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Post by anxious on Jan 5, 2009 19:34:36 GMT -5
I am a 36 year old African-American female. I just learned of your site. I have read some of the prior posts, but nothing seems to address any of my specific concerns. Hopefully you can help.
1. What should I expect? I had one lap about 3 years ago and I have another scheduled for the end of this month. Will the doctor recommend another lap or will I move on to IUI?
2. Am I old enough to go straight to IVF or will I have to try IUI first? I guess I am anxious because of my age and no children.
3. Is wavering emotions normal? I have always dreamed of children, but lately I find myself resigning to the fact children may not be in my future. I think a lot of this has to do with the fact that I feel so alone. I have a cousin who is experiencing fertility problems, but she does not talk about it much and I do not want to intrude, none of my friends have had problems conceiving thus far, and my husband--I love him--but he just does not understand. My husband says he wants kids, but he thinks I am obsessing over the whole thing; so I do not feel comfortable talking to him.
Any advice on any of the issue above would be greatly appreciated.
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Post by ouchy on Jan 5, 2009 21:03:48 GMT -5
Hi and welcome.
Read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." It's amazing!
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Post by joannel0106 on Jan 8, 2009 16:54:52 GMT -5
Hi I am also 35 and have gone through most of what you are mentioning. I have had 4 operations so far, I did IVF and IUI. But unfortunately no success.Here are some of my thoughts. 1. If you had your last lap 3 years ago then it might be a good idea to have another one done. I find when you have a Lap done it gives a better perspective on your situation and what can or cannot be done regarding infertility and endo. 2. I would probably wait to see after you have the Lap what the results are. Your Dr. should be able to give you some guidance on whether you can or cannot conceive. I tried IUI first and then did IVF. In my opinion I would go direct to IVF. Just be prepared to go through an emotional roller coaster. I found it hard. 3. I have been trying for over 8 years to get pregnant. So I know how you feel. But to be honest I am not giving up. Also it is ok to talk about it. It will make you feel better rather than to hold it all in. Your husband should not put pressure on you. It does not help you to relax. Try and focus on other things and your upcoming Lap. One step at a time. If it is meant to be it will happen. Do not give up. I have heard about many success stories after years of trying. Hang in there and keep us posted on your Lap.
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Post by ouchy on Jan 8, 2009 17:30:51 GMT -5
^Have you read that book?
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Post by anxious on Feb 5, 2009 23:10:03 GMT -5
Sorry so long since posting, but things have been crazy at work. The surgery went fine. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow to disucss the next step. I guess I just do not know what to think or how to feel. I here of people who have had a lap and got pregnant within one month and then I hear some people are still trying after years. I know there is no one answer. It is just frustrating playing the waiting game. I do feel encouraged by joannel0106's post. I will try to update you tomorrow after the doctor's visit.
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Post by ouchy on Feb 6, 2009 0:11:53 GMT -5
It's mostly about timing. Read the book.
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Post by anxious on Feb 10, 2009 23:03:07 GMT -5
Went to the doctor last week. He wants to start us on injectibles. Has anyone taken Bravelle before? After surgery my doctor said we would try 6 months before trying IVF. At the visit the odds dropped to 3 months and if no success then IVF. I take all this to mean my endometriosis was more sever than he initally thought. Everything is "good"--my tubes are open (one was swollen), and most of the endo was removed. So I do not know what changed from when the dr talked to my family after surgery and the two week visit. Am I over thinking this?
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Post by ouchy on Feb 10, 2009 23:36:27 GMT -5
I take this to mean that your doctor wants to make a buck and not that your endo is more severe than previously thought. If your tubes are open...you should be good to go. I think you are definitely over-thinking this, probably by being fleeced by a fertility doc. Several of the women on here who have severe endo were told that they'd never conceive without IVF...and of those women, most of them have conceived! Denna, chloe, scarlett, just to name a few.
It's about timing. SERIOUSLY, read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility," give it a few months after giving a shot at what you've learned, and then debate it.
Also, injectibles are usually after giving things like Clomid a try. And then, Clomid is given when you aren't ovulating. You shoudl really chart to make sure you are ovulating on your own...if there is no egg, there for sure will be no baby!
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Post by ouchy on Feb 10, 2009 23:48:16 GMT -5
Sorry. This is really weighing on me. I wish they'd force fertility doctors to teach their patients their fertility signs instead of shoving IVF on everyone, convincing them that they will need it or never get pregnant. Do you know your fertility signs? Do you know how to read your cervical mucus/fluid, which is the number 1 BEST predictor of fertility? ? Without fertile mucus, the sperm die. You can have sex tons, but if you miss a fertile mucus day, you're out for that month. This just makes me want to slap doctors like the one you saw!
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Post by denna on Apr 12, 2009 20:17:33 GMT -5
agree with ouchy..it's your body and you are the one who should make the decision.read the book- get it from ebay or amazon.com and know about your body and fertility sign etc ect and find a good doctor who can really advise you. if IUI or IVF is very very cheap in your country then you can try- no harm trying but if it cost a bomb, then go for other alternative first. I did IUI 4 times and conceived naturally after it. so there is a chance..and i'm trying for my 2nd one one..
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