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Post by cherry on Apr 20, 2010 12:48:53 GMT -5
That's great news for them, I hope the good news keeps rolling in. You're being an absolute Mama Lion Pam, well done you. Your BF must be thrilled with the support for herself, in that you've taken some of the strain off her with the support, as well as what you're offering to her as your friend.
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Post by hellsbells on Apr 21, 2010 13:46:47 GMT -5
Oh I'm glad the date isn't too far away, and a for easing their burden by $1000 a month, although I'm sure that's not their main concern, it'll be a weight off their shoulders. $1400 dollars a month for rent is dreadful. My thoughts are with you all.
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Post by JC on Apr 21, 2010 20:32:48 GMT -5
Great news!!!! I'm so glad! That's one step in a positive direction. You've been awesome to this family.
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Post by cherry on May 27, 2010 6:47:05 GMT -5
Pamelaj how are your friend and daughter doing these days, and you?
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Post by endomommy on Jun 1, 2010 22:01:00 GMT -5
oh Pam, I'm so sorry this is something you and your loved ones have to endure!!! I was raped when I was 18. The memories were so traumatic that I pushed them deep into my sub-conscious until I was in my thirties. It's hard to know what to say; sometimes nothing at all needs to be said! Just be with her and hold her, or listen to her (when she is ready to talk, you can't push it! she may not want to talk about it at all or ever. Give her her space, she'll come to you if or when she is ready) just knowing that someone is sitting with you or in the next room is all that they need. As time moves forward she may need you more then, just wait, listen and watch her body language; that will tell you a lot! Contact your local "rape crisis center" if nothing else you will have the information for her when or if she is ready to talk with others about her trauma. But it will give you some information and some help on how to handle this very delicate situation. It truly was a support group that helped me through my trauma. I own my life to them! To be able to talk with others about what happened; it's huge!! It might take a while, but she will need to talk about what happened at some point in her own way. Watch her for any signs of suicide, as hard as it is to talk about, it does happen and if she gets to that point you will need to get her some help. As of right now, she feels like her whole world just changed!! Nothing feels safe, she's been violated in the worst most private part of her, she was saving her self for marriage you said; so this will be a big issue for her, she lost a lot that night; "things" were taken from her that where NOT given! She will be very "jumpy" be careful to not sneak up behind her and to always announce your entry into a room where she is or you could easily startle her. Certain smells, sounds or voices could make her uneasy, due to the sub-conscious memory storing information at the time of the rape; she may not even know it at the time. I could go on and on...sorry. If you want more information or if I can help you in any way, please email me or message me! I'm sooo very sorry this happened!!! Be strong for her, she needs you now more than ever! My heart cries for your niece . I'm glad you open enough to ask for help, it shows how very much you love her; most of the time people want to shove these things under the rug and never speak of them again . Glad your there for her. God Bless
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