I had my lap about 3 weeks ago and I am exhausted all the time. I can sleep for 11 hours at night and still be tired the next day. I was lucky in that I didnt have complications with my surgery and healing after but The exhaustion is definitely almost too much to bear at times.
I am currently looking for work (there is NOTHING out there that suits my qualifications) and I dread going back because of the pain and the tiredness. The last job I had, I found it very hard to function properly and that was pre-diagnosis. I only have a bit of relief of pain but I have lots in my lower back and I find when I do more active stuff, it increases tenfold.
I am on Visanne which is helping a bit but I wont be staying on it. It's a 2 month trial to let my body heal and that's fine but I cannot stay on hormonal therapy due to my family medical history.
I am expecting my first period soon and I am terrified of the pain that will come with it. I know the first one is the roughest after a lap.
I dont know what to do... I am feeling down, exhausted and just so unmotivated. I have been crying every day for at least 3 days and I feel bad that my family needs to deal with my emotional downs.
I'm so sorry to read that you're having a hard time. First of all, I was in your shoes a year ago, so I completely understand where you're coming from. I was unemployed and trying to recover from surgery. It was a stressful time. I was super exhausted just as you described. As this was my second surgery, however, I knew what to expect. It took me about six or eight weeks to start to feel myself again, and about 3 months to really feel a difference. I'm not sure what all you had done, but anytime one goes through a procedure like this, it is hard on the system. Not to mention the anesthesia does a number on most people, and it all by itself can be hard on you emotionally and physically while it works itself out of your system.
One thing that helped me tremendously was a journal. It helped me get out a lot of the emotions I was feeling and I made sure that I wrote something positive in it every day, and it also helped me be able to vent on the bad days. There are days that I deal with guilt from my family having to deal with my issues too, but I remember that I have been there for so many of them during sickness and turmoil in their own lives. And they all know that come what may, I will be there for them when they need me. Us endo girls tend to always think of ourselves last, and right now is a healing time for you. It's okay to be vulnerable!
Also, another thing that helped was when the doctor cleared me going on short walks say 10 minutes or so, once or twice a day helped me clear my head. Being in the fresh air and nature can do wonders for your emotional well being. Even if you don't feel like walking, just sitting in the sunshine and taking in nature around can help.
I hope you feel better soon! In the meantime, all of us understand how you feel and what you're going through! Hang in there .
Three weeks after surgery it's actually pretty normal to feel tired, and yes the first period is probably going to hurt. I didn't start to feel like I had my energy completely back until about a month after surgery.
Just hang in there and treat yourself well, and as soon as you're allowed to take a bath take one and relax. It's hard sometimes but try to keep going but go slow.
It is quite normal to feel tired, I remember having terrible back pains after my lap and a whole heap of other aches & pains but my energy level kept increasing day by day so take things slow and give yourself time to heal and recover. My first period after the lap did hurt but the next one and the one after didn't hurt (touchwood) and I was so happy. I was an emotional wreck at times. This is a lovely forum so if you feel down or if you want more info or simply if you just want to talk drop it.
Thanks ladies.. I think it is also partly to do with my Visanne lessening the effectiveness of my anti-depressant. I am considering what my next step will be but I have a month to go on Visanne so I am hoping to tough it out.
Emotionally, I am drained and actually dealt with insomnia last night.. That never happens. My husband has been wonderfully supportive but he has his stuff to deal with too and I hate that my stuff adds to that.
I do put myself last because my family needs me. I do a lot of reading so that helps me escape for a bit and I will definitely try a bath...