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Post by Hillary on Aug 16, 2006 13:58:06 GMT -5
Here is my situation, Twice this week I have been asked if I am pregnant and been told that I have baby weight to loose? Hello not pregnant and haven't had any kids!!!! Between the surgeries and the stress I am a mess, I have gained so much weight. When I look at my wedding pictures I think what have I done to myself. These skinny girls that have lots of kids and cansit and eat a bag of cookies can go to ....... Why do they need to coment on my weight? I barely even know them. The way I look at it if someone is over weight why do you need to comment on it. There is probably a reason for it. Like me my world came crashing down at Christmas this year First they tell me have kids now or you won't have them aand then they tell me I have Ovarian Cancer. I HAVE HAD ENOUGH FOR ONE YEAR! The last thing I need is for someone to tell me I am fat. I am sitting at my desk trying to hold back the tears, and it's not working very well. I just feel like curling into a ball and not opening up. I have only just started being able to start walking distances and it hurts still but I know I have to get this weight off.
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maryland
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Post by maryland on Aug 16, 2006 14:44:36 GMT -5
Hillary I'm sorry people are saying those things to you.. They need to mind there own bussiness. Sometimes people say things before they think. I know when you are made fun of it is not fun. I look at myself and see the same thing. I can't walk from the living room to upstairs without hurting. So I understand what you say when your in pain from walking. I know it is not easy to not worry about what people say to you. But you need to know that you are your way for a reason. And things happen you will get better and show off your body again and show those people who have said those bad things to you.. Keep your head up high.. Don't craw in the ball and stay there that is what those people want you to do.. And sometimes crying makes you feel better I would let those tears out.. Holding them in is not good.. Good luck..
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Post by Hillary on Aug 16, 2006 15:06:44 GMT -5
Thank you Maryland for those kind words. I will keep my head up like I always do and I will keep truck'n along with this battle. But if one more person makes a comment on my size I may freak out!
I am not obese and certainly not skinny, my husband reasures me that I have nothing to worry about. He called me right after I wrote my message and right away he asked me what was wrong I told him and he told me not to worry. He's a sweety.
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Post by ouchy on Aug 16, 2006 16:38:16 GMT -5
Hi, Hillary. I'm sooooo sorry that you have to deal with this. You've definitely been through way more than anyone should have to deal with. Good luck with everything. We're here for you!!!
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Post by erzulie on Aug 16, 2006 16:55:18 GMT -5
The next time someone says something like that to you, you could just say, "Well at least I'm nice." What kind of person you are matters a lot more than looks, I guess if they don't know that it's their loss!
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Post by ouchy on Aug 16, 2006 22:17:40 GMT -5
Yah. I know what you mean. Motivation and getting off my rear to just do the exercises now for me is the difficult part! Too bad we don't all live in a big endo dormitory together somewhere!!! Then we could all motivate each other. (I know that sounded dorky, but it would really be fun!)
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maryland
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Post by maryland on Aug 17, 2006 11:29:25 GMT -5
Hillary I'm glad to hear you are walking they say you should walk a 1/2 hr a day.. You will see some results out of walking. Maybe put the tape in and watch it while your on the sofa. You might beable to do somethings on the sofa. Or maybe ask your husband to do it with you or maybe a friend or relative would do it. I'm a person who needs to have someone next to me to give motiation. When I was in my late teen and early 20's I would run everyday about 5 miles and I got worse. So now I can't walk or run. But I enjoied doing that I didn't need anyone to be there to run with me.. Well good luck and like I said before Keep your head up.. We are with you..
