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Post by ccincurak on Nov 14, 2009 2:37:40 GMT -5
how about this for stupid & hurtful...my sister told me today on the phone during a VALID argument..."wow that shot has kicked in, hasn't it" (in a sarcastic tone)...I just said wow, thanks and hung up. Just had the Lupron shot last week. Stupid & rude in my opinion. Talk about kicking a girl when she's already down. Gotta admit that bummed me out today  |
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Post by cherry on Nov 14, 2009 7:17:43 GMT -5
You should tell your sister, from an experienced source that the shots don't start doing their good work for a good 2-3 months (that's typically when your body settles into it's menopause and you feel the good effects of the endo quieting down) and in the first month you actually tend to feel worse because your body reacts initially by producing more oestrogen.
Really for the first week, your body is like 'wtf is this?!'
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Post by ccincurak on Nov 14, 2009 10:26:48 GMT -5
Thanks Cherry. I know it hasn't "kicked in" yet to cause my reaction to her. Instead of seeing that she's being hurtful, she thinks I'm too "sensitive". It's sad how going through something like this, really lets you know who REALLY cares about you and the other people who just claim to.
And yes...my body is definitely doing a "WTF is this?!?!" at this stage lol
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Post by JC on Nov 14, 2009 15:03:51 GMT -5
I went to my dentist this year and she asked if there was any change in my medical history and I said yes, I had surgery for endometriosis. She looked at me and said, "You had problems from THAT?"
Um, unless I'm walking out of the operating room with big circus titties I would not be having surgery for fun you stupid b*tch.
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Post by hellsbells on Nov 14, 2009 16:46:01 GMT -5
My mum recently suggested that my 'problems' and 'symptoms' could be down to the fact that at 34 I haven't been pregnant yet........34, single with no man in sight but do want kids.......kinda hurt a bit. I love my mum, she's amazing, but sometimes...........you know...
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Post by JC on Nov 14, 2009 17:07:52 GMT -5
^^^ ouch, yeah that one stings a little.
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Post by osb on Nov 14, 2009 18:19:09 GMT -5
My former family doc (a great gun if her patient's having a heart attack or something 'serious', but kind of off the mark on other things....) told me there was nothing she could do about my endo, but I'd be one of the few women who got to look forward to menopause! This was shortly after suggesting sweetly that I could "rub a topical analgesic on your tummy if it hurts too much". Tummy..... Yup, takes ten years at med school to evolve the technical term tummy. Aagh.
Then on the other hand, one of my colleagues bumped into me at a research conference when I was having a full blast of endo, pale and sweating and having difficulty standing up. He kindly steered me toward a chair (thinking I was having a heart attack?), and asked what was wrong... When I confessed I had endo, his face changed, and he giggled, "I always tell my wife it's rough being a girl, eh?". Then he wandered off. I was bereft of words; and too exhausted to chase him and beat him into a pulp.
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Post by cherry on Nov 15, 2009 9:51:28 GMT -5
My boyfriend only takes my endo seriously when I'm vomiting with the pain or otherwise visibly shaken and unable to walk. Being quiet and not wanting to go out doesn't register, but if I go white, or clammy or get dark smudges under my eyes, then he decides to take notice. Mind you this only happened for a short period pre and post surgery.
Otherwise, if I'm reserved because I can't be bothered with social graces (being up and normal when in pain takes all your concentration sometimes) or cos I'm afraid I'll bite sombodies head off, he snaps 'what's wrong?' repeatedly til he starts swearing and raising his voice. He takes personal offence because I'm in pain. It annoys him that I'm slow, or not talkative, or don't want to go out. I swear he tries so hard to forget that anything is wrong, I wish I could do the same.
Some of his darker moments don't bear repeating.
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Post by sunshine78 on Nov 17, 2009 1:07:51 GMT -5
I went to my dentist this year and she asked if there was any change in my medical history and I said yes, I had surgery for endometriosis. She looked at me and said, "You had problems from THAT?" Um, unless I'm walking out of the operating room with big circus titties I would not be having surgery for fun you stupid b*tch. LMFAO! Greatest stupidity retort EVAR. |
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 18, 2010 16:49:28 GMT -5
Been out for dinner with my mum tonight and I wanted to tell her more about the disease and what I'm faced with and what theories I have. Before she shut up and listened she kinda said she didn't want to hear about it all the time. Not quite sure how to deal with that. I guess she's worried for me and frustrated she can't do anything but I soooo need to talk to people in my life about this!!!
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Post by cherry on Jan 18, 2010 17:07:23 GMT -5
I had that from my mum just after I was diagnosed, cos she also had/has endo and I was asking her questions. It was very nasty of her. Helen I can guess that it must have hurt a little.
I've given up saying too much now. Because people don't see anything outwardly, they treat you as though you're 'going on' if you bring it up because you've heard something or are experiencing something new. Sometimes I wish I could roll my eyes when friends start waffling about their on again off again relationships, you know, cos they are situations that are temporary and they have complete control over what happens. But you know what, I wouldn't EVER be so rude and hurtful, so why do people think it's ok to be like that with us?
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 19, 2010 14:32:48 GMT -5
Yeah, my mum and some friends have had things go on their life that they've banged on and on about, but I never say 'Hey I don't wanna hear about this anymore' - even though I don't want to because I can't do anything to help. I was at her house tonight to help fix her heating (which I did!) and before i left I mentioned it to her, and I think she realised it had upset me, and she said she understands and she's always there if I need her, which I knew anyway but it was nice to hear!
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Post by cherry on Jan 19, 2010 15:18:06 GMT -5
Aww I'm glad she's addressed it, that's so nice to hear. If only other people could realise that too and just be a bit better with listening cos sometimes all you want to do is pour your heart out and know that someone cares, even if they can't do anything.
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 19, 2010 15:27:08 GMT -5
Yeah, this is all still so new to me and I feel quite passionate about finding out as much information as I can, and I need several sounding boards! Got some great mates too though, and you lot thank God!!
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Post by KSA on Jan 20, 2010 0:46:40 GMT -5
My mother in law said a dumb thing in a recent conversation. WOW shocker. She said I can't believe this is not all over and your not better you had the hysterectomy shouldnt you feel better by now. Ok first off she had a hysterectomy too for bleeding and cysts not Endometriosis and she thinks because hers was fine that mine should be fine. I have it on my bowels and bladder. DUMB A** should I remove those so I feel better. Next time she says something dumb I am going to say that to her I swear I am so sick of dumb people. Get a freaking clue people we hurt we have a un treatable disease look it up or better yet have compassion for your family and friend that suffer from it and trust us we HURT and would like some support! Sorry had to vent....I would never say that to her but I wan't to instead I give her the silent treatment and only speak to her a handful of times each year:) LOL
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