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Post by uncomfortable on Nov 25, 2009 10:19:46 GMT -5
I'm wondering what you guys would do if you were faced with the challenge of deciding to take a work opportunity over getting a procedure done. I am scheduled for my first lap, and its one I've been waiting to have done for a few years, and something I really want to get done. But I am also faced with the potential chance to have an opportunity of a life time job. Its only a temporary job, and I could just postpone the Lap until it is over, but I have been in increasing amounts of pain lately, and I am not quite sure what to do. There is no guarantee I will get the job, but its still something I am wondering about.
How do you choose life time opportunities over health? And is it worth it in the long run to choose a job over health?
Any insight would be fantastic!
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Post by JC on Nov 25, 2009 10:30:08 GMT -5
This is a tough one. There's a few ways I would look at it. First, your health will follow you for your entire life, your job wont. Your health will keep you going, your job may not always be there.
But, I do understand the opportunity of a job if it should come along so I think it all boils down to what you can tolerate as far as the pain, although knowing what you're dealing with is also important too.
If it were me? I would probably take a job only because I know my tendancy to neglect my body when I need to take care of it.
How long would you have to put off the surgery? Could you tolerate it? How amazing is this job opportunity? What will it do for you in the long run?
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Post by uncomfortable on Nov 25, 2009 11:10:03 GMT -5
The job could potentially set me up career wise for quite some time. It would be an amazing introductory to the industry worldwide. the job itself would last roughly 3 months, but the opportunity would be unreal. I have been pushing aside my health in favour of school and training for the past 4 years, and I really want to take any break I can to set myself up for working full time, but I have concerns that pushing my health aside for too long could cause things to get worse. Also pain management is an issue, as recently I have been having very unpredictable periods and the pain has been increasing over the last 2 years.
I have applied to the job anyway, but I am still not 100% on what I will do if I end up with any chance of an offer
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Post by Susanne on Nov 25, 2009 11:31:02 GMT -5
Very difficult dilemma... Sounds like you have been investing in yourself for quite some time already to built toward this opportunity and that it would fit into your plans completely. Also sounds like your pain is shouting at you and you are concerned that you will not be able to function as you want to (expect of yourself) due to the unpredictable pain.
Like Jenaya I also have the habit of not listening to my body when I should. And I'm pretty ambitious. I have chosen work over health many times. Until I couldn't anymore. Do I regret it? No. It was the only way for me to learn. I'm better at it now actually (I'm 33, there is hope :-))
Oh, it's so hard! My mind is saying: there will be other opportunities - go for you health first. But my gut is shouting: go for the job!
Anyway, would this work?: under which conditions would you be able to go for the job and your health? Can you find a realistic compromise? So, choosing the job and also choosing your health. Not by doing the surgery yet but for example by making the agreement with yourself to
1) schedule the surgery immediately after the 3 months and stick to that - no more delays after this! After your 3 month job you will be unavailable for a couple of weeks but after that you are available again
2) start an alternative therapy in the mean time to manage pain like acupuncture, energy healing, massage, homeopathy, whatever (not sure if you are into this)
3) buy in on aleve or another good pain killer
4) get enough sleep every day
5) pamper yourself on the weekends
Good luck with your decision!!!
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Post by uncomfortable on Nov 25, 2009 11:47:23 GMT -5
thanks for the input....
There is still a very slim chance of being contacted for an interview, but I applied anyway. But no matter what job I go on to apply to I think it will always still weigh on my mind as to whether or not I am doing the right thing by choosing work over health. I too tend to push forward and always choose work or school over health. I have worked very hard to get to the point I am at now, and I have a really hard time imagining myself giving all that work up for the sake of my health. But I also value my body and health too much to neglect it. I think if I get an opportunity to do this job I would probably take it, and try to re-schedule the lap after the 3 months are up. But if I don't get it, I will go ahead with the lap as scheduled. Part of the reason I scheduled it when I did was because I wanted to get health out of the way to make way for my future career.
Well at least stuff like this keeps me on my toes. As for pain management, I am willing to give anything a shot! I can no longer take NSAIDs though, and other pain killers either react very badly with me, or are not strong enough - go figure. Right now I am trying to get ample amounts of sleep, and eat more consistently.
I really appreciate the responses!
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Post by hellsbells on Nov 25, 2009 14:39:23 GMT -5
Very tough one, I'm like you girls where although I've listened to my body I've kind of ignored it to make sure I come across as the 'career woman' etc etc. I'm at the point now though where my health has to come first because to be honest, if I don't get it sorted, my career won't go where I want it to because I can't put in the effort at work that I want to. If you can get through the three months, do it - but as Susanne says - get it scheduled for immediately after and get it done!
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