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Post by hellsbells on Dec 24, 2010 6:38:29 GMT -5
I honestly don't know why I'm a little bit more comfortable with male medics. It might just have been the individuals themselves rather than the gender, and the experiences I've had with them. Maybe sometimes I find the males a little more sympathetic, or factual. As for openly discussing personal issues, as far as I'm concerned they're doctors, they've probably seen/heard it all before and they can't help properly unless you give them all the facts. When I first saw my gynae he commented on how refreshing it was that I was able to be so open with him about intimate details, so male or female, they're just there to do their job.
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Post by Karen on Dec 24, 2010 8:04:50 GMT -5
I think telling your doc about the intimate details is one thing - they think of things in terms of biology and how things work, basically the mechanics of it all. But I think delving into the how-that-biology-makes-you-FEEL part would be a bit trickier for me. And it's a lot different being in a 15 minute appointment with a doc when he's busy looking at your chart/examining you/etc. than being in a 1 hour appointment where all you do is talk!
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Post by hellsbells on Dec 24, 2010 8:12:24 GMT -5
Yeah I get that, but if I didn't feel I could open up about everything to a therapist, they wouldn't be the therapist for me, male or female.
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Post by uncomfortable on Dec 27, 2010 6:32:57 GMT -5
What you say about them not being the right therapist for you makes sense Helen. I guess I just have a hard time not feeling embarrassed or awkward about what is bothering me. Whether they are professional or not. I think I find the factual side of most males to be difficult to want to express my emotions to. I feel like I would get a more emotional-pain separation rather then dealing with it as a whole. Although maybe I need to separate them to deal with it?
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Post by hellsbells on Dec 27, 2010 8:15:53 GMT -5
To me, the idea of therapy is being able to open up and clear your mind. If you don't feel comfortable doing that with a particular therapist, regardless of gender, maybe you should ask about seeing someone else. I'm sure the guy will understand completely, but I don't think you'll get what you need out of it if you can't fully open up x
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