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Post by JC on Apr 12, 2010 7:28:51 GMT -5
I think understanding that life has drifted you two apart shouldn't stand in the way of your friendship. I really don't think you should question your friendship with her. I think an understanding approach to this situation would be better. You know she cares about you, she's a wonderful person, life is just busy right now. It doesn't change how she feels about you, and vice versa. I would strongly advise against drama queens. It really really sucks. After reading about all of your prospects, it sounds like your best friend is your best bet. What exactly are you looking for in a maid of honor? Make a list if you have to. Write down the things that are most important to you about your MOH and even prioritize them. Then maybe once you see it on paper what matters most, you might make a better informed choice. Put your priorities here if you want. We'll help ya #1 not crazy #2 best friend #3 no drama #4 must have time etc........
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Post by hellsbells on Apr 12, 2010 14:26:33 GMT -5
#5 puts you first for your wedding!
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Post by lizzylou on Apr 12, 2010 19:36:08 GMT -5
Again, she's not my "best" friend. We aren't that close anymore. She cares about me and I care about her but really, we aren't as close as we used to. I know she's adjusting to life, but neither of us really make it a priority to contact the other person much anymore. So it's one of those things where we're just drifted. She honestly was never in the running for MOH because of that. I love her dearly but we're just not that type of friend anymore.
My concern with her is that she won't make a choice to see me for dinner because it's not important to her, because if it was, she would do it. I'm worried about how much she would actually be involved in wedding stuff if she were in it, because everytime she'd be home, doing wedding stuff with me wouldn't be a priority.
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Post by JC on Apr 15, 2010 20:03:16 GMT -5
So have you decided yet? :/
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Post by lizzylou on May 1, 2010 18:47:09 GMT -5
Ok, we went to dinner, I think she will be in the wedding, it was nice and she definatly made an effort. Just not in MOH position (although she was never in the running for that position).
The friend this post was originally about (with the aggressive dog) just got ANOTHER dog. Since her first once behaves so well (sarcasm) and is aggressive with other dogs, they figure they should get another one. Their life, whatever... Anyway, They got a standard poodle. No offence to anyone who likes them, but personally my fiance and I both think they are ugly dogs (regardless of the haircut). So my friend put pictures of the new puppy on facebook and my fiance said "ok, I'll say it, it's ugly". He's ALWAYS been very blunt, straight forward and says it like it is. Its the wife of his best friend (the guys have been like brothers for almost 20 years) and one of the peope I was considering for MOH. They are pretty ticked and really don't want to hang with us at all because he called her dog ugly. Yeah maybe he shouldn't have said anything, but if you can't be honest with your best friends, then I think it's not that great of a friendship. And also, I think that if she's not going to want to be around us because he doesn't share the same opinion as her, WTF kind of MOH will she be for me? Long story short...I think she can just be a bridesmaid even though I know she'll be pissed she's not MOH.
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Post by JC on May 23, 2010 10:32:44 GMT -5
hahahaa that's funny! He called her dog ugly. Geez it's just a dog. They need to lighten up a little! It's not like he called their kid ugly! Sheesh, I hope you find an MOH! lol
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Post by lizzylou on May 23, 2010 21:25:19 GMT -5
And she's already complaining about how hyper the dog is. great!
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