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Post by ouchy on Nov 16, 2007 19:09:53 GMT -5
gemini! you're back! have you tried any of the methods of working around the pain yet?
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Post by gemini on Nov 25, 2007 11:51:42 GMT -5
Hey ouchy... I won't lie to you ...no i haven't ! i just dun have the energy or the desire to do anything...i just want the whole thing over and done with ...
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Post by jjuls22 on Dec 10, 2007 20:54:08 GMT -5
does anyone have positions that they have found to work? or be better pain wise?
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Post by nuala on Jan 21, 2008 10:06:18 GMT -5
I have tried some different 'toys' as a substitute for the usual painful penetration, but I have now discovered that I even the toys that just vibrate (no penetration) although the work very well in the climax department, I still get alot of pain and cramping feelings for a couple of days afterwards.....can anyone shed light on the subject or explain why even when i dont have penetration does climax still cause agony?
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Post by cherry on Jan 21, 2008 14:28:26 GMT -5
Your body goes nuts upon climax, probably why the orgasm can become a whole body experience. I know the contractions you get in the pelvic region were a big source of pain for me. They have caused a dull ache most of the time but there have been times (inc right after my op) that I have been forced stop. Cos if you know what I mean, my man is persistent One dose of pain is enough. jjuls 22, I've found that spooning is the gentler position
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Post by pickles on Feb 6, 2008 9:24:45 GMT -5
recently there has been more pain during sex than normal for me. I think foreplay is key. If you are a little revved up per say, it really helps make this a little easier down there. I still swear by the position I mentioned earlier. Me on my side with my knees up and him ontop on his stomach similar to mission style.
Another thing my doctor mentioned that might help is he told me to really RELAX. He said if you anticipate pain and are freaked out about it hurting it probably will. If you relax and try to get into it a little more and go slowly and keep trying positions until it feels comfortable it will help.
I think it also depends on where you feel pain. But the girls are right, communication is key. The guy doesn't want to hurt you. That is a given and it turns them off if they do. So if you just talk about it and see what works for the two of you, it might be a easier.
If any penetration is painful, I'd suggest.. um, exterior pleasure? Toys, manual or orally, at least until you can come to a conclusion with your doctor as to what the three of you can do about it.
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Post by cutiepie on Apr 6, 2008 22:24:42 GMT -5
I first had pain in my lower abdomane and it was annoying and uncomfortable and I was told evencually it was IBS. Well it finally went away but then I developed painful sex.It would happen mostly when I had my legs up and especially on my fiances shoulders and doggy was out of the question. I was convinced there was something not right and so was he. I was refered to a gynocologist who suggested a ultra sound which showed a cyst on my right ovary and I was told it was nothing to worry about. I was then put on the mini pill birth control and had another ultra sound 2 monhs late arnd it had gone. I have side affects of the pills though so stopped them. I still had the painful sex though. So was put on a waiting list for lasparoscopy which I had just 3 weeks ago this Tuesday. They found endometriousus on my right ovary and my uturus they caterized it. I was told to go back on the mini pill which I am willing to give another go. I have not had sex again yet cause waiting to be free of pain from the surgery. Anyone know how long after a lasparoscopy is okay to go back to exercising? I am still quite sore lower abdomane and ribs. But I do notice not abeing able to exercising I am gaining weight which I am not happy about! I am so happy I have my fiance cause he is such a great support though this all and beyond!
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Post by cass on Apr 7, 2008 5:41:36 GMT -5
there is no set time for when you can start exercising again but you should rest for 7-10days. oyu will know within yourself when you feel right to go back to it but just start off slow and build yourself up gradually. i suggest keeping your legs off fiance's shoulders for a while though
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Post by cherry on Apr 7, 2008 18:12:16 GMT -5
The pain there is happening with deep penetration, so it's going to be easier on you to be trying positions that don't give such full access (anything where his pelvic bone is not right against your vagina/perium area) like missionary, spooning, lying on your belly and so on.
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Post by jjuls22 on May 3, 2008 21:30:34 GMT -5
ok, im gonna take a deep breath and just type this out.. since no one has mentioned it and i know some of the ladies on here are around my age(25) (ive heard that this is wildly unaccepted by some later generations) sigh... here it goes..... does any one have experience with anal sex? there i said it! ok i typed it... but, any takers on this subject?
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Post by ouchy on May 3, 2008 22:40:14 GMT -5
LOL!!!!!!!!! Sorry. That one caught me off guard! I've just turned 28, but I have never tried that. Don't think I'll try, either! LOL! Not just bc of the "yuck factor" and how easily intestines broke apart in lab, but also bc I'm scared I'd get ripped apart. I've had my intestines and colon tacked over to my pelvic wall a couple times by the endo. I can only imagine having to go to the E.R. and explain why I have some serious internal bleeding. LOL!
Good luck, though. I'm sure you'll get some replies on the subject. We're a pretty open bunch of gals, here. Kudos for posting this!
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Post by cass on May 4, 2008 1:15:47 GMT -5
i have never tried that nor will i ever let my fiance near that region! ew! after resections of small bowel, large bowel and rectum nothing will be happening there.
ive always been grossed out by the whole anal sex thing but i hope u get the responses you are looking for!
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Post by cherry on May 4, 2008 7:32:15 GMT -5
I have a friend who was pretty open about what happened between him and his girlfriend, and she loved it. I didn't. It just doesn't compute for me. I think for some people they get off wholly on the fact that it's taboo. But yeah I've tried it and I'd rather not. Are you thinking of trying it or have you tried already jjuls?
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Post by jjuls22 on May 4, 2008 8:17:34 GMT -5
wow thanks for replying ladies! i was all worried that you would all be disgusted! anyways, yes ive tried, not really my thing but my wonderul boyfriends feels like its an alternative to having sex since i cant really do that. soooo i dunno how i feeel. I do feel bad cuz of the whole sex thing, but im not sure if its a good solutions for me ya know? and of course he'd never force me into it. I've never heard of it ripping intestines and stuff like that, thats pretty damn scary!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I hope peopple keep posting, i would love to hear others thoughts on it. thanks again for your replies ladies!! ;D
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Post by jennandryan on Aug 10, 2008 13:42:29 GMT -5
I'm sad to say that I've started having pain with sex now. We're still TTC and that makes it hard, but my left side has just started to kill during intercourse and last night it continued to hurt for a good 30 minutes or so afterward. I know it's my left ovary and that sucks. I'll have to try some of the olive oil since we currently use mineral oil for lube, but does anyone have any other advice for that kind of pain? And jjuls, I'll admit that I've had anal sex. My husband absolutely loves it and most of the time I'm not a real fan of it, but I just suck it up for his pleasure. It's less uncomfortable (and you're less likely to tear) if he starts to (TMI ALERT!!) stretch you out beforehand with his fingers. We use plastic gloves that I had left over from a chemistry class a few semesters ago to keep things sanitary and easier to clean up and use lube for sure. The first few times I tore and it felt incredibly uncomfortable and sometimes just downright gritty, but I've learned a few things. Anyway, if you've got questions or anything, let me know! Anyone got any advice for the ovary pain?
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