as this brand is notoriously expensive to repair, or buy a new washing machine altogether which won't be cheap as I'm very particular. Sigh. I'd replace the programming module myself but I'm not au fait with washing machines and don't want to make it worse. I literally don't know where the pcb is in this thing. It's definitely dead cos I turn it off at the mains but as turn as you turn it back on, it starts draining and filling with fresh water all at once, I can get it to just drain if I leave the door open... another problem, it shouldn't do anything with the door open. This was a badass washing machine, I'm a bit devastated at it's demise. |
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 5, 2011 12:51:26 GMT -5
I'm terrified of my household appliances giving up the ghost, so I feel for ya!
My bitch: 5 days of some pretty harsh antiobiotics, and oh yeah...here comes the thrush!!
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Post by cherry on Jan 5, 2011 13:20:53 GMT -5
The Boots one is crap but Asda's own worked a charm and is less than half the price of Canesten's: fluconazole tablet. I had a Boots one the other week and it didn't do a great job but the Asda one I had after I did my BV treatment, it worked like a little miracle! Felt the symptoms lessen that day, then the next day as I showered before bed I felt really clean down there... all gone within 2 days, I've had a lot of thrush in my time (thank you endo for making us all prone to it) and this was brill, highly recommend it. And get an onken biopot to help your tummy get back to normal, they're yummy as well as probiotic.
Well my old fridge died when I was in hospital for my big endo op 3 years ago! It never rains but it pours eh. Mark's lovely mum helped me out with that, I was lucky! I love my washing machine more than anything else and wash something nearly every day!
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 5, 2011 15:01:10 GMT -5
Mmmm...Onken Peach biopot with multigrain...already half gone! In fairness, it's not too bad. Yet. I won't take anything orally until I finish the antibiotics, it's pointless, but I may need some cream to soothe it. Oh, and you can use the yoghurt as a soothing cream too! Although obviously the natural kind..not one with lumps of peach and grains!!
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Post by cherry on Jan 5, 2011 16:13:54 GMT -5
Haha that made me laugh! Imagine explaining that if you got run over by a bus! I'm the same with the biopot (I have cherry and peach multigrain in my fridge  ) If I start it I eat it right out of the pot then due to hygiene reasons, ahem, I always eat at least half of it! Atm I put a big splodge of it on my shreddies along with milk. Makes it a tad sour but all that fibre and probio goodness! Oh yeah I assumed you'd finished them. I gave it 2 days to clear up by itself after I finished the antibiotics then I took the fluconazole. |
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 5, 2011 16:14:57 GMT -5
There's a cherry one?  Oooh Tesco's is still open....! |
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but that aint real life. I can basically pray that they don't learn to be like her but that aint real life either. All I can do, is stay out of it.... 
) If I start it I eat it right out of the pot then due to hygiene reasons, ahem, I always eat at least half of it!
Oooh Tesco's is still open....!