lauren
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Post by lauren on Apr 19, 2006 1:57:11 GMT -5
I went to a GP yesterday, I have just not been coping...in the end after blood tests (waiting on results) and some other tests she diagnosed me as v. depressed. I dont understand this, I laugh and I can be completely happy, I'm a newly wed and ttc. my life is really good at da mo. she suggested that the depression is from the past and other bad phases in my life, the endo, my miscarriage, my brother's death and that i need to work through them and grieve them. she also said that i have an anxiety disorder, which makes sense actually...i'm a completely stressed out, highly strung kindof person. She said didnt want me on anti-depressants because of wanting to fall pregs. wants me to go to a psychologist. problem - :-/they cost money and i have never been satisfied with them before. Anyone have other ideas? natural products, ways of stress relief? I wanna know if its ok to do this my way...not sure i want to do the psychologist thing. It doesnt make sense...I'm happy now...just not coping. Could it be that now that I am happy and safe, that the past is telling me there are things that i need closure on before I have my own child...maybe I need to do this for me before my body will allow me to have a baby. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Post by erzulie on Apr 19, 2006 13:09:55 GMT -5
I think you have every right to do this your way. I'm certainly not in a position to decide whether or not you have depression, but it seems to me like doctors are very quick to diagnose that these days. Really a GP is not someone who can diagnose that at all. Only a psychiatrist can, and only after seeing you several times. If you don't think you are depressed, than maybe you're not. I do know that people can be happy and have fun at times even when they're depressed--it doesn't mean being sad all the time exactly, it's more like sad is your default emotion and it can be hard to feel other things. I think it's better not to worry yourself with labels most of the time. Sometimes it just brings people down. Depression is something you can pull out of, and some people see the diagnosis as motivation to work through whatever is bringing them down. Other people see the diagnosis as a terminal illness and an excuse not to do anything. I think it's better just to focus on what you know is wrong. You may very well be right though that you need to work through stuff from the past before you're ready to move on. I think all of us always need to grieve for the things we've lost before we can move on to any kind of happiness. Sometimes we don't get a chance to do it right away and it hits us years later. I expect that it would be a good idea to deal with that before you have a child--you don't want that baggage interfering with your mothering skills! Besides, we tend to pass things on to our children if we don't get them out of the way first. Possibly you would be able to find a good counselor who can help you work through stuff and develop better coping skills, so if you can afford it it might be worth a try. Sometimes it's just nice to have someone completely neutral to listen to you. And remember that we have the rant and rave space here whenever you need it!
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meka
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Post by meka on Apr 19, 2006 21:45:52 GMT -5
I don't understand how a GP could "diagnose" you as depressed if you didn't appear to be depressed. Wouldn't she have to see some marked signs?
I would not go to see a psychiatrist unless I felt comfortable, or like I needed it. If you don't feel that way I suppose you could be in denial, but even still, you have to go with what you feel, not the doctor. Plus, you might not be receptive to the psychologist if you aren't totally into it, and then it would be a big waste of time and money.
If you don't mind my asking, what do you mean by "not coping?" If you are laughing and happy and all, then what are you doing/feeling that means you aren't coping. (During the times when I'm not coping I'm generally not laughing and not happy.) *** Oops, never mind, I just read your post in the Rant and Rave section. Now I get it.
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Post by sunnycat on May 2, 2006 8:51:08 GMT -5
Hi Lauren, When you said you deal with depression by "not coping", I totally get what you're saying. I've been doing that for years and years. Some people may not understand this, but I can appear happy and cheerful on the outside, laughing and looking like I'm having fun.....but if someone were to ask me if I was happy, I couldn't honestly say yes. It seems to me that the way I have always "dealt" with my past issues is simply by just not dealing with them (is that what you mean when you say "not coping"?). I have just shoved and buried those past memories very deeply to the point that I don't think about it, even to the point of denial. It's like if I don't think about it, it never happened. But on some deeper level, I do know that those things have certainly happened. I have done that since childhood. I know they always say that you must face your demons and grieve and deal with them. I have avoided doing that and basically I just tell myself "someday". Well, "someday" never gets here and I'm not sure I want it to. But perhaps if I did work it out, maybe I could genuinely be a happy person. I have been to psychologists, too, and although I know they can be life-savers for some and I do have a great respect for them, I can't say they have helped me at all. Seems they just ask me a lot of questions and never really give me any advice or really discuss things with me. I think a really good therapist would be helpful. But for me, just having the support and comaraderie of other women in my situation is extremely helpful. You never know, just one little thing someone else may say might really go a long way in helping someone else. Lauren, my e-mail address is listed in my profile. If you ever want to privately e-mail me and just talk, I am here to listen....because I need to do the same. And anyone else here in the group, I would love to hear from you too.
