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Clomid
Feb 16, 2012 21:38:13 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 16, 2012 21:38:13 GMT -5
omg. I did some research and now thinking the problem might not totally be me. My husband was diagnosed with low testerone nearly 2 years ago. And he has been taking once a month injections ever since. I never thought he was the problem because he has a 6 and a half year old daughter from a previous marriage. but did my research and read that testerone replacement shots can lower sperm counts to ZERO! back then we weren't ttc, so the family dr might of not discussed infertility or side effects with him. I have him skipping his shot this month. very worried now. It will be pointless for me to be on Clomid if his sperm count is low. I want to him to take a sperm analysis if we still dont get a BFP this month.
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Clomid
Feb 17, 2012 7:07:47 GMT -5
Post by JC on Feb 17, 2012 7:07:47 GMT -5
If couples are having problems TTC then sometimes doctors do look to see if the husband/boyfriend/male counterpart (sorry trying to be politically correct lol) has an issue with fertility. It can range from low sperm count to blockages in their ducts, to infections. And of couuuuurrrrsseee male infertility is a lot easier to treat than ours. That would be a good idea to get his sperm count checked. Also if he has a problem with low testosterone then that would definitely explain his low sex drive too.
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Clomid
Feb 17, 2012 11:45:48 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 17, 2012 11:45:48 GMT -5
Angry that the dr didn't even ask if we were ttc. Just put him on the once a month shot. Now he may be infertile as well. Another question if my gyno said he saw a follicle and supposed to ovulate Saturday which is tomorrow shouldn't the okpd be positive by now? Took it at 9 am this morning still negative.
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Clomid
Feb 17, 2012 19:45:16 GMT -5
Post by semicolon on Feb 17, 2012 19:45:16 GMT -5
Over the past few months I've had a positive two days before ovulating and other months it was the same day as the o (OPK along with temping) so don't stress. Sometimes you also can miss the peak if it peaks between tests, so just keep hitting the sheets anyway!
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 12:07:55 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 12:07:55 GMT -5
This isn't going to work if I can barely get my husband to have sex. Last night he couldn't even get aroused. Tried again this morning nothing. We are def not going to get preg not having sex at the right times.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 12:23:23 GMT -5
Post by JC on Feb 18, 2012 12:23:23 GMT -5
I think it might be time he sees his doctor about his fertility. I would think there could be a happy medium with testosterone supplementation without reducing his sperm count. Is there anything bothering him that could cause this other than a hormone imbalance? Is trying to conceive stressing him out?
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 12:55:30 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 12:55:30 GMT -5
He used to have a normal sex drive. We would want sex fairly often. But when I was sick and had the ostomy, I would always turn him down. Now that we starred ttc, he never seems interested in sex at all. Yet he wants a baby. According to the transvaginal ultrasound I am supposed to ovulate today. We had sex Thursday but yesterday he couldn't even get aroused. And today still nothing so far. He has a 6 year old from A previous marriage so know he could father a child
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 12:57:34 GMT -5
Post by hellsbells on Feb 18, 2012 12:57:34 GMT -5
It's pretty normal for a guy to struggle when there's pressure to perform like this. I know you have a specific goal in mind from sex, but it still has to be nice, and fun, and sexy and not too clinical. Rather than push him, why not try setting the scene? Play the seductress?
