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Post by JC on Jun 24, 2011 8:07:04 GMT -5
"ovarianmutiny" I totally missed your post and am just now seeing this. Great advice! Hatten, I hope you find some help with this thread. I hated having painful sex. It was so awful. It's funny how bad the symptoms get when you get married. I got like that too. We actually have a thread about it where a lot of us got worse after we got married. We concluded that it must be because our diet changes when we get married and live with someone else. And men tend to have sh*tty diets and don't have problems like we do, then we adopt their diet usually... it's all speculation btw, but it makes sense.
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Post by hatten on Jun 24, 2011 10:32:21 GMT -5
i agree, and our hormones definetly change after having kids and the kids diets are weird. my husband has been making me mad more this past year, not to mention no sex, I am on a roll with being the witch around this neck of the woods, my hormones are still trying to get used to having one ovary and also the endo, but i dont get a break either, being a mommy, a stay at home mommy at that, i am on call 24hrs a day, my hubs is military. i kind of feel like i have every reason to complain so yea its pretty stressful around here right now.
I am going to ask this question and then go search it : are there physical endo support groups?
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Post by painttheseconds on Nov 15, 2011 23:09:19 GMT -5
Ugh I feel like endo is making my sex life go down the drain. I haven't had sex in almost a month with my boyfriend because I haven't even felt much of a sex drive. That's really unusual for me. Today we had sex, but it's one of those days where it was really painful especially afterwards. I'm still hurting. It's so frustrating.
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Post by 1234 on Nov 16, 2011 19:51:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry, Paint. That's such a slap in the face.
I know this sounds silly and like it shouldn't work, but sometimes when it hurts so badly afterwards it helps me to put an ice cube in a paper towel and hold it again my vagina. Normally all I want is heat, but for that particular pain, the ice cube helps.
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Post by Karen on Nov 16, 2011 20:07:20 GMT -5
Aw, man, that sucks.
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Post by JC on Nov 16, 2011 22:59:50 GMT -5
How sad! I'm sorry paint
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Post by gemstone on Nov 17, 2011 8:40:09 GMT -5
Sorry Paint, stupid endo ruining everything!! I tried the other day and was literally in agony afterwards for a good hour and then had cramping and a dull ache for the rest of the day.
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Post by MustangGtGirl on Apr 23, 2012 11:21:52 GMT -5
How long after lapo will I have to wait. It has been months since I can let my hubby near me and I am loosing my mind.
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Post by MustangGtGirl on Aug 4, 2012 12:46:42 GMT -5
Girls I need some advice. I haven't been able to have real sex since this started in January and with all the complications after surgery and still going on there has been no way. My husband has been real understanding but there has to be a way to you know work around the pain. I do not hurt there it's up by my belly button down both sides. Any Advice???
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Post by elizabethvictoria on Mar 30, 2013 2:18:18 GMT -5
Hey, y'all... I'm new to the forum, so forgive me if this question has already been asked and I missed it. I've known I've had endo for about 3 years. I'm 20 years old and a virgin, but I'm getting married next month. I'm super excited about experiencing sex and all, but I'm also very nervous. I understand more pain than is normal is pretty well expected for endo sufferers. I'm so afraid it's going to be a rough honeymoon. Is there anything you'd recommend I do to prepare? My doctor has me stretching my vagina, but any further advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by hellsbells on Mar 30, 2013 10:36:00 GMT -5
Hello there. My first piece of advice is to relax. Not every endo gal gets pain with sex, I haven't had too much difficulty, but if you worry about it hurting on top of the natural worries about your first time, then it probs will hurt. My second piece of advice is to 'go it alone' as much as possible over thw next month to get yourself as comfortable with your body as you can be. Does your fiance know about your concerns? You really need to talk to him about this and make sure he knows he has to be super gentle.
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Post by nibletz on Mar 30, 2013 10:44:54 GMT -5
I agree with hells its important to get comfortable with yourself....and also talk to your fiancé so he is also aware of ur worries and anxieties
I rarely get pains during sex u must make sure ur well aroused and 'wet' and as hells said relaxed xxx
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Post by rinnamon on Mar 31, 2013 16:07:58 GMT -5
First off, congratulations on your upcoming wedding elizabethvictoria! One thing to keep in mind it that the first time (or couple of times if you are very active in a short amount of time) may be uncomfortable or even a little painful without having anything to do with endo. That's normal for a lot of women. If you feel pain beyond that, try to figure out why - is he going to deep? Is it the angle? From there, experiment with positions. I personally find that being on top is far too painful, but I usually can tolerate traditional missionary, and from behind causes me no pain whatsoever! Take it slow and communicate with your husband, and I'm sure you'll be fine.
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Post by elizabethvictoria on Apr 9, 2013 18:35:00 GMT -5
Thanks, ladies!! I appreciate your help. I'm trying to mentally prepare and be relaxed about it cause I know I'm only going to make it worse if I'm not. I had read in one of my endo books that something like 60% of women with it do have pain with sex, but I need to remember that I might be in that remaining 40%. I think my anxieties are getting a little worse as I had a cyst (so far as I could tell) rupture on my left ovary on Sunday and my period is scheduled to hit about 4 days before the wedding (praying it comes earlier!). I'm just hoping and praying it'll be over and the swelling will be gone by wedding night. My fiancé does know about all of my concerns and he's been very understanding about it even being willing to wait during our honeymoon if necessary. He's a keeper! Thanks again. Hugs!
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Post by nibletz on Apr 10, 2013 13:52:41 GMT -5
awww thats so sweet CONGRATULATIONS im happy for you....why not try yoga or sme relaxing breathing exercises and meditating to help you remian calm and relaxed and at ease...it could be useful and helps i think...hugs to you i do feel fr you....and yes you may be in that 40% xxxx
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