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Post by pamelaj on Oct 15, 2009 7:03:51 GMT -5
Lately ive been finding myself crying over stupid little things and maybe these are some of the reasons and just need advice or virtual support or something...
My hyster is coming up Nov 3rd and im very scared that i wont make it off the table that i've actually told my husband where my will is and everything. Im not sure if i feel this way because Nov 3rd just happens to be the one year anniversary of my fathers passing...who passed away after they opened him up?
I see all these baby shows on tv and cry thinking that in 3 short weeks my body will never be able to produce one of those again even tho i had my tubes clamped years ago im still feeling a loss..is this normal?
Most days i dont even want to get dressed...just stay in bed or on the couch not wanting to do squat.
My hubby bought me a huge bouquet of flowers and a box of my favorite chocolates and my fav magazine.....i yelled at him because the front cover had a baby on it and i told him he was incensitive.
Somebody please tell me these are "normal" feelings and that they will go away. How long can this depression last if in fact it is considered depression?
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Post by hellsbells on Oct 15, 2009 10:25:15 GMT -5
So sorry you feel this way, and yes I suspect it is quite normal. It's a big thing you're about to go through and you're entitled to be a bit scared, but just focus on a positive outcome. You'll be in good hands, and it sounds like you have a great husband to support you. Let him in xx
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Post by omaklackey on Oct 15, 2009 13:56:34 GMT -5
yes these are all normal. Have you gone to the HYSTER sisters site? You'll find many people with the same questions and feelings. Most of us running up to the surgery were crying messes. My doctor gave me prozac for after but looking back I should have taken it before it as well. (anti mood swings, anxiety, etc...) My hubby had a vasectomy six years ago and there was still questions of the 'baby' thing in my head! I don't want one, its just that it took away the abiltiy to have one and I had to reprocess that!! So yes your normal... BIG HUG! It will soon be here. Don't fret if you don't 'get back to normal' right away. Most women take a year from the hyster to feel like things have settled down.
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Post by pamelaj on Oct 15, 2009 15:06:42 GMT -5
thanks guys...I hope i can snap out of it. Ive cried so much the last few days im probably dehydrated. I just feel like my whole world is crashing around me. No more babies coming, the anniversary of my fathers death the same day as my surgery...its just to much.
Karla..i did join hyster sisters ty but i dont find it nearly as helpful as here.
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Post by omaklackey on Oct 15, 2009 16:08:52 GMT -5
I felt the same way while I was waiting and then mine got cancelled and I was SURE I wouldn't make it through the second wait. I was in a lot of pain so it made the wait longer. Its hard to be rational when you hurt! This last four months from my one surgery to this one has been a hellish nightmare! So we can relate I'm sure!
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Post by Karen on Oct 15, 2009 17:46:03 GMT -5
I was a complete wreck for months before I got things all straightened out. For me, it was situational depression, and once I got a handle on my health, the depression wasn't an issue anymore. I think it's COMPLETELY normal to have the feelings you are, and when you're feeling so crappy, it seems almost impossible to feel any other way. I think it's smart that you're planning for the worst case scenario, but only because I think it'll put your mind more at ease when you go in, not that I actually think something bad will happen. Do you have anything you can do to help relax a bit? I know it won't take it all away, but might at least help calm you down a bit.
I'm sorry about your dad's passing, too. Anniversaries like that are hard, especially since you'll be having your surgery that day. Think of it this way - you have someone special watching over you that day and making sure you're safe.
Take care!
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Post by sunshine78 on Oct 16, 2009 0:24:29 GMT -5
I definitely think it's normal. I once had something happen that I was avoiding, and even though it worked out so that I didn't even have to make a decision, it was horribly emotional, anyway.
As far as not being able to have children, your subconscious was already prepared for that, but with something this final, it's always a bit jarring.
I agree w/olsenka. If you have a slew of favorite movies, watch them, while eating/drinking your favorite things. A little laughter goes a long way.
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