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I'm 19
Jul 5, 2007 1:19:11 GMT -5
Post by sylvia88 on Jul 5, 2007 1:19:11 GMT -5
I never thought that at 19 I would have to even come close to the thought of dealing with infertility. I found out I had endo last week, and like a lot of people, I was relieved just to know that I had something, and that I wasn't just imagining the pain or making it up. I found out during a lap, and they burned it off and I thought it would be gone forever. The more I found out, and the more I heal from surgery, the more I'm recognizing that I'm going to have to live with this for a looong time.
I can deal with being in pain, I can deal with being on painkillers and having surgeries and all of that. But the thought of not being able to have kids is just killing me. There's nothing I want more in life than to be a mother. And to find out at 19 I might not be able to...
I just thought I've been through enough already that I wouldn't have to deal with any more sh*t. I lost my father to suicide when I was younger, and spent the next six years trying to cope in ways that left me with scars and radically distorted my body image. And I finally got over all that stupid sh*t and now I have to deal with having a chronic disease that no one knows about. I'm at my wits end, and just so damn fed up...
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I'm 19
Jul 5, 2007 21:18:12 GMT -5
Post by pixie1724 on Jul 5, 2007 21:18:12 GMT -5
Hey Sylvia, Just because you have endo doesn't necessarily mean you have absolutely NO chance of having kids. There are many women on this board that are carrying right now ( congrats btw! ) Like you i was diagnosed early and this was a very big concern of mine as i wanted children at the time. i later found out that regardless of my endo i can't have kids due to a genetic blood disorder that can causes massive pain and possibly an early death as it did with my brother. But the simple fact is endo does not negate you chance to have kids. my gyno at the time flat told me that if i wanted kids i should have them right then before i got much older. that if i didn't i wouldn't be able to conceive at all. and thats simply untrue. granted the older you get the harder it may become but don't wright kids off just yet. Talk to some of the women on this board , they'll be able to tell you a bit more than i can as i'm rather new this myself. but they've been a big help to me so far! Also, if you're still concerned about it, talk to your doc in-depth about it. My gyno was a big help in reassuring me that theres always a chance.
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I'm 19
Jul 5, 2007 21:35:53 GMT -5
Post by ouchy on Jul 5, 2007 21:35:53 GMT -5
Very true, pixie (btw, so sorry about your condition!). What pixie said is correct. Plus, there are other fertility problems that outrank endo as being #1 for infertility. I happen to have several that rank even higher than endo. I happen to have PCOS, luteal phase defect, and endometriosis. I'm also currently 6 months pregnant and in my late 20's! <--late 20's. Sheesh! It feels weird to say that. LOL! So, anyway, no one can tell you that you're not going to be able to have kids unless both of your ovaries and uterus have been removed. I'm guessing you still have those, so consider yourself in the game for a while longer!
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I'm 19
Jul 8, 2007 3:31:42 GMT -5
Post by cherry on Jul 8, 2007 3:31:42 GMT -5
Sylvia don't despair, I understand your mindset at the moment cos I went through the same thought processes. I think that you will generally go through a mourning process, come to terms with it and be fine if a little stronger. I had all sorts of hysterical thoughts and my boyfriend actually researched it and told me off for panicking. Ouchy is one person who is certainly proof of how you can conceive against mathematical odds, and she conceived naturally! No IVF, nothing! I know now of a girl younger than me (I'm 22) who has premature ovarian failure (like premature menopause) and is now having to have one of her fallopian tubes removed. It's the actual physical removal of part of her body that she's worried about, she believes that there is still hope of conception with her POF problem. I once said that I see my pain as a trade off for my fertility. Every bit of endo on your bladder, cul-de-sac etc is one less bit blocking your tubes and messing up your ovaries. Thank goodness for small graces! xx
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mel26
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I'm 19
Jul 8, 2007 4:25:40 GMT -5
Post by mel26 on Jul 8, 2007 4:25:40 GMT -5
Hi, Sylvia. Like everyone here said, you never know what could happen. There are many procedures to help women who can't have "conventional" pregnancy. I wasn't sure if I wanted children until my gyno told me I might not be able to have children.I only have a 40% chance of conception, and that's due to damage from an STI. So like pixie said, sometimes it isn't the endo that creates infertilty. In time you will come to terms with how you feel. Don't give up hope! Be well!
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I'm 19
Jul 8, 2007 5:37:38 GMT -5
Post by cass on Jul 8, 2007 5:37:38 GMT -5
I got told the same thing as i had endo on my ovaries on tubes. I will do what i can but at the moment im not thinking about it as if it cant happen it cant happen. I guess just having the option taken away form me is what gets to me the most. There is enough evidence out there such as Ouchy and Denna and a few friends i know who have been successful in conceiving depite being told otherwise. For the time being im going to enjoy being healthy!
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I'm 19
Sept 12, 2007 2:39:00 GMT -5
Post by alex*xoxo on Sept 12, 2007 2:39:00 GMT -5
I honestly thank god that I just found this. I am 19 too and All I want in life is to have a big family. I know EXACTLY how you feel about this. And how freaking stupid it is that at 19 we have to worry about this. I have been given more and more hope through reading through these message boards and I do now believe that there is hope. As long as well can pull through this now and just hold on long enough to get to the point where we are ready to have kids I know it will happen if god wants it to. And honestly.. as much as I would love to have my own children there are thousands of children in the world waiting to be adopted into a loving family.
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