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Post by pretty on Feb 17, 2011 14:19:59 GMT -5
I've been really excited lately since I finally went to the naturopath and have scheduled some tests to see what's going on with my hormones, adrenals, etc. i don't understand the tests well enough to explain them to hubby and he's just sort of freaked out by spending more money on testing these things. And he's convinced that the NP is a freak and that i'm wasting money on something that is a rip-off. Of course i understand his concern, but my personal issue with this is that when my husband is not happy with me for some reason I become unable to talk.... it's like my brain shuts off, ptsd or something from getting yelled at too often as a child, IDK.... anyhow does anyone else get this, or have a way around it.... I was thinking I would just type a short list of what the NP suggested, what the test will show, and why I think it's going to help?
I think part of the issue, is since we are TTC, I am hoping sorting out my hormones will help us learn more about how to TTC and I think my husband maybe doesn't get that thisis the direction. i know he's not mad at me, he just feels like we spent SO much money last year on surgery, hospital, travel to surgery, hotel, and all that jazz, and he just thinks it's an endless road to nowhere.... (which I agree at times but endo is hard, and you can't give up hope, right?)
anyhow, just tired and sad and confused, and have so much to do, and I'm too tired to think straight!
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Post by ouchy2 on Feb 17, 2011 15:22:55 GMT -5
Hugs. Sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything. It sounds like a good idea, the list. My husband is the same way, and I usually just shut down and cry after a while.
Give or read him the list and let him absorb it. Also, let him know that by understanding your body and cycle, you'll be saving money on fertility treatments as you'll be a step ahead of the game!
Hugs. Maybe after he understands the list, he will absorb it and come around.
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Post by pretty on Feb 17, 2011 15:55:02 GMT -5
Yeah, I'm sure he'll be fine, I just always forget that I haven't explained it yet... Too many things in my head.... FOCUS pretty FOCUS. I know I drive him nuts not telling him stuff, yet the reason I don't tell him, is he gets super frustrated and moans and groans, making me even more unwilling to tell him the next thing! it's an ugly little cycle we have going here.... At least he WANTS to conceive, I just think he's resigned to it not happening, which makes all this seem even more silly (to him). anyways thanks anastasia!
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Post by ouchy2 on Feb 17, 2011 15:59:06 GMT -5
Anastasia. LMAO. Tell him to be positive, or you'll kick him in his forehead!
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Post by JC on Feb 17, 2011 19:46:48 GMT -5
I'm in the similar boat Pretty. I try to explain things to my husband and he just gets frustrated and doesn't want to listen anymore. I gave up on him. I usually keep things to myself or give a very vague overview. But your situation is different because you guys are trying to conceive! Tell him not to give up hope!
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Post by KSA on Feb 17, 2011 20:14:00 GMT -5
same situation other than trying to concieve but we were at that point a few years before my hysterectomy. Its hard and after all this he still does not get it all endo is a ton to understand. Did you read The Spoons post Jenaya put on what its like to have Lupus/ auto immune disorders. Email that to him or read it in bed one night. Also typing out what NP said puts it in perspective for him let him see it all. Your not alone I have almost lost hope with my husband he doesn't listen to me or the docs it frustrating. It will get better tho I think you have the right idea. Good Luck~
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Post by pretty on Feb 17, 2011 20:35:55 GMT -5
thanks gals, once again, I am so thankful for all of you, and it makes me so full of hope. yeah jenay and keri, we just get through it somehow, with a little help from our friends! love you.
seriously without you all I am just a big, wet ball of hormonal mush. oh, and estrogen. lol
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Post by Karen on Feb 17, 2011 20:36:15 GMT -5
Here's how I try to explain it to my friends and family: I have a disorder that appears to be a mix between an autoimmune disorder and a hormonal imablance. Surgery will help remove what's already there, and meds may treat some of the symptoms, but at the end of the day, I need to manage the autoimmune part and the hormonal part so long term I feel a ton better, and I'm actually getting to the root of the problem.
You're already on the diet, and he understands (hopefully) how much better you feel, and I think that plays into the autoimmune part of endo - you're reducing the number of things that your body reacts to, which in turn seems to reduce the amount of pain that your body puts you through. Now, you're working on the other part of the equation - getting that hormonal imbalance figured out. All the good sex in the world won't make a baby if they're so out of whack, so not only will it help your chances to conceive, but it'll also help you feel better in the LONG run to manage what will likely be a lifelong thing. I figure it's better to spend the $ now and get to the root of the problem and feel better now, or fumble around for years and wasting a lot of my life from feeling crappy.
Good luck getting through to that thick skull of his!
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Post by pretty on Feb 17, 2011 20:37:45 GMT -5
Ok, minus that last comment (LOL) Karen I am now printing your comment and going to read it to him verbatim.
LOVE YOU!
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Post by Karen on Feb 17, 2011 20:42:57 GMT -5
No prob, woman! And GOOD LUCK!!
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Post by JC on Feb 17, 2011 20:47:09 GMT -5
Damn Karen! You're hired!
Men love it when you break it down into steps like that. HAHA I'm gonna ask you for man-code advice more often!
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Post by Karen on Feb 17, 2011 20:49:41 GMT -5
Ha ha, go right ahead. I'm great at dishing it out but horrible at keeping the same man around long enough to put it to use. Any tips on how to tolerate the same guy for more than 5 dates?
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Post by JC on Feb 17, 2011 20:56:15 GMT -5
Lower your IQ
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Post by Karen on Feb 17, 2011 20:58:41 GMT -5
Hahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!
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Post by KSA on Feb 18, 2011 10:19:14 GMT -5
Very well put Karen! Good Luck Pretty~Jenaya lower your IQ lmao! Or find a man at your level Karen when I was at the Cleveland Clinic this week I told my girlfriend if we areever single we need to hang out there. Smarties and cuties lol who needs a bar to pick up a guy when a hospital with men and woman of great minds exsists;)
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