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Post by Alley on Nov 28, 2007 9:45:25 GMT -5
I was diagnosed about 3 1/2 years ago and it pretty much just now it me this morning. I already had some cysts removed back in 2004, but I'm still unable to have children. I dont know what to do or who to talk to. I'm afraid that if I tell my boyfriend (we've been talking about getting married) he will leave me.
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Post by minnie on Nov 28, 2007 11:03:31 GMT -5
Hi Alley
Can imagine you feel pretty down at the mo. Are you actively trying for a baby at the moment or is this something the docs have told you? Sweetie, can I tell you something, if he is worth it he will stick around regardless of whether you can have babies or not. What makes you think he will leave you?
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Post by baby bonnet on Nov 28, 2007 12:47:13 GMT -5
Hi Alley - I agree with Minnie. If he is worth it and really loves you he will stick around even if you can't have a child. We tried for about 3 yrs. before we got preggers. I explained to my OBGYN that my insurance wouldn't cover infertility treatments when he referred me to a specialist so he offered to try and help. That's when he discovered that I had endo. He put me on infertility drugs after a lap and those didn't work, so then he put me on diabetic meds even thought I'm not diabetic and that seemed to have done the trick. Have you gotten any infertility treatments yet? That would be my 1st step after making sure that he will really stick around. Who knows maybe its a combination of his job and your endo and not just your endo. My husband was working in a really hot factory and I think his little soldiers where getting cooked. I don't think that it's just coinsidence that I got preggers just a little after he changed jobs and wasn't getting cooked anymore. I feel that it was a combination of my endo and his little soldiers being cooked. Sometimes you have to think outside the box and look for other factors when you have tried everything and the doctor hasn't said that he's sure you are infertile.
Good Luck and don't give up, there are many women in the endo club who have been able to conceive.
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Post by alleycat on Dec 4, 2007 12:42:37 GMT -5
I told him and he took it better than I thought. I was terrified to tell him because my ex husband cheated on me because of it. He told me to my face that I was worthless because of my condition. The doctors told us that I was infertile and we should look at other options to conceve or adopt. So he told me that he wanted to analyze our relationship better by going to counceling. He never went with me though. That was odd I thought at first then I found out that when I was at my sessions he was with a woman he worked with. We divorced after I found out what was going on and I have since moved on. I found someone I want to be with for the rest of my life and it was tearing me up thinking about losing him to. I didnt want to go through that expierence again. He held me tightly and said that it didnt matter what we had to do or if we decided to never have children everything would be ok. We would be fine he said. It was very comforting and definately hard, but he understood. I'm so blessed to have someone so special.
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Post by baby bonnet on Dec 10, 2007 17:39:23 GMT -5
Alleycat - I'm sorry about what your ex did to you but it seems that you have now found someone who really loves you no matter what and for that I'm happy for you. I'm glad that you worked up the courage to tell him instead of just keeping it a secret. It sounds like this guy is a keeper. Good luck to the both of you and never loose hope.
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