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Post by meka on Aug 18, 2006 14:40:21 GMT -5
Hillary, Sorry about those inconsiderate clods. The sad reality is, most people don't think before they speak. Whether it's about someone being too skinny or too fat, people make comments without regard to feelings. I actually get people telling me what they think of my weight, with unmasked disgusted looks on their faces! It takes every ounce of integrity left in me to not pick back at them. And, I agree with Maryland. Cry your heart out when you need to!! Take an extended bathroom break and let it out (the tears, that is ). You are going through waaaay too much to hold anything in. Thank goodness your husband is so supportive. And you know what, to h*@l with integrity. The next time someone makes a comment about your weight, make sure you have something spiffy and clever to throw back at them to make them think twice about their thoughtless comments.
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Post by meldart on Aug 18, 2006 16:00:46 GMT -5
I am fortunate to be quite petit ..however before my lap my stomach was so bloated all the time I looked like I was pregnant, none of my tops came down far enough and none of my trousers fitted - not an attractive look... to make matters worse in one of our monthly sales meetings a guy was staring at my stomach all through, then asking all the other guys to have a look to see if I was pregnant or just fat!! everytime I got up they were all looking at my pop belly!! Funny now but awful at the time.
Some people are so insensitve and not worth giving the time of day too
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shakes
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Post by shakes on Aug 19, 2006 5:13:45 GMT -5
hello hill,
dont let anyone get you down your dealing with alot its so rude for people to make comments I was heavy a few years back
I started walking and taking b-vitamins that helped alot I really dont like eating im so picky and once a month around ovulation I usually puke im always feeling sick in my tummy so I think thats played a part in my weight lose
my husband teases me dont eat to much or youll get fat, I was so big I had boobs for once in my life, to bad when the weight came off the boobs did too
my husband recently lost 20 pounds to get ready for a motorcycle race so im feeling bad, its hard to exercise when you hurt all of the time my belly is very bloated especially at the end of the day and I have been asked if Im expecting
I never ask even if its obvious, out of respect
we live in a hard time when everyones supposed to look perfect but you can look at it like you are not as pretty as half the women in the world but you are more beautiful than the other half, we all are just average and whos to say whats fat....its good to have some meat on your bones and look like a women
love you, the person inside dont worry about what anyone else has to say
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Post by Hillary on Aug 20, 2006 12:17:13 GMT -5
Thank you Shakes for those kind words I am not going to let anyone get me down, if they want to say something then I will have a response ready for them like "I just beat Ovarian Cancer, would you like to insult me again?!" or "Trying to have kids but it seems i am infertile, how many kids do you have? But in the long run, it has kind of given me the strength to do something about it, I have become more active and I am kind of getting myself out of this hump I am in. I eat when I am upset or nervous and I have another battle oming my way, when I go for my next Laser lap, I then have to go for invitro right after and there is the chance it won't work, then what? I want kids more than anything in the world & so does my husband, then I have to deal with all the hormones they give you, I'm pretty scared about that. I don't think I will be able to face that. even though I will have to face whatever it is. Thank you all for listening to me. It helps me SO very much!
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Post by denna on Aug 20, 2006 22:02:42 GMT -5
hi Hillary,
i know how you feel. a week ago i attended a baking class and bump into my cousin. i've shown he my cute tow little puppies and she said 'how sad, is this your pride and joy?" wow, that hurts so much. like maryland said, sometimes people say before they think or the don't think before they say things. she is pregnant. you will sure find many people like that on the street or worse at your work place, a male colleauge just said to me last week that i'm pretending at i'm sick. i don't really care anymore what people think or said. it's up to them, unlike you i've lost 4kg (pound?) after my surgery and people said i'm thin.i used to be 52kg-my ideal weight. with the endo diet, i'm not sure if i will loose or gaint weight but i'm happy with my weight now-will try to gain some more pounds..
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Post by denna on Aug 20, 2006 22:06:16 GMT -5
oh ya,
if you do want to loose weight, try this
1. take oatmeal every day for breakfast 2. run for a bout 20-30 min a day - continous 3. eat a lot of fruits and vege
my hubby has lost at least 5kg for the past 2 months by doing this. he has the 2 puppies to accompany him for his jog everyday. he's receiving compliments from his nurses and he is so happy about it
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