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Post by pamelaj on Aug 18, 2010 14:51:18 GMT -5
Sorry to keep u all hanging....sry for the slang...
Ok, so last Monday, I was diagnosed with stage 2 non-hodgkins lymphoma. Outlook is good. Im having surgery in 4 weeks then will go through 6-8 weeks of radiation.
On a brighter note...
Within the last 2 weeks, I became a full time step mom. Brads 8 year old baby gurl was being physically and mentally abused at her moms and we got custody of her.
My 15.5 yr old son, also got his 17yr old GF pregnant so I am going to be a granny.
Everything in life happens for a reason and honestly, I couldnt be happier at this time.
With everything im going through, i now have 2 more little lives to care for. My strength and love with be put towards more possitive things like the children, and not so negatively on my cancer
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Post by Karen on Aug 18, 2010 17:45:23 GMT -5
Well, thanks for the update! I've heard non-hodgkins lymphoma is often quite treatable (though I'm sure it won't be fun) so good on that front. Interesting that it's that form of cancer as there's a slightly higher incidence of that in women with endo.
Although the circumstances surrounding your two new loved ones may not be the best, I'm so glad you've got a good outlook and two new ones to love and look after!
We're with you every step of the way, kiddo!
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Post by lizzylou on Aug 18, 2010 21:22:07 GMT -5
Sorry about the cancer, GREAT news about the loved ones. Heartbroken to hear about your stepdaughter. I'm sure you don't want to hear advice from me but coming from an abusive childhood, she should do some type of couseling, and also make sure she's loved and good enough. Mental abuse is often worse than physical, and often leads to acting out because you don't know how to act when your getting love because you don't expect it to last.
Best of luck on the hard road ahead.
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Post by cherry on Aug 19, 2010 8:22:23 GMT -5
I'm glad it's non-Hodgkins, I didn't want to be rude in asking if it was one or the other. Your outlook on some of the more shocking news is also great and really inspiring I'm with lizzylou, having only been able to deal with that type of childhood abuse as an adult, and it was so hard, I had my finger jammed on self-destruct and ended up in an unhealthy relationship as a result. It'll be lovely to see how your girl develops once she realises that love isn't a limited and wavering thing, and give her strong boundaries. She'll blossom
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Post by KSA on Aug 19, 2010 10:52:40 GMT -5
Pam so glad to see the update. I am thinking of you and happy that even with all you are dealing with you are focused on the positive point of your life. Good Luck with the surgery honey! Please keep us updated on it.
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Post by pamelaj on Aug 19, 2010 13:33:46 GMT -5
Thanks everyone!!!
Although having my son get his GF pregnant was definately not in the cards, it has helped. For every one step forward, there are always 2 steps back. I will be staying home once baby arrives and caring for it while they both finish school.
As for my step daughter. It took every ounce of strenth I had not to go knock the rest of the teeth out of her mothers mouth. Councelling is already set up and she goes 3x a week right now. We are doing family councelling as well. All Mikaila knows is to act out, she doesnt understand that she IS allowed to eat here, the she WILL get love and affection(the good kind). Time will tell how it plays out.
I know it definately wont be an easy road but its a road that im looking forward to travelling.
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Post by hellsbells on Aug 19, 2010 15:27:53 GMT -5
Great chat on FB last night, you're an inspiration!
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Post by lizzylou on Aug 19, 2010 20:26:23 GMT -5
Great news on the counseling!! I wish I had that option but I can't afford it!
I love what Cherry said. STRONG boundaries. Those are often needed, and I think it's true, kids like boundaries, it makes them feel cared for. Best of luck!
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Post by pamelaj on Sept 2, 2010 18:56:43 GMT -5
Just to update everybody...
I met with my oncologist/hematoligist on Tuesday. The good news is its stage 1...not stage 2. It is 100% operitable. I will have the lump removed mid October then undergo 4 weeks of radiation 2x a week. The doc is very optimistic that he will get it all. When they take the lump out, they will take a small amount of tissue surrounding the lump to make it hasnt spread.
My doc has an amazing bedside manner, full of knowledge and did not once make me think that my questions were dumb.
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Post by omaklackey on Sept 2, 2010 19:10:28 GMT -5
glad to hear from you Pamela, You sound good and positive! Good luck on your surgery!
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Post by Karen on Sept 2, 2010 19:36:50 GMT -5
Thanks for the update! So glad you feel comfy with your doc and have a good plan of attack!
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Post by sunshine78 on Sept 2, 2010 22:55:53 GMT -5
I'm so glad to hear it's operable! And I'm definitely glad you have a doc that's taking good care of you.
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Post by cherry on Sept 3, 2010 3:06:23 GMT -5
This is great news, hope everything else is also going well for you!
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Post by KSA on Sept 3, 2010 7:24:53 GMT -5
Good news Pam! Good Luck keep us updated.
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Post by pretty on Sept 3, 2010 12:59:05 GMT -5
I'm so happy that it looks easy to your doc. You are in my thoughts... big hugs, pretty
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