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Post by ouchy on Apr 25, 2007 23:34:21 GMT -5
Okay. I'm debating quitting my job. I hate being all cooped up in an office with artificial light, no ventilation, and no windows! It makes me SO claustrophobic and depressed! To top it off, I can't even go for breaks when I need to! I'm supposed to be entitled to one in the morning and one in the afternoon. Since it is such a small office, I can't go if there is no one to cover my spot. That's hard to do with nausea from being pregnant. If your husband said he was indifferent as to whether or not you wanted to stay home during your pregnancy and just be relaxed...instead of working, would you?
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Post by cherry on Apr 26, 2007 5:14:06 GMT -5
I think, if I am hopefully a bloomer rather than a wilter and don't get morning sickness too bad, I would rather keep working but not in that environment you described. for me it'll be hard to keep working as I will be based on a construction site. Maybe you should try a part time job in something you always wanted to do, perfect opportunity, cos you make a little money, gain some experience in something new, and aren't working full time hours. I just think after a while you'd be feeling stir crazy and spending time alone with crazy hormones is not fun! maybe take a little holiday off, and if you feel you could do that til bub comes, hand in your resignation xx
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Post by irishmuse on Apr 26, 2007 7:54:42 GMT -5
I'm not pregnant, but I'm off on sick leave until July, and will apply for an extension while I wait for approval for CPP Disability Benefits and/or ODSP. I cannot stand all day, and am hoping to get retrained for a job where I can sit.
My man doesn't mind if I'm at home, as long as I have some sort of income....LOL.
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Post by ouchy on Apr 26, 2007 8:55:03 GMT -5
Yah. We're struggling with the issue. Although my husband doesn't really care, it is nice to have a little extra income. My thought is that I KNOW what it is like to stay at home. I have done it several times for extended periods of time. I LOVE how relaxing it is, and having time to clean the house is a big bonus! My husband thinks I'll go stir-crazy...but I NEVER did before! Staying home is very therapeutic for me. Plus, I need to point out to him that he'll get his clothes ironed again, rather than just taking them out of the dryer when they're still hot. My boss will freak out if I put in my resignation. She has already tried to make me feel extremely bad for being pregnant in the first place. At first she was cool with it...until I started missing a bit of work. It's not my fault that she doesn't have anyone to cover my job when I'm gone! ...or anyone else's for that matter! That's what happens in a small company! And it's not like I take off for any old resason. I came to work right after I had a dental implant--still bleeding and 18mm drilled into my jaw bone! I've also come to work with headaches and ice packs on my head. So, if I can come to work if at all possible, I do. I think it is illegal, actually, for her to "discriminate" against me for being pregnant. LOL. That's my rant for today. Thanks, girls.
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Post by camille on Apr 26, 2007 9:35:21 GMT -5
If I didn't like my job and didn't depend on it for money, I would absolutely stay home. For as long as posssible!!!
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Post by denna on Apr 26, 2007 10:54:47 GMT -5
;D i've been wanting to quit the 1st year i'm in my job.. i did so many part time job hoping it will replace my income and i can quit my job..now 8 years after,i'm still there.i'm used to it and i didn't bother too much of changing the system- like the saying goes, if you can't change them, follow them,that what i do..i do what i can do and i never bring home my work as i used to...used to struggle but now i'm fine. another reason fo rme to quit is i just hate having somebody espeacially maid looking after my kids and i want to be with them,see them grom up- since i still do not have one, i lost one reason to quit. btw i'm a researcher cum chemist...started 1 project outskirt and once a week i'll go visit it.will start another 2 so that i'll be busy. hubby is fine if i can stand having no monthly income.honestly i can't. i have so many to pay,car,my apartment etc..well, so quitting is out of the question now.. I LOVE STAYING AT HOME.WISH I CAN RETIRE BY 40 AND I HAVE CHILDREN BY THEN... ;D ouchy, i think it depends on you, if you are financially stable then it's ok to quit. ..then i'll be jealous..LOL..oh,and you'll have more time for us here and of course your baby
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Post by Tiff on Apr 26, 2007 19:51:07 GMT -5
Yes I would for sure quit and I am. I was going to finish off the rest of the semester since I am a substitute teacher and there is only 3 weeks left, but it has been getting real hard for me with the need to urinate frequently and the black out I have been getting. My husband has been trying to convince me to leave and now after my faint spell yesterday I decided it was the best thing.
Ouchy did you talk to your husband about quiting like you were planning? Did he agree?
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Post by ouchy on Apr 26, 2007 20:07:47 GMT -5
You've been getting blackouts, too? I just got off the phone w/ my doctor about my light-headedness and everything going black when I get out of bed! That's so scary that you actually completely passed out, though!!!! Did you get hurt? Are you still allowed to drive? I had a talk with my husband. He'd prefer it if I stick it out a few more weeks to give it a try. But I really feel like a rat in a maze at work! He told me to think how he has felt all these years in cubicles and artificial light without windows. One time they even put him in a room painted black for several months...without windows and with artificial light. Poor guy! I didn't even realize it. So, at least he knows what I'm talking about, then, with the boxed-up feeling. He will be okay with it if I quit; it's just nice to have the extra money coming in.
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Post by Tiff on Apr 27, 2007 10:48:20 GMT -5
Well I have not seen my Dr. yet but if you ask my mother in law she would say no I cant drive. I will get more information next Tuesday and when I do I will share it with you all in the Pregnancy symptom thread under infertility.
Ohh your poor husband, that would be hard for him. But I also feel it is not the same for you and him. You are now pregnant with his child and are experiencing emotions and symptoms that he could never relate to and part of your want, probably most of your want to quit is from the pregnancy right?
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Post by Tiff on Apr 27, 2007 10:49:51 GMT -5
I have always heard that an unhappy mom during pregnancy equals a unhappy new born. When a mother is in stress during a pregnancy it is not healthy for the baby and can cause problems such as cholic in new borns. I am not sure if this is actually true, but I have been told this by many poople and can see how it relates.
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Post by ouchy on Apr 27, 2007 11:02:34 GMT -5
^Yep. I want to be relaxed during my pregnancy. I want to be able to enjoy the pregnancy. I think it will be healthier for the baby if I am relaxed, too.
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Post by denna on Apr 27, 2007 11:45:34 GMT -5
wow..both of you are deciding a very important thing..well, as i said financial play an important part in that decision. may be it's just for a while and when you all get use to it,it will be fine.i don't know but quitting a job is not easy unless you are well prepared.
why not take unpaid leave, does your employer allow that? i work for the govt and yes, i can apply for unpaid leave for few months depending on my reasons.
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Post by ouchy on Apr 27, 2007 11:47:08 GMT -5
Well, it has always been agreed that I'd be a stay-at-home mom. I know I won't want to quit for a few months and then come back big as a whale.
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Post by ouchy on Apr 27, 2007 11:56:41 GMT -5
I don't make THAT much money at my current job, either. Plus, I'm not going to buy a lot of baby stuff, and I plan on using cloth diapers. My husband has a pretty good job, so I think we'll be okay. We can't afford a house where we live, but only like 5% of people can. Even with two incomes it doesn't make sense to buy a house right now. So, my not working really won't make a difference. It's just nice to have that extra cash. But I don't want to trade my baby for cash. LOL
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Post by kb on Apr 28, 2007 2:12:56 GMT -5
I think this is a very individual thing, i wouldnt want to work with a young baby, would want to be there for the first year of its life.
But i like to work, its driving me insane not working or doing anything, but if i was well i think it would be different coz i could make use of my time.
I think id always like to do some work though, even if it was just a few hours a week.
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