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Post by Karen on Aug 13, 2011 12:48:25 GMT -5
 Oh, hun, please find someone you can talk to ASAP! I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but it IS temporary and you WILL be able to cope with it. Please please please keep reaching out for help, k? And check in with us soon? |
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Post by JC on Aug 13, 2011 14:43:04 GMT -5
Oh no! Please find someone to talk to! I'm really glad you feel ok to talk about this here but if you can find someone to talk to on the phone or in person that would be better. I'm so sorry this has gotten you so upset. Things do get better regardless of the outcome. I don't want you to feel totally hopeless. Whether you guys work things out or not, things DO get better. I'm sorry you're hurting. Please keep your head up. You will be ok!
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Post by jessabug on Aug 13, 2011 17:53:21 GMT -5
Yes, hun, keep your chin up! There are brighter days ahead, I promise. I think everyone finds themselves in the gutter from time to time. Fingers crossed that this is a situational depression you're dealing with -- we want you to be happy and healthy! I know this might be hard to hear, and you can totally ignore me if you want, but I think that any relationship that causes so much emotional turmoil to a person is perhaps one not worth being in, as much as you may love the person. You deserve to be happy, and there are so many kind and good people in the world, and there is a good and kind person out there for you, too. I promise you, you are capable of and deserving of a relationship that is balanced, supportive, communicative, and supporting.  Keep your head up and please find someone to talk to who can help you through this! |
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Post by alivenkicking on Aug 13, 2011 22:14:31 GMT -5
you've got an awfully deliciously cute kitty that i bet would be more than happy to shoulder some of your burden. and would be awfully sad to see you hurt yourself. this isn't even you, sweetie. your body has been rocked by anesthesia and the trauma of surgery, and your brain has been scrambled by the hormones. this hell you're in right now isn't even you -- you will look back on this time as a hazy nightmare, and you will feel whole again. each of these gals has promised you it will get better, and i will too -- because it always does. not always on our schedule, but it *always* gets better. lean on everyone here, i think i can speak for us all when i say we've got as much encouragement for you as you need. big hug! now go love on your kitty!!
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Post by painttheseconds on Aug 13, 2011 22:23:15 GMT -5
Hang in there sweetheart. I hope you were able to talk to someone on the hot line. No one likes being at that place, but please please please continue to reach out for help. I'm so sorry you are having to go through this.
We are all here for you. Please take care of yourself and stay safe. You are in my thoughts. Check in with us soon.
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Post by jessabug on Aug 14, 2011 0:38:50 GMT -5
Beautifully said, alivenkicking.. she makes SUCH an important point. This is NOT you. So true.
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Post by mollyfin on Aug 14, 2011 7:23:47 GMT -5
I know it isn't me. And usually she and I are very good together. But she can say very hurtful things when she's upset and right now I seem incapable of letting anything go. It's just a lot of bad timing, I guess.
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Post by alivenkicking on Aug 14, 2011 9:02:37 GMT -5
it does sound like a lot of bad timing, that sucks. make sure you get a good dose of the people who make your world a little brighter, maybe this isn't a great time for you two to spending a whole lot of time alone together. this too shall pass!!
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Post by painttheseconds on Aug 14, 2011 11:00:01 GMT -5
I went through a similar experience last year around this time. My boyfriends father passed away unexpectedly and a couple of weeks after that I was scheduled to have my lap. We had some very very rough moments. We said some pretty awful things to each other. Not because we meant to hurt each other, but because we were both hurting and scared. We gave each other some space to cool off and then talked about everything when we were both in a better place. Were still together a year later. Relationships have so many ups and downs. I hope there are brighter days ahead for yours. I'm sorry you are hurting so much. Do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it. |
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Post by mollyfin on Aug 14, 2011 12:46:27 GMT -5
i don't really have anyone else. i'm agoraphobic and basically a shut-in. i'm too shy to make friends, i'm too screwed-up and useless to work. i'm a drain on society and dependent on the people i love. right now it just seems like there's no way out.
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Post by jessabug on Aug 14, 2011 13:46:01 GMT -5
I know you're hurting right now, and I know that many of us understand the pain and the struggle that you're going through right now, but the people that you love also love you BACK, and we love you too. Just try to remember that, ok? And you really DO have somebody else, because we are here for you! And you don't even need to leave the comfort of your own home to talk to us and be around us. How sweet is that? Maybe you should wander over to our LOL of the day thread. That always cheers me up when I'm feeling lousy.  |
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Post by mollyfin on Aug 15, 2011 8:42:41 GMT -5
girlfriend and i are working things out, i think, but i still feel really apprehensive about it. maybe it's the drugs, i don't know. things still feel weird and awkward.
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Post by JC on Aug 15, 2011 14:30:18 GMT -5
Hey you can always come to us for support and to talk things through! I hope you can work things out. One step at a time. Things won't feel super cozy and normal right away but at least it's forward progress!
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Post by Karen on Aug 15, 2011 17:06:53 GMT -5
Well, that's a good first step! Any chance you have a professional you can talk to about some of this stuff a bit more in depth? I found that was the only way to knock some sense into myself when I went through a really bad patch and had lingering relationship issues to deal with on top of it. I hope you're able to feel more comfortable with where things are at soon.
Hugs!
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Post by mollyfin on Aug 17, 2011 8:57:27 GMT -5
I do think I should start therapy again. I just wish it wasn't so darned expensive. I got to see my girl last night which was nice. Of course, my mom decided to make things more difficult by being rude to her (she knows we're fighting and I probably didn't paint the nicest picture of her when I was upset); i just hope she's not mad at me for it. I mean, she tells her mom everything...
I'm still overly sensitive and full of tears - she said a couple of innocent things that made me want to react negatively, but I ignored it. But I guess that's better than it was.
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Oh, hun, please find someone you can talk to ASAP! I can't imagine what you're going through right now, but it IS temporary and you WILL be able to cope with it. Please please please keep reaching out for help, k? And check in with us soon?
Keep your head up and please find someone to talk to who can help you through this!
