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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 4, 2009 14:01:01 GMT -5
I went to see my ob/gyn today, and I had to wait for 45 minutes because she was called to deliver a baby. I was in no rush, so it was not a big deal to me. I was one of the first people there this morning when she got called out, so when she came back I was first to go in. I was so impressed with my appointment. She gave me at least 30 - 40 minutes of her time this morning to go over everything I needed to know about my upcoming lap, and answer every question I had. I was just so absolutely impressed that even though she had a waiting room backing up she took her time, and allowed me to ask as much as I wanted, and take as much time as I needed to ask what I did. She was also very thorough in her answers. That is the first time any doctor has ever given me that much time. It was fantastic. Just had to rave about it!!  |
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Post by pamelaj on Dec 4, 2009 14:22:45 GMT -5
Im glad you found a great doctor. That can make or break your experience. Its nice to see that there are still doctors, especially speciallists who will take the time and listen to your questions and im glad you got thorough answers. When is your lap?
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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 4, 2009 15:24:27 GMT -5
Right now its scheduled for February, but we talked today about moving it up if a opening comes available. She gave me a lot to think about today regarding treatment options. I still don't know which route I want to take, but I feel so much more comfortable with everything knowing that my Doctor actually listens and responds to what I am saying.
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Post by JC on Dec 4, 2009 15:29:53 GMT -5
You know, I was going to make a post today with this exact same topic! First I'm super glad that you got a good doctor to listen to you. That is truly awesome!
I had my doc appointment yesterday and my doctor saw right through me. He walked into the room and gave me one look with his big old brown eyes and said, "what's wrong?" AHH I broke down and cried!!! I was like, I'm having a really hard time right now.
Would you believe that this man grabbed my hand and listen to me cry and speak? A MAN! A MAN held my hand and let me cry!!! I can't believe it! A MAN! A DOCTOR MAN too!
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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 4, 2009 15:33:34 GMT -5
Wow! That is really awesome Jenaya. I'm sorry you are having such a rough time. But the fact that your doctor was able to pick up on it and let you actually tell him what's up is amazing. It makes such a huge difference!
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Post by JC on Dec 4, 2009 16:11:24 GMT -5
Oh by the way, my doctor gave me a very interesting theory about endometriosis that I have never heard before. It's not really a direct and definitive reason why endometriosis happens, but I think it's a theory worth listening to because it makes sense.
He said, if you think back in history, I'm talking waaaayyy back; it was normal for women to marry and have children by like age 17. If you made it to your 20s without having children you were considered an old maid. Women are designed to have babies very young, obviously since we are all fertile at a young age. It's not natural for women to be waiting until their late 20s, 30s to have children. Histrically speaking with evolution, women are supposed to reproduce at a young age. He said, "endometriosis is a social disease." We live in a society where having children that young isn't the social norm anymore. If anything, it's generally frowned upon. Since more women are having children later, our bodies are freaking out. Our bodies weren't meant to have monthly fluctuations of hormones like we do. If you think about it, it totally makes sense because when you get pregnant, your cycles and fluctuating hormones stay at an even constant level, then you have the baby and breast feed and your hormones are still stuck at an even and constant level. No ovulation, no hormone peak, no hormone drop to have a period. None of that happens when you're pregnant. Then before you know it, your body has had a 2 year "break" from cyclic hormone fluctuations because when you breastfeed, your body still stays at that even level of hormones. Then your baby reaches like a year or two old and guess what, women are naturally designed to get pregnant again as soon as we return to fertility after breast feeding. Then the cycle continutes and you have another long break from fluctuating hormones. WE ALLLLLL KNOW... these fluctuations in hormones drives us crazy! PMS anyone? lol
To drive this point even further, this is why they push the pregnancy issue on us so much. Our bodies are supposed to get pregnant. We're supposed to have these "breaks" from the stress of hormone fluctuation. It's not natural for us to go this long without being pregnant.
Of course you can say, "well my friend was 17 and her endo didn't go away," or I know people who don't have babies and don't have endo... obviously the list is endless. But it's just like any other disease, some people get it, some people don't.
