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Post by lawdawg19 on Oct 16, 2006 14:20:19 GMT -5
Hey ladies! Well, I didn't know if I should post this in the depression thread or here. I've been contemplating my doctors advice on a hysterectomy. I was pretty set with my decision to go ahead and get one. 2 days ago I was with my boyfriend, and we were talking about him hunting. Somehow or another he mentioned how cool it will be to take his (future) sons hunting. (he doesn't have kids yet, neither do I.) It was so weird because I just got really sad. I know that my boyfriend and I will probably not get married and have kids, and after our term in the USMC, we'll go our separate ways, but the fact that I'm 19, and won't be able to have kids is just sad. I won't have any little girls to take to ballet practice or a boy to buy foot ball cleats for. Or children to kiss goodnight and tuck into bed. I don't know, I'm just sad about the whole thing. I just had to write all of this out and get it out of my head. Sorry if it doesn't make any sense.
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maryland
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Post by maryland on Oct 16, 2006 15:13:07 GMT -5
Lawdawg19 I'm sorry your feeling sad.. Due remember that there are other ways to have kids. You can freeze your eggs and adopt. I know it is a hard thing to do. I had my hyster at 29 and I have no kids myself. But if you are in a lot of pain and have a hard time taking care of yourself it is not fair to that child. That is something I had to think about. I asked myself how can I bring a child in this world and I have a hard time taking care of myself when I'm in all this pain.. Remember everything happens for a reason. We do not know what the reasons are right away but down the road we do. I wish you the best of luck on what you choose to do. You take your time and think about it. It's not like your having a lap and get the endo removed. Have you tried to talk to a psych. doctor. Some times they help people. I'm not saying your crazy or anything but I had to go to one before my surgery it was the law here. She really helped me alot and made me think about alot of things I never thought of. If you want to wait and try to have your own kids and your in alot of pain you might want to think about a pian doctor or herbal things, or a massage..ect. Those things can help some.. Like I said before GOOD LUCK. I will keep you in my prayers.
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Post by erzulie on Oct 16, 2006 16:32:22 GMT -5
I think your post is in the right place lawdawg. Feeling sad isn't the same thing as being depressed. I agree with everything Maryland said. Having a hysterectomy doesn't mean you can't have kids. I wonder though if you have really tried everything. I think hysterectomy should really be a last resort. It doesn't always help anyway, so you should definitely exhaust every other option before you try it. If you do decide to go through with it, you might find this book helpful: cjlevett.proboards33.com/index.cgi?board=infertility&action=display&thread=1158510534I haven't read it but from the reviews I have read, people with infertility have really found that book comforting. It covers both the decision not to have kids and to feel good about the decision, as well as the decision to adopt and not feel like it's your last resort. I would guess it covers other things as well. I heard people raving about it on a mailing list and decided to post it here in case it pertained to anyone.
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