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Post by shortieblatt on Oct 25, 2009 23:05:10 GMT -5
ok I just really need to rant about pain after sex... but due to pain I haven't had sex in like 4 months due to it hurts so bad. and tonight since my birthday was the next day and I was in the mood I would help my husband out along with myself but I am guessing that was a bad idea. thank goodness my husband is so understanding but I feel bad cause my body is so messed up that I can't even have sex with my husband which we just got married 3/23/09 what a honeymoon year huh. ok sorry I just needed to complain and I knew I could here and not worry abt being judged
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Post by JC on Nov 18, 2009 12:13:54 GMT -5
aww I'm so sorry. What's funny is my symptoms started about the time we got married and I still think my husband believes I made it up so I wouldn't want to have sex anymore. Ummm excuse me but this is a man that used to accuse me of having a sex addiction, why would I make it up? I think it's the ultimate insult of nature to make sex painful for us. I absolutely hate it, it's so cruel and unfair, I feel like less of a woman. Yesterday was my wedding anniversary, tomorrow is my birthday and I freaking started my period yesterday too. I'm just so frustrated. In my next life, I want to be a man because they have it 10x easier than we do.
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Post by pamelaj on Nov 18, 2009 14:22:13 GMT -5
im with ya shortie....i was married 3 months ago and now cant have sex for like 6 weeks. Its not very fun when during the honeymoon stage you have to say "please can we NOT have sex".
Jenaya...happy anniversary and im waiting to post on your FB for your birthday. As for the damn red devil...sorry
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Post by Karen on Feb 22, 2010 18:11:51 GMT -5
I have had endometriosis for some time now. A laparoscopy saw the surgeon remove much of it a few years ago. Now, I fear, it is back. The problem is I now can't have sex because it really hurts. I had an internal examination which left me shaking like I'd been in a fight. My consultant at the hospital seems unwilling to suggest surgery again as if my concerns are a waste of her time. I know I'm not imagining the pain. I feel embarrassed because mostly the symptoms are under control by taking two mini pills every day, constantly, but this doesn't stop the pain caused by the endometriosis in my vagina (or the shooting pains!). My consultant has offered a coil which I know won't work due to the severity of my endometriosis. Even a huge dose of Provera and constant mini pills hasn't worked. I would like to have a normal sex life but feel too embarrassed to demand surgery. I am avoiding relationships because of it and cannot imagine having a "normal" relationship while I'm scared of the pain. Has anyone else had to stand up to a consultant and demand a laparoscopy? I'm worried that I'm wrong and the surgery will be a waste of time - but I can't be imagining the pain!!!
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Post by Karen on Feb 22, 2010 18:12:49 GMT -5
Can you change your doctor? What happens if you try 'sex with the person you love the most' i.e. yourself? :-) Does that hurt? I'm nearly half way through a 6 month course of Provera - what dose were you on?
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Post by Karen on Feb 22, 2010 18:14:46 GMT -5
If pain is affecting your life so much, you have every right to demand surgery if other methods have failed. If your doctor is reluctant, consider finding another doctor that is at least willing to try other options or surgery. Your quality of life is important and you have the right to ask for what is necessary in order to get it. No one likes surgery, but if you feel you've tried everything else and it's an option you're willing to take, it's worth the discussion with your doc.
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Post by hellsbells on Feb 24, 2010 13:47:05 GMT -5
Here here!
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Post by Kitty on Feb 24, 2010 18:34:22 GMT -5
I soo feel you on the pain with sex thing! Omg i swear my cooter is closing in on itself! Its so hard to move past the pain and enjoy it. Its like everytime I'm getting smaller so its like I'm a virgin everytime every boys dream i'm sure.. every womans nightmare? thats my little rant.
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Post by JC on Feb 25, 2010 18:15:49 GMT -5
The pain during sex was so depressing for me. I felt so terrible. FOrtunately the nuva ring has me symptom free, although I have been randomly cramping and spotting the last week for no reason (it scares me). I wish there was an easy way around this. I agree with Karen, you know your body best, don't afraid to ask your doctor for things.
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Post by cherry on Feb 25, 2010 18:47:33 GMT -5
I had some bad post-sex pain that has kinda turn my horn right off. I wouldn't know where to begin to get relief or ensure it doesn't hurt again, but it's kinda carried on since. Think its scarring and hopefully this is the worst of it. Intimacy is fragile enough without getting the 'I'm just bearing this til you're all done' mentality
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Post by Kitty on Feb 26, 2010 21:11:47 GMT -5
LOL.. its funny/sad cause its true..
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Post by breen28 on Apr 30, 2010 23:04:24 GMT -5
I have some questions about this symptom...
Over the years with different partners there have been times where I burn down there after sex? Is that the type of pain you are talking about in the after department?
More recently though my husband and I have had to stop having sex because I was in so much pain. Most of the time for me to not be in pain with penetration I have to be on top and "do the work" to keep from being in pain.
In the past when docs have asked if I have pain with sex I've never known what they are asking. I thought some pain with penetration was normal. I've had that type of pain since I started having sex. a good majority of the time after penetration pain, i become more lubricated and the pain goes away.
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Post by sweety on Jul 26, 2010 2:49:46 GMT -5
Ok, last evening hubby n I tried to have sex.. we were quite slow and also used the lube (since it was my first after the lap, i wanted to be well lubricated and slow).. and it was Painful. We tried with me on top but that also hurted. I can explain the pain as 'tightness with burning, a tearing kind of pain'. Wondering what's wrong? Can it be because we are doing it after a long time(around 3 months) or because i am on a vaginal suppositories course?
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Post by Karen on Jul 26, 2010 6:30:41 GMT -5
Aw, that sucks! But, hey, it's a start, right?
What vag suppositories are you on? Or is there any chance you could have some sort of vaginal infection? It could in fact be part of the problem, but then again, there could be something else going on. Have you ever heard of pelvic physical therapy? If things don't get any better, it's something that I'd highly suggest as it can help improve pain with sex!
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Post by helinor on Aug 22, 2010 23:46:31 GMT -5
What do you do when you can't even have an orgasm without paying for it for days afterward? I've discovered that's the new me. Doesn't matter how I achieve it. It's messing with my head quite a lot. Do you just get over it or what? Bumming out heaps.
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