Post by MustangGtGirl on May 10, 2012 15:51:04 GMT -5
Neina,
I come from an old fashioned Irish Italian family. My whole life was controlled. I was about 21 when I started standing up for myself and I won't lie it did not go over well at first.
Sometimes our parents forget we are not children anymore. I know it's easier for you to write this in an email but it may cause some hard feelings as well. This is a real personal subject you are talking to your mom about, something that is obviously hard for you to talk about. What you may consider doing instead is printing the email and taking it to your mom instead and let her read it in front of you. It will open the door for you to discuss it. If you email it to your mom it may make it uncomfortable for you the next time you do see her. Explain that you wrote the letter bc it is hard for you to talk about the subject. Your mom may understand a little but more than you think she will. Once it is out in the open you will be surprised how much better you will feel. This is obviously a big weight for you. Also once you discuss this with your mom it will make it easier if you decide to tell someone else.
I found out when I was I think 22 that I could not have children and it's extremely hard to tell loved ones especially one that you think will have something to say. In my case I had family members say o come on you never know. I have learned to stand my ground over the last couple of years and my family has grown to accept it as will yours. it may take some time but they do get used to the fact that you are grown.
Having Endo is not something you should be embarrassed about either. There are so many different kinds of illnesses that people have. If everyone was embarraced this would be a sad world. Always be yourself no matter what. I have found out it's easier to just tell people it's easier than beating around the bush.
A saying I keep in my mind is the strong survive.
I hope you don't mind my input and I wish you Luck, be strong
I come from an old fashioned Irish Italian family. My whole life was controlled. I was about 21 when I started standing up for myself and I won't lie it did not go over well at first.
Sometimes our parents forget we are not children anymore. I know it's easier for you to write this in an email but it may cause some hard feelings as well. This is a real personal subject you are talking to your mom about, something that is obviously hard for you to talk about. What you may consider doing instead is printing the email and taking it to your mom instead and let her read it in front of you. It will open the door for you to discuss it. If you email it to your mom it may make it uncomfortable for you the next time you do see her. Explain that you wrote the letter bc it is hard for you to talk about the subject. Your mom may understand a little but more than you think she will. Once it is out in the open you will be surprised how much better you will feel. This is obviously a big weight for you. Also once you discuss this with your mom it will make it easier if you decide to tell someone else.
I found out when I was I think 22 that I could not have children and it's extremely hard to tell loved ones especially one that you think will have something to say. In my case I had family members say o come on you never know. I have learned to stand my ground over the last couple of years and my family has grown to accept it as will yours. it may take some time but they do get used to the fact that you are grown.
Having Endo is not something you should be embarrassed about either. There are so many different kinds of illnesses that people have. If everyone was embarraced this would be a sad world. Always be yourself no matter what. I have found out it's easier to just tell people it's easier than beating around the bush.
A saying I keep in my mind is the strong survive.
I hope you don't mind my input and I wish you Luck, be strong