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Post by baby bonnet on Jul 17, 2006 13:21:43 GMT -5
I would like to know if there are other people out there who have tried to fill the baby void and the creative ways that they have tried. I personally have purchased a dog, become obssesed with playing The Sims 2 ( because they can have babies), and borrowing nieces and nephews.
I would also like to know if you also have some anger issues like I do when it comes to bumping into pregnant woman. I just feel like they are rubbing my nose into their bellies and I get the urge to kick them in the belly when I see them. I know it is not their fault and I would never kick them, I'm just saying I get the urge to.
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Post by ouchy on Jul 17, 2006 14:47:15 GMT -5
Hi, babyless. Have you thought about adoption? Or starting a baysitting service? That probably sounds quaint, but it might be a good way to get more interaction with babies/kids.
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Post by baby bonnet on Jul 17, 2006 15:04:21 GMT -5
I have thought about adoption but adoption is so expensive. To think that there are so many children on the list because people who would make great parents can't afford to go through the whole adoption process just breaks my heart. I've thought about going back to school and opening a daycare center, but that wouldn't fill the void either because at the end of the day all the children go home. I used to babysit all the time so I know that it doesn't fill the void. Seeing how great my husband is with our nieces and nephews just breaks my heart. Like this weekend to see how excited he got when our 5 yr. old nephew swam for the very first time just made want to cry. Oh and Ouchy it doesn't sound quaint to me because they are options that I have considered and I'm sure many others have too.
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Post by denna on Aug 3, 2006 22:51:23 GMT -5
hi babyless,
i know exactly how you feel because i have experienced it and still is. i try to avoid seeing pregnant ladies and i have started to avoid parties and all.we had recently got 2 puppies and i called them sometimes baby. i cried for them and sometimes i even feel like sleeping with them. i have 2 nieces and a nephem and they always stay at my house. i have no problem having them as i feel like they are like my own kid.the problem is that you can't plan anything for them, like their future and all. i think i'll adopt but not very sure- that will be my last option. otherwise i will only help my nieces in whatever they needs.
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Post by baby bonnet on Aug 7, 2006 13:05:51 GMT -5
I spend loads of time with my nieces and nephews too, but they eventually go home and then the house is so empty that you can hear an echo again. The other bad thing about other people's children is that you learn very early to keep your mouth shut when you don't like the way a child is being raised or disciplined because you automatically get the "it's my child", responce and the "how would you even know, you don't even have kids of your own" look. Even when they know that you love those children like they were your own. I would love to adopt but all the adoption costs make that impossible for us. I'll have to win the lotto just to afford adoption.
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Post by ouchy on Aug 7, 2006 19:18:29 GMT -5
State and county adoptions are often cheaper than private adoptions. I think Department of Human Services usually oversees county adoptions. I'm not sure, but I know they are cheaper. You don't always get the "pick-of-the-litter," but it's often times quicker and cheaper than the other route.
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Post by erzulie on Aug 7, 2006 21:04:18 GMT -5
Also, having a baby yourself can be even more expensive than adopting, especially if anything goes wrong with the pregnancy or if you need a c-section. I recently read a really nice account of an adoption. A couple wanted to adopt and they ended up deciding to adopt a baby from Vietnam. Their families thought they were insane because they really didn't have the money for an adoption, but they were determined to do it so they raised the money. They had several fundraisers, adn people knew what they were raising for, and when they had enough they applied for adoption and within months they had a beautiful baby girl. I think there is always a way!
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Post by Hillary on Aug 7, 2006 21:42:31 GMT -5
That is soo special! I love to hear stroies like that! My husband and I will be going through invitro and if it doesn't work then we have talked about adopting I was thinking a little girl from Russia. After my first surgery I was a serious hormonal mess and watched a document on how many Russian orphans there and I balled my eyes out. Having your own children is what we want but if we can't and there is a dtrong possibility that we may not adopting is the next best thing! Before I met my husband I was determined that I would be alone, buy a house and be a Foster mom. I want to be a mom so badly too, there are ways to go around it cause there are so many children out there that will love you just like your own. I have a cat and have had her for 9 years, and When I see pregnant woman or mothers and there children or whats worse is mothers that are pregnant with another little one. I think why can't we do that so many woman that can and I am having a really hard time. I get sad and try not to think about it but you can't let it get you down you have to keep your head up!
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Post by baby bonnet on Aug 8, 2006 12:51:05 GMT -5
Alright you are all not going to believe this - I have been feeling somewhat nauseous but not extremely nauseous and I have been having some pain in what appears to be my ovary and some cramping. The usual stuff for me before my period. I was starting to get tired of all these symptoms and just wanted to get my period and get it all over with. I always seem to get my period the day after I get a negative pregnancy test so I decided to go home yesterday and take one. Just in the hope that I'd get my period today and stop feeling awful. So I took one as soon as I walked in the door. I was shocked to see the pink line on the right side of the window as it usually shows up on the left side. I thought to myself "this test is off centered", then all of a sudden there were 2 lines! I couldn't believe my eyes. This is the first time in the 2 years that we have been trying that I got 2 lines. My husband and I had already lost all hope and were not even trying. We ran out to the drug store and purchased a digital test because he still could not believe it. This one too said that I'm pregnant. I did the math and it looks like I got pregnant 3 weeks ago.
I've made an appointment with my OBGYN for two weeks from now. I pray to God that he tells me that indeed I am expecting and that everything is alright. I'm so scared because of all the sad stories that many of you have shared about loosing babies. I know that with endo loosing a baby is a big possibility for many.
I'm full of so many different emotions today and sorry for typing so much.
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Post by louise on Aug 8, 2006 15:10:30 GMT -5
oh babyless im so pleased for you, i bet you want to shout it from the roof tops, your news has really made my day, i know how hard getting pregnant can be and you have been blessed, look after yourself and again im really pleased for you xxxx
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Post by ouchy on Aug 8, 2006 15:15:59 GMT -5
Wow!!! Now you will be able to kick yourself in the belly, Miss Preggo!!! congratulations
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Post by Hillary on Aug 8, 2006 15:40:53 GMT -5
Congradulations!!!!! ;D ;D I am sooo excited for you!!!
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Post by baby bonnet on Aug 8, 2006 15:47:38 GMT -5
Thank you Louise and Ouchy - I do want to shout it from the roof tops. I feel like I'm floating on cloud 9! I guess I would have to kick myself in the belly if I was that flexible. My only problem is that if this pregnancy sticks, besides my clothes not fitting neither will my user name. It feels so unreal, like it was all a dream but I know it wasn't a dream because I didn't sleep last night.
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Post by ouchy on Aug 8, 2006 15:57:40 GMT -5
Babywith (I changed your name for you ), I thought I'd let you know that I don't think endometriosis, itself, will screw with your pregnancy sticking! That's usually caused by other hormonal problembs, etc. sooo, good luck, girl!!! Here's a big kick! Haha! I just thought of something!!! YOU won't have to kick yourself! In about 3-4 months from now, you'll be having something kicking your tummy from the inside!!!
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Post by ann on Aug 13, 2006 11:48:01 GMT -5
We have a small dog that sleeps with us every night. She is the baby, and we even call ourselves MOM and DAD. We even call our parents Grandma and Grandpa. I don't know how she will adjust when we have a real baby.
I get quite upset when I see young kids that are pregnant. Or mothers that are pushing around 7 kids and can't afford a haircut and have another one on the way,,, also when I hear mothers being so mean to thier kids and they are pregnant again. I get upset a lot when I go out in public.
So exciting Babyless,,, hope everything works out for you.
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