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Post by ouchy on Sept 28, 2006 20:48:50 GMT -5
Hi, sandcastle! I would describe the pain i HAD--when I used lidocaine the most (most of my pain was from the pill, which I have now quit) as kind of a ripping-type pain upon penetration (could have been from vuvlar vestibulitis, caused from the pill drying me out like an old lady!) and then like a kind of dull, kind of sore pressure upon deep penetration. The lidocaine helped with both, and every now and then I still have to use it. There is now way to tell whether or not the pain will completely go away w/ the lidocaine, but it might be worth a try. Might be something to ask your doctor about, as it is only available in the U.S. by prescription. It's lidocaine jelly (I think the generic is called xylocaine...? not sure.).
oh---3 of my close friends have tried the lidocaine for pain with intercourse, and they were raving about it, too!
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Post by sandcastle on Sept 28, 2006 22:36:21 GMT -5
Hmm the lidocaine sounds like a really good solution. I know what kind of pain you're talking about with the initial penetration cause I have that too, and man, it's horrible. All of this pain stuff started happening for me pretty recently, like in the past few months, so needless to say I'm pretty upset by the fact that I can't really enjoy sex anymore. I think I'll ask my gyno about the jelly next time I go. Thanks for your help.
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Post by Introducing myself on Oct 9, 2006 21:18:00 GMT -5
Hello everyone, I am new. I posted a message of me introducing myself. My member name is Amanda1, but I am waiting for approval right now.
Max- When I read your message about the tightness my eyes opened widem because that is how I feel.
I have been having painful intercourse for the past year and a half. The pain is so hard to describe to people. Its as if there is a tightness deep inside. As if my fiance has to push his way through (like break in). There is also a sharpness to it like nothing I have felt before. Its really awful. There are times I have even bleed after.
I can't wait to beable to enjoy making love to my fiance again. I have had no sex drive since this started a year and a half ago.
Amanda
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Post by Kayla on Oct 12, 2006 12:27:29 GMT -5
I feel like I just had an epiphany!! I've never known why after 3 years of being sexually active, I still hurt when I have sex, and I am extremely tight. But now I know why! I'm not alone lol.
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Post by ouchy on Oct 12, 2006 22:39:05 GMT -5
There is also a sharpness to it like nothing I have felt before. Its really awful. There are times I have even bleed after. The bleeding could actually be from a simple overgrowth of natural bacteria. They can do a simple pH test for that to check. I used to have bleeding sometimes for over a year. Wound up it was just overgrowth of healthy bacteria... shocked me!
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Post by needadvise on Oct 23, 2006 6:45:22 GMT -5
i must be the odd girl, i dont feel any tightnes, and i never have pain with sex. i dont know if it's cause i have had kids, don't have endo, or have it, just not that symptom. hmm
hugs, michelle
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Post by katie35 on Oct 23, 2006 7:57:26 GMT -5
Everybody's symptoms are different. You can have endo and no pain during sex. It may be located in a different area. Thats great for you.
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Post by ouchy on Oct 23, 2006 20:26:27 GMT -5
^ Yup. Katie is right. There is another member on here, Janet, who also does not have any pain with sex. You girls are some of the lucky ones!!!
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Post by vatechgrad on Oct 25, 2006 8:26:11 GMT -5
Like Ouchy said I do have endo and I've never had pain with sex. Its different for everyone, not having the pain doesn't mean you don't have endo.
Janet
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Post by ouchy on Oct 25, 2006 8:43:13 GMT -5
My cousin told me that she had a little pressure with sex but had absolutely NO pain with her periods, and she had a very severe stage IV and wound up having 2 laps, 4 laparotomies, then a hysterectomy. Again, the severity and the non-correlation to the pain.
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Post by cherry on Oct 28, 2006 19:30:51 GMT -5
one time it was noticeable and I cried at the sudden pain, and sudden dread as i knew in the back of mind what it could mean. My boyfriend nearly cried too as he also knew, and hated that he had hurt me at such a tender moment. We just cuddled but it still hung between us for a while, the question is it hurting... and what if it happens again? I do a lot of the time get a pain in my stomach (yes my stomach) like it is being poked, this can be apin as my stomach is very sensitive at the moment! I think that is more to do with angle and depth of penetration though...
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Post by ouchy on Oct 28, 2006 20:12:58 GMT -5
I think that is more to do with angle and depth of penetration though... Could be vulvar vestibulitis. You could ask your doctor about trying out Premarin Vaginal Estrogen Cream or Lidocaine numbing jelly.
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Post by Julie on Oct 31, 2006 13:14:51 GMT -5
It seems like a lot of us are having the same problem, so i figured this would be a good place for me to start for some support. I can't seem to get it together lately and my boyfriend, though loving and understanding seems to be getting a little fusterated. I shy away from sexual contact b/c it seems like Im always getting yeast infections or after sex i feel like im in more pain than when we started. i feel myself shying away from being with him physically because i just see the downside of things. during Sex doesnt hurt really bad, but afterwards i notice "pelvic" pain or what i call my ovary pain... i dont know what to do. I just feel like im being a bad girlfriend.
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Post by tarynnsmommy on Nov 2, 2006 10:42:46 GMT -5
I also have extreme pain during and after intercourse. I am hoping that having my ovaries removed will take care of that (had partial hysterectomy over a year ago). To me there is no way to describe to anyone the pain that I feel. Mine is only upon deep penetration and only in certain postitions. I feel really sorry for my husband because he has to suffer for my discomfort. But he understands and we try to work it out.
Misti
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Post by cherry on Nov 2, 2006 10:49:38 GMT -5
my pain is at those certain points too misti... I haven't told my boyfriend what it really is as I know it will worry him so I limit it to 'oh no that feels a bit uncomfortable' and we change what is being done which is good. I really hope it's not vulval vestibulitis!
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