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 13:10:25 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 13:10:25 GMT -5
I tried everything. Dressing in lingerie. Trying to be sexy, touching him. Trying not to pressure him. Nothing is working.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 13:55:04 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 13:55:04 GMT -5
Dr must have been off on the ultrasound, he told me I would be ovulating on Saturday which is today. I have yet to get a smiley face, just took one, still negative. Guess it is a good thing since I haven't got my husband to have sex since Thursday. It is like he will hug me, cuddle and kiss. But that is the furthest it will go. He barely even tries to have foreplay. I feel being on clomid is pointless if his sex drive is nearly non exist ant. I miss how our sex life was and can't seem to get on back on track. Turn 36 in 4 more months and feel it will never happen for a baby. We even have his 6 year old gone all this week. And it just the 2 of us, and nothing.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 15:10:43 GMT -5
Post by JC on Feb 18, 2012 15:10:43 GMT -5
Think it could be the low testosterone? That could be a HUGE factor in a man's low sex drive. Try not to be mad at him. This could be just as stressful on him as it is you.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 15:29:34 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 15:29:34 GMT -5
Even when he was on the monthly shot, as soon as we actively started ttc, he lost all interest in sex. I asked him over and over if he really wants a baby. He insists he does. All the fertility treatments in the world are not going to help if we barely have sex. But does anyone know why my okpd would still be negative? Yet gyno said from ultrasound I would ovulate today.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 15:44:47 GMT -5
Post by JC on Feb 18, 2012 15:44:47 GMT -5
I'm really not a huge fan of those ovulation kits. I think they aren't as accurate as we'd like them to be and often times they cause more stress than help. Those kits test for the lutenizing hormone (LH) which is a hormone released from your pituitary gland in your brain. LH then travels to your ovaries and tells them to get an egg matured and ready to be released. Getting positive or negative results tell you nothing about what your ovaries are actually doing. You have no idea from those results whether your ovaries are responding or not. That's why we like to do basal body temperatures because the increase in body temperature after ovulation indicates that an egg has in fact been released from your ovary. If you are getting positive test results from your ovulation predictor kit and you're not getting pregnant, then the next thing to look for is whether your ovaries are responding to the lutenizing hormone. Temping is great for that! Also, the ultrasound you got seems to be a good predictor too. I did a google search and found this forum where a woman asked the question if whether anyone had ever gotten pregnant with constant negative OPK results. There were a couple of women that said their kits never predicted an ovulation and they got pregnant. Here's the link if you want to read it: www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-first-trimester/22853-anyone-every-have-negative-opk-still-get-pregnant.html
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 17:22:31 GMT -5
Post by tigergirl10 on Feb 18, 2012 17:22:31 GMT -5
well I am hoping that the BD we did on Thursday was enough. if I am truly ovulating right now. I tried doing the tempting thing but would always forget, and get up to go to the bathroom, and then oops I forgot to tempt the last 2 months, And I always get up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom as well. We tried last night to BD, Husband couldn't even get aroused, same thing this morning. tried again about an hour ago, put on my sexiest lingerie, we did foreplay. He was able to have sex, but never could climax. We are going to try again tonight but have a fear it is going to be a repeat and it may be too late. I tried calling his doctor 3 times yesterday to talk to them about the shots. to tell them we been ttc and any alternatives to improve his testestrone, his sex drive, and his sperm count. 3 times I tried calling the dr, and they never returned my calls! even if we wasn't ttc, I want a healthy sex life as I have a very high drive. and it is hard going day after day without sex esp when we been married only 2 and half months, and you think we would be going like crazy. About a week after he receives the shot, his sex drive improves somewhat, but can do it anymore if it is destroying his sperm count. I did my research and heard of men actually taking Clomid to improve testerstrone and it doesn't destoy the sperm count. just need something fast. these ultrasounds are nearly $400 out of pocket, and I can ovulate all I want, but if there is no sperm to meet the egg, I am just wasting my money and time. oh and I did get postives on the okpd on the last 2 months I used okpd. we timed everything perfect but didn't get pregnant. and I tempted those months and did get the temp spike, so I am sure I ovulated. I really do think it is my husband and that is why I am not getting pregnant. but I been as patient and loving as I can with him, and reassuring it is not his fault, but I just want help for him.
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Clomid
Feb 18, 2012 17:30:24 GMT -5
Post by JC on Feb 18, 2012 17:30:24 GMT -5
Sounds like you're doing everything you could. I hope you hear from his doctor soon. That sounds like the next step you guys need to take.
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