Post by KSA on Aug 9, 2009 7:27:48 GMT -5
I have a friend who has just had her first miscarriage. She is staying with me do the fact that her and her husband are going through a divorce right now. She has been dating one of my husband best friends thru her divorce process and the two of them were not doing anything to prevent having a child. Last week she told me she was pregnant and very upset and not sure what to do. I told her you are going to have a baby and congratulated her and the new father. However in the state of Ohio you can not get divorced when you are pregnant so it started out a not so good situation. My husband is her attorney and told her to keep it a secret until the hearings were over and in the last hearing they would disclose it. She and the father told everyone including my nine year old son. I was very upset but also new how it felt to be pregnant and you want to tell everyone because you are so happy! Well about 4 days after they found out she went in to the doctor. My OBGYN got her in very quick. I went with her to the appointment and as we were leaving she started to bleed this was thursday of this past week. As soon as we went back into the Dr's office they gave her a internal ultra sound and started proestrogen shots for her. The next day things got worse her levels were down and she was miscarrying. She went into the ER and they ran fluids and told her that her body will let go naturally. They informed her that she was about 4 weeks and 5 days.
I have been with her thru most of this as has the father and my entire family. It is a sad situation and the Dr. said to her everything happens for a reason and explained to her what happens in a early pregnancy like this and that most women have no idea they are even carrying they feel they are late and it is a heavier period. I shared my experiences with her I have been pregnant 3 times and have a wonderful son out of my experiences. However my other two I was much farther along and had a late loss and needed a dandc with one. My other was about 8 weeks a early one and my body did it natural. I am trying very hard to be there for her. At one point she was leaving to go get blood work and I was making a sandwhich for my son and I asked if Derrick (the father) was meeting her there and she said "No I am doing this all on my own" I was very hurt. I had been with her at the hospital and the Dr office the day before. I got her into my doc ASAP. I sat and listened to all the drama. Cooked her dinner the night she started to bleed. I am not in the best shape I just got out of the hospital last Sunday for a allergic reaction to my iron infusion and have a hemoglobin level of 9. As well as all my other medical issues. No energy but I still want to help her!
Yesterday was my breaking point she said to me that she felt herself "Passing her baby" and that tons of tissue came out. It was so graphic that it took be back to a very sad time in my life a time that I do not even speak of because of the pain I felt. I told my husband last night I can not deal with it anymore. She keeps saying she is hemorrhaging and that she is in terrible pain. I told her to relax keep water flowing every hour, take a vitamin each day and a mortrin. She looks great hair is done, make up on, dressed cute. When I have a period I can't even get in the shower to get ready for the day! My feelings are hurt by her I know what she is going thru is not easy. Losing a baby is hard no matter when it happens. I just am wondering how much I can hear before I flip out! I am going to have to say to her I can not hear anymore of the graphic stuff. It is just to hard. My situation was almost 12 years ago and I never talk of it I have moved on, I can not move backwards because she is dealing with this now. Am I a complete bitch for being upset? And not wanting to hear anymore about it? I feel horrible like a bad friend!
I have been with her thru most of this as has the father and my entire family. It is a sad situation and the Dr. said to her everything happens for a reason and explained to her what happens in a early pregnancy like this and that most women have no idea they are even carrying they feel they are late and it is a heavier period. I shared my experiences with her I have been pregnant 3 times and have a wonderful son out of my experiences. However my other two I was much farther along and had a late loss and needed a dandc with one. My other was about 8 weeks a early one and my body did it natural. I am trying very hard to be there for her. At one point she was leaving to go get blood work and I was making a sandwhich for my son and I asked if Derrick (the father) was meeting her there and she said "No I am doing this all on my own" I was very hurt. I had been with her at the hospital and the Dr office the day before. I got her into my doc ASAP. I sat and listened to all the drama. Cooked her dinner the night she started to bleed. I am not in the best shape I just got out of the hospital last Sunday for a allergic reaction to my iron infusion and have a hemoglobin level of 9. As well as all my other medical issues. No energy but I still want to help her!
Yesterday was my breaking point she said to me that she felt herself "Passing her baby" and that tons of tissue came out. It was so graphic that it took be back to a very sad time in my life a time that I do not even speak of because of the pain I felt. I told my husband last night I can not deal with it anymore. She keeps saying she is hemorrhaging and that she is in terrible pain. I told her to relax keep water flowing every hour, take a vitamin each day and a mortrin. She looks great hair is done, make up on, dressed cute. When I have a period I can't even get in the shower to get ready for the day! My feelings are hurt by her I know what she is going thru is not easy. Losing a baby is hard no matter when it happens. I just am wondering how much I can hear before I flip out! I am going to have to say to her I can not hear anymore of the graphic stuff. It is just to hard. My situation was almost 12 years ago and I never talk of it I have moved on, I can not move backwards because she is dealing with this now. Am I a complete bitch for being upset? And not wanting to hear anymore about it? I feel horrible like a bad friend!