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Post by ouchy on Feb 17, 2006 13:01:58 GMT -5
I want to "Rant & Rave" that sex hurts! It is supposed to be such an enjoyable thing between a man and a woman. If i don't numb myself up with lidocaine jelly and put a whole lot of olive oil inside, the "act" will hurt like mad!
I hear all of these women boasting about how much they love sex...I wonder what that is like!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! I want to love making love to my husband, too!
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Post by lynette on Feb 17, 2006 14:27:37 GMT -5
I agree with you there. I have often wondered what the big thing about sex has been.
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Post by Dinah on Feb 21, 2006 10:43:02 GMT -5
yes I agree with you. for me I did not have intercourse since 1997 . If I do I will suffer with pain for almost 3 weeks before I get back to normal. To me it's not worth it, my husband understand, if he does not well....he can leave. Sex is not on my priority list, healing is. It sucks but it's the way it is.
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Post by prahagirl on Mar 28, 2006 14:56:42 GMT -5
I know how you feel. It's really depressing. i've never had pain free sex, and i really want to enjoy it like other women do. it's not fair...i'm a young woman in my 20's and i want a normal, healthy, pain free sex life! i haven't had sex in almost 4 years
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Post by ouchy on Mar 28, 2006 23:37:49 GMT -5
I don't hate sex now that it doesn't hurt. Since I quit my birth control pills, I'm virtually pain-free!
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Post by andie4405 on Jun 1, 2006 20:57:52 GMT -5
It has been six weeks since my hysterectomy and I am scared to death that sex will hurt....I dealt with painful intercourse for six or seven years and do not want to go through that again.....I am afraid that it will hurt because of endo (if there is still any there) and because of the surgery....I also had the cervix removed because of endo.....So that is a completly different story as my doc says that sex will be somewhat different because of that too........Why can't sex be pain free and fun like it should be?
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Post by lynette on Jun 1, 2006 21:17:18 GMT -5
I, too was was afraid of sex after my hysterectomy. It doesn't hurt anymore. It does feel different. I just don't have an interest in it. My doctor is checking my hormone levels to see what we can do. Good luck. Lynette
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candy
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Post by candy on Jun 14, 2006 16:41:33 GMT -5
Sex always hurts for me, I dont know if it's Endo, or recovering from a Hysterectomy? My husband asked me the other day "is it always going to be like this?" all I could say is "I dont know"
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Post by mariewynn on Oct 15, 2006 3:57:18 GMT -5
I know exactly what you mean. Me and my boyfriend tried the other night after a couple of weeks without since I've been in so much pain and god did I pay for it. The pain was so much worse than normal, and I couldn't even get off because the pain was so intense. It used to be that I could keep going and it would eventually go away, but not this last time. It just kept getting worse. Kinda makes me feel inadaquate as a girlfriend, ya know? And no, my boyfriend doesn't make me feel that way. He's actually so great about the whole thing, I don't know how I'd get through this without him. Him being so great makes it worse that I can't have sex with him lol
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Post by lawdawg19 on Oct 16, 2006 13:53:46 GMT -5
Sex has always hurt for me as well. My ex boyfriend made me feel like crap because of it. (we broke up when he slept with my twin sister on our birthday because she was "more physically attractive than I am and she isn't crazy...I was on lupron at the time, but that's a whole other story lol)... Do any of you ladies have this problem: My man will please me, and I can get wet, but then it just sort of...dries up. It's like I can't get into it for whatever reason. Side effect from lupron maybe?
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Post by candice on Oct 16, 2006 17:27:14 GMT -5
Sex hurts for me too. It's been months since I've been able to have sex with my husband. Even when I did, I had to be drugged and even with the drugs I was in too much pain to let him finish most times or cryed myself to sleep after. Lawdawg, I find I dry out because I'm scared it will hurt. It's an "I know whats coming next" thing. I get tense and that makes it worse as well. I"m not sure what to say in regards to fixing that. I guess try to relax isn't very helpful is it. I was a vigin before I married. Some way to start a marriage eh. Sorry about the ex. You'll find someone who undestands. My husband, once he got over the initial "we will never have good sex so leave if you want" speach, has been very supportive. Good luck.
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Post by jp on Oct 20, 2006 14:13:45 GMT -5
its all about having a supportive loving partner...
I have learned to ask for what i want, to be clear about my boundaries. funny for me, sometimes the pain begins right after we finish, and it is BAD. But I find the more I am relaxed, the more I take my time and do nothing that is compromising, its OK...also depends on what I have eaten that day...
Ouchy spoke in another section about Olive oil suppositories for dryness...worth checking out
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Post by ouchy on Oct 20, 2006 16:31:26 GMT -5
Ouchy spoke in another section about Olive oil suppositories for dryness...worth checking out I don't know about olive oil suppositories. I paint the olive oil on w/ my finger or a dilator.
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Post by ouchy on Oct 20, 2006 16:33:06 GMT -5
I've also had luck w/ Premarin Estrogen Vaginal helping w/ pain w/ sex.
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Post by penelopelouise on Oct 21, 2006 10:16:50 GMT -5
I am just now beginning to relax during sex! I have been married for a little over a year, but have been with the same man for 8 years. He is the one I lost my virginity to and has been there through the diagnosis and treatment of endo. I am lucky that he is understanding. I just went off the pill in May (we are trying to conceive) and it seems that it is slowly getting less painful and I actually want to be intimate! I used to scream and cry and it was not enjoyable for either of us! I think the pill and endo really screw up your hormones and it is not fair!
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