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Post by smshakes on Jul 9, 2006 18:15:14 GMT -5
lauren i had problems feeling depressed as well just from being in constant pain all the time it gets overwelming not to mention the stresses of life on top of it there actually is some natural help vitamin b-100 it speeds up the metablolism gives you energy and can even help you to loosed weight, it helped me alot i was so tired and run down all the time i get mine from trador joes im not sure if you have one of those where you are they also have these packets of emergen-C that helps alot too, geting out and keeping busy help too.......if you need help relaxing or sleeping try calcium magnesium 1,500mg it works as a natural tranqulizer getting enough sleep can effect your mood...it takes a few days for the vitamins to get into your system but youll notice a difference, when i get lazy or run out i feel tired and down again plus i take alot of pain pills those and hormoens can get ya down hang in there i hope this helps
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Post by vatechgrad on Jul 18, 2006 15:03:57 GMT -5
I dealt with alot of issues awhile back. I was molested when I was a child and I guess I never really dealt with it. I slept around and took to drinking, heavily, at age 14 to kill the pain. I am so lucky to have come out of it all virtually unscathed. I have no regrets. I still acheived a great degree, good job, and all my choices lead me to my baby, who was unplanned.
I have been in and out of psychologist and shrinks offices since I was 7. I found the world's best pyschologist a few years ago while I was pregnant and freaking out. I had been on prozac prior to getting pregnant but I quit it due to pregnancy. She really helped me, I dealt with my anger, guilt, pain, etc and can truly say I accept what happened to me happened for a reason and I wouldn't be me without it. I don't blame me for what happened and I no longer have pain I need to kill. I can even socially drink (quit for 7 years from age 22 to 29) without it being a problem, and I'm in a monogamous relationship. All of things were vital to be a good mom and she helped me get there, I don't know where I would be without her. So I can say there are a lot of crappy psychologists out there, but there are alot of really good ones too. Keep looking, having someone to dump your problems on and vent, and really work through things with is a wonderful thing.
I hope things work out for you, but I can tell you I never felt like I was depressed becasue I would've never considered suicide, but I barely ever smiled or laughed and I always wanted to just be someone other than me.
Janet
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maryland
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Post by maryland on Jul 19, 2006 14:32:56 GMT -5
Lauren you can be depressed and not see it but others do. If you have endo more then likely you are suffering with depression in some kind of way. Everyone deals with depression in there own way. Sometime people don't have to take any kinds of meds are take to psych. and other have to take meds and see a psych. I would do what you feel is best for Lauren. There are some things that help with stress that is natural you can go to the gym or walk around the block ( if you are able to do that ) you can take St. Johns Wart or Kava Kava. I told Kava Kava and that helped me it made me sleepy so you might want to try it at night. Also I'm a massage therp. and massage does help with the endo as well as stress. I found CranioSacral Threrapy helps with pain as well as stress. I also do that as well. You can go to this website and it tell about CST www.iahe.com/html/therapies/cst.jsp. I found alot of relief through massage and cst. But you need to find whats helps you the most. Good luck .
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Post by Debra on Jan 29, 2007 13:46:39 GMT -5
I was real depressed until I found out was wrong with me..ENDo..I can now deal with it..I have been taking FIBROVAN and progesterone cream and believe it or not I feel much better..Nausea and fatigue GONE....
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