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Post by pamelaj on Oct 13, 2009 7:03:11 GMT -5
Ok...i just need to vent this big time. I must say that I have the most incensitive dumb ass husband around and this is why..... I, for some reason, have been pain free for the last 5 days and have been trying to live this "normal" life to its fullest..eg..pain free sex. My husband, as much as I love him, has only fulfilled my request once!!! Thats right, only once. We had no children this weekend and spent the most of it just being lazy, not my choice. Would one not think that with him being denied so much due to the pain i have, he would of jumped on every opportunity litterally...lol. I feel like screaming at him and him and jumping down his throat saying "hello...here i am, pain free and horny". I've asked him like 10 times in the last 5 days to have sex and his response.."i'm not horny". Im like "give your head a shake", it doesnt happen very often that your wife wants to have sex, let alone pain free and with no kids around. Im still mad at him this morning and dont quite understand his reasoning for turning me down so much but seeing as im still pain free today, i guess i'll have to try again later. P.S. Im almost thinking that endo has turned him off of me?  |
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Post by JC on Oct 13, 2009 10:36:23 GMT -5
I don't even want to get started on husband rants....
Just know that I totally understand what this feels like. If I could give you any advice, please don't start thinking that there's something wrong with you. That's what I did in this situation and I spent endless hours trying to be perfect only to be disappointed again and again and again.
I'm happy to say though that we don't have this problem anymore.
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Post by omaklackey on Oct 13, 2009 11:02:24 GMT -5
you gotta admit us being broken all the time must play havoc on their system too... I'm a horny critter myself and I'm married to someone who isn't. Most of my girl friends have the opposite problem and I keep telling tony how lucky he is. My one friend hasn't let her hubby have sex in three months. I keep wondering when her hubby is going to find someone else to take care of it... She has PCOS and spends a lot of time cranky and in pain herself. Its just a messed up disease and I think of how many people who get some kind of chronic illness and end up divorced. I think we need to figure out how to get our hubby involved in the healing process. I just can't think of how? Any ideas ladies... Maybe instead of snarkin' on our hubbies we can see if we can't figure out how to help each other.
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Post by JC on Oct 13, 2009 14:20:22 GMT -5
I've tried and tried to get my husband to give two sh*ts about possibly researching what I go through. I really enjoy how he can find time to google useless sh*t like big tits and drunk passed out college chicks. That makes me feel real f*cking important.
I give up. I can't make my husband care so I just deal with it on my own.
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Post by chloelouise on Oct 13, 2009 15:43:03 GMT -5
How frustrating!! Omalackey-My hub use to give me a loooong massage before the deed that way I was good and relaxed which I always found helped the cramps be less severe afterwards!!  |
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Post by ouchy on Oct 13, 2009 16:08:05 GMT -5
Omalackey-My hub use to give me a loooong massage before the deed that way I was good and relaxed which I always found helped the cramps be less severe afterwards!! OOOOOOOOOOH! You lucky girl!!!! I tried to get mine to do that. He said he doesn't like giving massages! Bah! |
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Post by JC on Oct 13, 2009 16:58:20 GMT -5
My husband will give me a massage when I ask for it but he's so rough and painful that I'm usually begging him to stop. I think he does it on purpose so I don't ask him for more massages.
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Post by JC on Oct 13, 2009 16:59:19 GMT -5
sorry, I'm having a really bad day. I should refrain from posting until next week.  |
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Post by KSA on Oct 13, 2009 17:30:44 GMT -5
My husband does my massage so bad I do not ask for one I just go pay for one now. LOL and yes Jenaya they do it on purpose so we won't ask!
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Post by sunshine78 on Oct 13, 2009 23:26:19 GMT -5
I'm lucky I've never had the painful sex problem. I'm also lucky that my boyfriends have understood what I go through, too. Except for the one that got pissed at me for another issue - migraines. He was a c*cksucker.
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Post by pamelaj on Oct 14, 2009 7:13:49 GMT -5
Mine finally gave in!!! He said that he is so used to me being in pain that he was afraid i would start to hurt again...guess what...i did. So im going to join jenya on the period rants...blah
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Post by chloelouise on Oct 16, 2009 16:30:24 GMT -5
Omalackey-My hub use to give me a loooong massage before the deed that way I was good and relaxed which I always found helped the cramps be less severe afterwards!! OOOOOOOOOOH! You lucky girl!!!! I tried to get mine to do that. He said he doesn't like giving massages! Bah! Then I would say well sorry my dear I dont liek being left in pain after we have sex so I guess we both lose. LOL LOL Sunshine I once said on here that I was lucky that I didnt have the painful sex and within a month it started!!! eeeek! (about 3 years ago) |
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Post by JC on Oct 16, 2009 17:39:37 GMT -5
Painful sex is what indicated to me there was a "real" problem. I had just been dealing with it for a very long time being told by nurse practioners that it was nothing. I really think my husband thought I was making it up to get out of sex. But when I finally got a good doctor to freakin listen to me, he automatically suspected endo and suggested a lap. I think painful sex is such a freakin insult. It sucks so bad and it can really negatively affect marriages. I'm sorry pamela that it hurt again. That sucks so bad especially since you had your hopes up that it would be enjoyable. |
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