One last point to make and I hope this doesn't come off wrong, but have any of you ever noticed that this disease affects caucasian women the most? It totally makes sense and it will take a little round-about explanation. Statistics show that women who are educated tend to have less children because of career and wait until later years to start having children. Think in history, minority women didn't have access to education back in the old days. If you can see the connection, caucasian women have been waiting longer to have children long before other ethnic minority groups and it could be indirectly correlated with access to education. I'll be willing to bet that the presentation of other ethic groups having this disease will become more and more now that everyone has the same opportunities to education.
ok so now I'm rambling but this totally makes sense to me. It's hard to hear that it's not natural for us to go long periods of time with out having children. But if you think about it, our monthly cycles are hell. We go through absolute hell every month with these ups and downs. No wonder why our bodies are freaking out! It's not natural! We're supposed to have breaks from this drama!
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Post by sunshine78 on Dec 4, 2009 18:47:31 GMT -5
Wow, that makes a bit more sense. Thanks for sharing the doc's theory. Now, I guess I'll be more patient with the ones that want me to get knocked, up. |
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Post by cherry on Dec 4, 2009 19:08:05 GMT -5
Yay for good appointments! I hope you get to stay under her care post-lap too uncomfy (I don't know why but the word uncomfortable is so long, I call you uncomfy in my head!) That's the kind of doc you need, someone who takes that time with you. Sunshine are you going to let your docs tell you to get stuffed  |
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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 4, 2009 19:23:52 GMT -5
Cherry, Uncomfy sounds much easier to me too, I just might change it  I think I will get to stay with her post lap as well, which makes me comfortable to know she listens! We went over several different options today, and what made me even more conformable is that she isn't pushing anything that I don't want to do. She shares the same view as I do about using narcotics to treat pain, and is allowing me to make my own decisions about my body. It has seriously made my entire day!! |
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Post by cherry on Dec 4, 2009 19:41:52 GMT -5
Bleurgh narcotics suuuck.
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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 4, 2009 20:16:41 GMT -5
yup! exactly why I want to stay away from them. I like that what I actually want to do is being taken into consideration. I always have horrible reactions to drugs, so I want to take as natural a path as possible for now anyway. And after being sick from the last three things we tried, my doctor sees I'm not just saying I don't want it, that I actually don't agree well with it.
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Post by sunshine78 on Dec 4, 2009 20:22:17 GMT -5
HAha, no WAY am I getting stuffed, lol.
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Post by Karen on Dec 4, 2009 23:09:18 GMT -5
Yay for docs that LISTEN and CARE! So glad both of you had such good experiences! Honestly, they can't teach that kind of stuff in medical school. Practicing medicine is one thing, but being a caring human is another.
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Post by sunshine78 on Dec 5, 2009 0:07:36 GMT -5
Here, here. There was a doc I once saw for a completely different issue, but he was just amazing. He listened to everything I had to say, and unfortunately, I think I was only able to interact with him on one more occasion (I think his schedule was filled up because he was the best doc at the office I went to visit). Incidentally, I think the second visit I had with him was right after a burst cyst, and he was amazing.
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Post by osb on Dec 5, 2009 11:34:11 GMT -5
I always seem to have issues with my docs - but maybe because I know them from work?
My gyne always slightly gave me the creeps; but then I think I gave him the creeps because he'd be doing an endovaginal ultrasound on me one day, then talking professionally with me about a baby resuscitation the next - poor man didn't know where to look! I put him out of his misery and stopped showing up to his clinic eventually.
Oddest incident was when I had my 2nd lap - the anaesthetist was a fellow I knew from work - several years back, he and I had collectively managed the worst airway disaster in local anaesthesia history, the sort of thing that residents whisper about (er, don't worry, the patient did ok)..... and this was the first time he'd seen me since. He walked in, saw me on the guerney, and his eyes widened in panic; I thought he was going to run out of the room! He calmed down and took care of me brilliantly, though. Poor guy.
I still have to find me a new doc. Am getting inertia on this..... maybe because I'm being avoidant.
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