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Post by shona on May 17, 2007 18:15:47 GMT -5
well ive used handcuffs and a vibrator,still have one..anyone else?
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 18:17:13 GMT -5
Wot the fluffy pink ones ..is there a difference b/w a vibrator and the real thing ? i've never used it..just curious...plz no one think i'm being perverted
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Post by cherry on May 17, 2007 18:20:02 GMT -5
I don't believe all that bunkum about it being better than the real thing. What can be better than a loving partner who knows exactly what buttons to push! They are ok, I'm not a massive fan. It's all down to individual taste, so gemini you may have to take the plunge... maybe hint and have one bought for you haha xx
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Post by shona on May 17, 2007 18:21:15 GMT -5
fluffy red ones,yes there is a difference.the real thing is better,the sensation and the fact you dont hav control..unless someone else is using vibrator.
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 18:50:18 GMT -5
I don't believe all that bunkum about it being better than the real thing. What can be better than a loving partner who knows exactly what buttons to push! They are ok, I'm not a massive fan. It's all down to individual taste, so gemini you may have to take the plunge... maybe hint and have one bought for you haha xx Oh God now way...i'm scared of the real thing..and using one of those will be like torturing myself ...I dun think my husband will be to happy with me using a vibrator...he'll think he's failed as a lover/husband!
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 18:51:32 GMT -5
fluffy red ones,yes there is a difference.the real thing is better,the sensation and the fact you dont hav control..unless someone else is using vibrator. LOL...Shona looks like u had a great time..i'd love 2 use the handcuffs ..tie him up and keep him there for a day or two.. aaaaa RELAXATION ;D
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Post by ouchy on May 17, 2007 18:51:52 GMT -5
Gemini, get a tiny glass dilator, use it yourself, then once you're comfortable that it's not hurting, let him use it on you to get you loosened up so he can fit himself inside. Even when sex hurt the worst, this little technique still worked for me. Even without lidocaine.
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 18:53:31 GMT -5
He fits in really well..it's all the pain that comes with it..and half of it due to me not being relaxed ..i know there will be pain and a shooting one at that. I get no joy
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Post by ouchy on May 17, 2007 18:57:46 GMT -5
No. That's what I'm trying to say. It's like a gentle massage with the glass tiny one I have. It loosens your muscles, and the glass warms to your body temperature. It's very relaxing. My husband pretty much couldn't even penetrate me bc my muscles were all tightened up, from not being able to relax probably due to the anticipation of pain. After my muscles were relaxed, there was hardly any pain.
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 19:02:01 GMT -5
My husband does not have much problem in penetrating ..it does take a lil while though..the problem is once it's inside and then the pain starts shooting to my ovaries and my back. That kills of all the passion and he has to stop ..i become more tense and it's torture. Maybe a massage is wot i need. I have never had any enjoyment from my wedding night until now. ( i was a virgin on my wedding night so it was bound to hurt)
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Post by ouchy on May 17, 2007 19:04:49 GMT -5
Okay. Might be worth a try for your pain, though. I had a lot less pain inside after trying it. They're pretty cheap. You may find a little pleasure. My husband is also the only one I've been with. I really didn't expect sex to hurt!
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Post by gemini on May 17, 2007 19:07:52 GMT -5
It's 1.07am here at the moment and my husband is on his PC trying to download a software ..he's got his back to me..i'm on my laptop ;D ...lil does he know that i am smirking at the advice ur giving me.. TIME for me to go upstairs..
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Post by ouchy on May 17, 2007 19:11:45 GMT -5
LOL. Goodnight.
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Post by chloelouise on May 18, 2007 3:17:47 GMT -5
Ouchy is def right, you'd be suprised how many women I meet that find sex painful that dont have endo. If you're very tensed anticipating pain it's a good idea to get huby to give you a full body massage to relax you and then when things are heating up try using a lube. There are so many on the market you'd be amazed!!! There's no shame in using lube anymore. I think buying a small dildo or vibe is a great idea, actually try to find one that is smaller then your hubby's erm cough cough down there bit. It takes a women 20 minute to actually get turned on enough to have sex comfortably without added lubrication so dont forget lots of foreplay!!! Ouchy LOL so full of great advice... are you going to be my next consultant???
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Post by gemini on May 18, 2007 8:58:06 GMT -5
Looks like i am going to have wear a burkha and walk into a sex shop ...LOL ! If it helps then why not..maybe with more sex..i'll stand a better chance of concieving..! and i'm all for it
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