|
Post by 1234 on Mar 25, 2012 12:36:18 GMT -5
this makes me smile. I always say, "fine", because anything else is just too long-winded, and other people don't want to hear anyway!
|
|
|
Post by bloomrae on Mar 25, 2012 17:08:17 GMT -5
I almost always say fine too. Or good, okay, alright. I never go into how I really feel either. Lately the answer would be just about to fall apart or not good. The last couple months have been bad. I haven't worked a full week in about a month. My boss does ask the question every morning "How are you?" and she's looking for the real answer. I still don't usually tell the truth. The day starts with "How are you?", then "Are you okay?" and finally "Go home." I want to stay, but lately I've been told to leave and it's probably better that way. I haven't been the most productive at work lately....
|
|
|
Post by JC on Mar 25, 2012 17:36:43 GMT -5
Lately I have just been saying, "Oh you know, just floating through my easy life as usual." Usually they sense the sarcasm and get the hint. It has been quite fun to see how people react to that. LOL
|
|
|
Post by semicolon on Mar 25, 2012 18:33:04 GMT -5
That's funny, on Fri I mentioned I was still doing the gluten free diet and one of my other co-workers looked at me in shock and said "are you still having problems?". I said yeah but I'm better than earlier this week. When my boss asked the other day I honestly said sometimes I feel like sh*t but sometimes I don't. I pull it together well, so the few times I am honest it can be surprising to those who see me do it everyday.
Bloomrae- I'm sorry you've been struggling lately!
|
|
|
Post by Heather on Mar 25, 2012 20:13:40 GMT -5
Right this moment? Agitated. Short-tempered. Impatient. Worried. Very, very stressed. Inhuman. Bitchy. Overburdened. Inadequate. And hungry.
|
|
|
Post by 1234 on Mar 25, 2012 20:42:57 GMT -5
At least the hungry is an easy fix! Sorry you're having such a rough evening, Heather. I hope tomorrow is easier.
I've often wondered why, even with people who I know really care about me and ask, "how are you doing?", even if I'm in agony, I still can't say, "i'm really hurting today." Even if I want to say it, I just physically can't get the words out. I don't know what is behind it, entirely. I don't want people to worry about me or feel sorry for me, or feel helpless/bad because because they can't do anything about it? Maybe I also don't want to have to explain again that this is a chronic condition, and an incurable disease, and it's far reaching, and it's just something I have to deal with? I do this even with my husband sometimes, because I just dno't want to burden him with this, more than I have to. Anyway, it's odd--or at least I feel odd to myself saying these thigns that aren't true, when I don't want to, when someone who really cares about me is asking.
|
|
|
Post by Karen on Mar 25, 2012 22:22:47 GMT -5
I get what you mean. I usually have a hard enough time admitting it to myself that I'm not fine, let alone others. I had to be honest with my team leader last week about some additional responsibilities my company wants me to take on but me and my team lead don't want me to go in that direction so I had to give him some good solid reasons why not so he could squelch it. I gave him a bunch of reasons but said my biggest reason was my health, that I can make sacrifices that may set my health back as long as they bring me closer to my goals, but otherwise, I don't want to put additional stress on my body. I told him it was really hard to transition to my current position and I don't want to transition again so soon. He was really cool about and then asked me if I was doing ok... And just like that, I said yes. Doh! Such a habit to say all is well and fine because it's just easier!
|
|
|
Post by omaklackey on Mar 25, 2012 22:47:04 GMT -5
I really get the "not knowing how to tell the non familial acquaintances", but its the ones I know that care but do they REALLY want to know, because I feel like if I tell them Its going to come bubbling out in a big o'l pile of ugly! I remember this quote from a favorite movie of mine "I'm afraid if I feel about anything, I would have to feel about everything" and I feel that if I tell them anything, I have to tell them everything... so instead I say "FINE". If I'm feeling exceptionally b*tchy I will occasionally blurt out exactly how I feel on some poor unsuspecting individual which isn't very nice for them. Which is why I try to whine here instead. Its just a frustrating thing to deal with and its impossible to explain to people the kind of horrible things we deal with and no one understands. I apparently actually looked sick in Walmart the other day. My husband sent me to the car. When he payed and came out he was like "you didn't look very good, I was getting worried". However that is a rare occurrence. I try hard to dress well, wear the make up and NOT look sick but that can also back fire on you because people don't understand that you are still sick.
|
|
|
Post by JC on Mar 26, 2012 6:05:52 GMT -5
Such a habit to say all is well and fine because it's just easier! I think you totally hit the nail on the head. This is exactly why I say "fine." It is just easier rather than having to explain and then you get the same old questions over and over again because people are either ignorant, don't know what to say, or just feel awkward after. It is just easier to say fine. I really do enjoy my passive aggressive, "oh you know, just floating through my easy life." For the most part, I'll be honest when people ask. I'm kind of an "out there" type personality anyways and I tend to have verbal diarrhea. LOL. I think I got like this because I spend so many hours alone studying that when I finally get in contact with another life form I tend to get manic and start rambling. I wish I could hug all of you girls! What I love about this board is that even though we say "fine" to others who don't understand, we can at least come here and have each other. We definitely understand each other.
|
|
|
Post by JC on Mar 28, 2012 7:05:50 GMT -5
I went to see my doc yesterday and her nurse asked me," so how are you doing today?" I replied with my usual sarcastic, "Oh you know, just floating through my easy life." She smiled and said, "That's good! It's good that you are young and so healthy!"
Sigh... she obviously didn't see my mountain of a medical record.
|
|
|
Post by 1234 on Mar 28, 2012 12:22:02 GMT -5
that is actually one of my least favorite responses. Drs telling me that I'm so young and healthy. But look! I biked to the appointment! Clearly nothing is wrong with me!
Sometimes I'm tempted to go into an explanation of how much riding in a car hurts,and how much easier a bicycle is, and how I've built my bicycle for pain management...but I don't generally do that.
|
|
|
Post by omaklackey on Mar 28, 2012 13:05:55 GMT -5
I just want to bite someones head off when they tell me that!! "At least your young and healthy". I got that from a patient and I was able to smile and leave but... It was bad. I really have to bite my tongue hard because it makes me so angry when someone says that.
|
|
|
Post by Heather on Mar 28, 2012 20:55:56 GMT -5
I get that "at least you have your health" bullsh*t too. What the hell do they consider ill?
|
|