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Post by Jill on Feb 15, 2007 23:41:06 GMT -5
I just need to vent!!!!! My DH and I have been trying to conceive for over 2 years and last week I had a lap and was told that in the last 2 years there was no way I could of gotten pregnant because of endo. I felt like what a waste it has been. After my lap I was really sad but tried to stay positive until I just found out my sister in law is pregnant. Only married a year and really didn't have to try. Believe me I am happy for them but really feel you guys are the only ones who understand why I'm sad too. Thanks for listening, Jill
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Post by denna on Feb 16, 2007 0:30:28 GMT -5
hi Jill...
i know how you feel. i got married in 2004,my sister 2005 and her sister in law 2006, her sister in law is 5 months pregnant.i have anothe rcousin much younger than me who also got married in 2005 and already delivered a baby girl...so sad isn't it..but as people aleays told me..keep on trying.that day i overheard a lady telling another lady ( both are doing IUI like me) that she has been married for 13th years and this is the first time she is trying IUI. I feel much better coz at least i've tried all the way i can even before 2 years of marriage. so hang in there...keep on trying, i mean use all mean possible.
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Post by scarlett on Feb 16, 2007 15:07:17 GMT -5
Jill, I know just how you feel. I've only been trying for 10 months, but it feels like the longest time ever and in that time 5 people I know have got pregnant and/or had babies. It feels like all our friends are having babies with no problems at all. The place I work is mostly people in their 20s and 30s - I swear, if I see any more bumps appearing in the canteen I'm going to freak!!! The worst is feeling like we're getting left behind as even people who got married after us are now pregnant.
We've had conflicting advise from drs about whether we have any chance of conceiving naturally (1 says very low, 1 says maybe some), but we're keeping trying until about oct this year and then we'll try IVF. Are you trying anything to assist with conception? Maybe you haven't decided yet as you've only just had your lap.
Anyway, I really feel for you. I wish you lots of luck.
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Post by akcheryl on Feb 19, 2007 19:47:08 GMT -5
I also know how it feels. My husband and I have been trying since about October of 2005 (about 16 months). But we've been together for almost 8 years (and married for 1.5 years), and in all that time I never took bc at all.
My best friend got pregnant on her honeymoon and now has a beautiful 15 month old baby girl. I love her so much, and I think she's the only person who I was never jealous of getting pregnant.
But I've also known about 10 other couples who started ttc at the same time as us, and ALL of them have babies who range from 6 months to 2 months old right now!
I also know SOOO many other people who are currently pregnant, and NONE of them were even trying! In fact, one is considering an abortion (which I think is her choice, but it's not something I'd ever choose). It's just frustrating, because it seems like everyone else has a baby, AND is pregnant, AND no one understands what my husband and I are going through.
And when I tell people we're doing IVF, most of the time we get bad reactions. I told my aunt because I see her all the time and it would be hard to hide from her, and when I told her, she wouldn't even look at me! Then, a few days later she made some offhand comment about how a couple she's aquaintanced with did IVF and spent tens of thousands of dollars to have their 1st baby, and now they're pregnant for the 2nd time and weren't even trying this time. My aunt said "and their doctor told them they'd never get pregnant on their own." Oh, yeah, that's helpful! Never mind we don't know anything about that couple's circumstances, and my aunt doesn't know everything about my circumstances. It's not as if we're doing IVF just for fun, or like we haven't read everything we can find in bookstores, online, spoken to dozens of doctors...Argh!
Sorry, I just wish people were a little bit more understanding, or compassionate!
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Post by kb on Feb 19, 2007 21:46:02 GMT -5
To be honest, i dont understand the frustration, coz im a little reluctant to get pregnant, i tried for a few months but am now at a point i want to focus on my own health a little while, and then try, so i may yet come to understand these frustrations. But anyway, to the point. I thought id share with you a small encouraging story. I remember when i was a 3rd year student nurse i did a placement in a women and childrens unit, was a lovely place to work, lots of happy couples. The couple i remember the most were 40 odd, they were the most wonderful parents id ever come across, so enthusiastic about everything, the woman told me that they were told they could never have children (i never asked the reason, it didnt seem important), they had been trying to have children for 10years, and had tried IVF many times, they had almost given up when they were blessed with a beautiful healthy baby. I was so inspired by their dedication, and that they never gave up hope, in the end they were rewarded, and ive never seen a couple more deserving of that happiness. I know youve prob all heard these stories before, but i just thought it might be a little uplifting, i know what its like to be down in the dumps, hope it brightened your day
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Post by Jill on Feb 19, 2007 22:44:42 GMT -5
Thank you for lifting my spirits. It is so nice to talk to those who understand!
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Post by scarlett on Feb 20, 2007 15:04:01 GMT -5
Oh my goodness Jill, that's unreal! People should really realise that stress is a major factor for fertility, you'd think they would just want you to be happy no matter what the method. I can't understand it.
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