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Post by Candice new member on Aug 4, 2006 15:29:18 GMT -5
Hi Everyone, My name is Candice. I'm 24 years old, a high school teacher and married for 1 year come Sept. 2. No kids yet, but hopefully I will be able to have one in the future. My favorite thing to do is portage trips in algonquin park. I'm new to this whole Endo thing. I've known for years that things were not right with me but since I wasn't sexually active until after my marriage, I guess doctors didn't want to deal with me. I was told I had IBS (I might have that, but now that I'm looking into endo it seems like it has been endo all along). I'm not yet diagnosed with ENDO but it seems to fit what is wrong with me. I'm going for a transvaginal ultrasound on Thurs. and if that is not conclusive for a lap and a series of specialist appointments. I have a very good doctor now. He is failry confident that I have Endo. It's more the emotional pain that gets to me. Now that I am married, I find I'm damaged goods. Sex is very painfull for me. I feel more like a glorified roomate than a wife and secretly, I know my husband feels the same way. The guilt of "not being able to provide" and the guilt he feels for wanting something so bad that he knows cause me pain is very hard on us. Intimacy of any degree is difficult. On the bright side, most days, he's very supportive. I'm sure this is more than the average introduction length. It just feels so good to talk about it that it's hard to stop. Thanks for listening (or reading...LoL) Candice
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louise
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Post by louise on Aug 4, 2006 16:01:08 GMT -5
hi welcome candice, i know what you mean, endo can be just as painful emotionallly aswell as painful, i feel guity most days too, your intro was great and thats what this forum is here for, you can share your worries and good news and theres always someone who will offer advice or support, it's like an emotional rollercoaster, you feel depressed than happy than worried, but you should always let it out instead of bottling it up, usually close ones dont always understand so thats why it's good to have something like this and people who know what your going through who can understand and be there to listen, keep posting xx
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Post by Hillary on Aug 4, 2006 19:07:53 GMT -5
Hi Candace, Algonquin Park, I am from Huntsville. Good old Cottage Country! I live in Toronto now.
While reading your introduction I can relate to what you are talking about. My husband and I before we where married couldn;t have sex for like 9 months because it was so painful for me and until we found out why it was very streeful becasue we never had a problem in that category. They finally discovered that I had a cyst when I took the tranvaginal ultra sound. It never showed up on an X-ray, blood test or pee test that they do through an everyday practise. Read my introduction "new here need someone to talk to" it will explain what happened to me.
If in the case that you do end up having endo there is an excellent audio video section in the General Board, show that too your husband it should help, it did mine!
Let us all know how your results go,
Hillary
Welcome to the forum!
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shakes
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Post by shakes on Aug 13, 2006 15:18:10 GMT -5
Hi candace, Dont be so hard on yourself you are not damaged goods, sometimes men have a hard time understanding our female stuff but all the ladies here know exactly what your are going through and we all are here for you when we get married its for better or worse show your hunny this link www.endocenter.org/ Its a little audio-video presentation that explains it I have a hard time sometimes too my husband wants sex every day its hard to keep up I find myself stressing out about it I usually just take a good pain pill first or relax with a heating pad after ultra sounds don't usually show much just cysts or tumors you will need a lap to find out for sure if you do have endo its not bad at all so dont worry there is something you can try before you have surgery its natural progestrogen cream that may help take your pain away after a few weeks its worth a try, it seems like the more surgerys you have the worse off you get I have had 4 and the endo always comes back along with adhesions (scare tissue) I wish I knew about the cream first I have talked to a few ladies that are on it and that along with changing your diet (the endo diet) and taking vitamins can really help alot, im on the cream now even if you decide to have the lap. you can still consider trying the cream if you have any questions about it or need information you can message me or even read the progestrogen forum here I hope you get some relife soon, start with your diet theres certain foods that make the pain worse so read up on all of that, have a great day, shelly
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Post by ouchy on Aug 13, 2006 19:00:25 GMT -5
Hi, Candice! Welcome to the forum! Sorry I hadn't responded sooner, but I hadn't seen this post until now. You'll find that many of us have been diagnosed w/ IBS and also have pain with sex. If you are interested in trying the cream that Shelly recommended, it's actually progesterone cream (not progestrogen cream), in case you want to research it. Welcome again.
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Post by Candice new Member on Aug 20, 2006 22:13:59 GMT -5
Thank you for the support and ideas. I've been feeling very alone latley and your messages have made me feel less isolated. Thanks again.
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Post by ouchy on Aug 21, 2006 20:39:57 GMT -5
Glad we can help, if only a bit
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