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Post by lisa31 on Jul 30, 2006 12:04:11 GMT -5
Hi, everyone! I've posted a couple of times on here, but just read the rules/guidelines and realized I never really introduced myself or my history so that I don't have to keep repeating it. I'm a single, 31 year old teacher in the Austin, Texas area. Unfortunately I've been dealing with health problems for a LONG time. I started getting very large (grapefruit size) ovarian cysts in high school. I still get them today...it's just been a chronic problem for me. I've had 2 cervical leeps. I had my diagnostic laparoscopy in 2000. I had endo. on my fallopian tube, both ovaries, my pelvic wall, and cul-de-sac. I also had a tumor removed from my ovary (benign) and a peritubal cyst removed from my fallopian tube. About 6 mos. later I had a very large ovarian cyst burst and had to have emergency surgery. Then about a year after that my ovary looked strange on sonogram and so my Dr. went in to look. It was adhered to my colon and that's when he discovered I had polycystic ovarian syndrome. I went into deep denial about it and went and got a second opinion...they said I had it too (with lab work, etc.). Anyways, I've done two rounds of Lupron...6 months on, 6 months off (two sessions). I found the Lupron to be a Godsend! I LOVED the Lupron. I had to do the add-back therapy for side effects, but the relief I had was great. Now, however, my doctor doesn't want me to do it again. She thinks I need surgery again to see what's going on and try to find my future husband so I can go ahead and have kids (easier said than done). She's sending me to a reproductive endocrinologist to take over a lot of my care. She says that I'm very complicated with my history of 2 cervical Leeps (which can cause pregnancy problems), endo., PCOS, and I have Lupus (which can cause miscarraiges and other problems). So, here I am. Thanks for replying to me when I've posted. It's a great comfort to come here!
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Post by ouchy on Jul 30, 2006 12:30:01 GMT -5
Hi, Lisa! Welcome to the forum again, and thanks for posting your history Can you explain the "cervical leeps," to which you referred in your history. I'm not familiar with that procedure.
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Post by erzulie on Jul 30, 2006 15:52:34 GMT -5
I second what ouchy said. Welcome, thanks for posting your history, and what in the world are cervical leeps?
For the record, the guidelines you read aren't in place yet but I sent them to Carolyn, the administrator, and I hope she will decide to put them in place! I was trying to get an idea of how others felt about the guidelines before I sent them in but only 6 people voted (and I was one of them). If you get a chance, could you maybe send Carolyn a private message telling her what you think of the guidelines? She seemed wary of the idea at first but I ahven't heard any negative opinions yet so I feel like people here are open to having guidelines and I want her to know that.
Back to your post, I hate it when doctors give ridiculous advice like to hurry up and find someone to marry! It's not like it's that easy, and you don't want to get in a big hurry and marry the wrong person! Sure you might be able to have kids sooner, but you might also have to go through a divorce and a split custody arrangement and therapy for the kids and so on... sure it's easy for the doctor to say you've got to hurry up and marry the first guy who comes along just so you can get pregnant! She doesn't have to deal with the ramifications! You can't really rush finding the right person, it'll happen when it's meant to happen and you don't want to ruin your chances of a happy marriage by focusing only on the need to get pregnant. I suppose that must be all obstetricians think about! It bugs me so much because I think of all the lives that can potentially be ruined if you actually follow your doctor's advice. Have you ever known a family that seemed to have a never-ending cycle of unhappiness? The children are raised in an unstable environment with parents who don't get along, so they don't know how to have a healthy marriage and they end up marrying for the wrong reasons and bringing their own children up the same way they were brought up, and so on for maybe hundreds of years until someone possibly breaks the cycle. That kind of cycle can start at any time when someone feels pressured to marry hastily and they end up with the wrong person. The decisions you make right now could affect your descendants for endless generations. It's almost scary to think about, but I think about it a lot and I feel like sometimes doctors encourage us to be selfish. They want us to have kids right away either because they think it will improve our health or because they think we are running out of time to have the experience of being pregnant. But as important as those things might be to us, our own personal desires aren't the only thing that matters. Why don't more people get that?
Sorry for ranting, it's just one of my pet peeves (bad advice from doctors, not anything you've said). Maybe I should take my rant to the rant and rave forum sometime and get it out of my system once and for all.
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Post by lisa31 on Jul 30, 2006 16:01:44 GMT -5
A LEEP is a procedure where they surgically remove part of your cervix due to cancerous type changes. After I had my first one in '98, my doctor said that I had over a 99% chance I'd never need another one. Well, in 2000 he said I was the less than 1% chance person. It's been almost 6 years since my last one, so I pray that I'm over all of that. However, when you have one, you have a 60% chance of having a low birth weight baby or a pre-term baby. You also are at risk to miscarry. I believe they said the surgery weakens your cervix. So, I've really got a lot of cards stacked against me in the reproductive area. I feel stressed to move my love life into a faster pace, but I would NEVER marry anyone that I didn't think was the perfect match for me and that I desperately love.
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Post by louise on Jul 30, 2006 16:06:06 GMT -5
hi lisa welcome to the forum x
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Post by louise on Jul 30, 2006 16:30:42 GMT -5
hi lisa i agree with what erzulie said, dont go panicing about how much time you have, and it's true that doctors can make you feel you have to rush and get pregant, it's the first thing the doctor said to me, i was 19 at the time and at that age you take everything to heart, luckly i had my mum with me to put him straight, im 28 now and i cant believe doctors are still giving the same advice, i went to the docs with my new partner at the time and he suggested having a baby, my partner neally jumped off the chair in fright, and after they have suggested giving birth will solve the problem slighty they then recommend having it all out once you have done it, doctors dont know how to cure endo and when there faced with something they dont know they just state the worse, some of the women on here have been through so much and have been told that children are not an option and yet there on here telling us they have and theres hope, you will find love (love will find you)and soon you will be inviting us all here to share in your happiness, i promise you that, stay positive, keep smiling the battle is not over until you say it is. xx
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