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Post by JC on Aug 23, 2010 14:37:20 GMT -5
I think a lot of doctors go into medicine for the business opportunity and less people go into it for the intrinsic "calling" that some of us have. As a result, you get these pompous jerks on their high horses that don't like people knowing more than them. They just want to see as many people as possible, get in-get out. I got lucky with my doctor. He specializes in endometriosis, pelvic pain, and infertility. He is wonderful. One day I went in there so frustrated and depressed, I just broke down and cried telling him how my symptoms were making my life difficult. He had the most compassionate look on his face, he genuinely looked like he felt bad. He even held my hand. It was so comforting.
The best way to get proper health care is to #1: know your body well. #2: Keep doctor shopping until you find the right one! Don't settle and assume they know best. and #3 always do your research reguarding your symptoms, treatment, and medications.
I really really really don't ever want to be a doctor that doesn't listen and leaves their patients scared and confused. I've already chosen to be an ER doc but I've also considered OBgyn because of how much help women need. We need OBs that LISTEN to us and WANT to help us. We'll see. lol I've got plenty of time to change my mind.
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Post by lizzylou on Aug 23, 2010 19:22:58 GMT -5
We need OBs that LISTEN to us and WANT to help us. This made me LOL, it reminds me of a typical thing we'd say to our men, I might try it with my dr "I don't just want you to help me, I want you to WANT to help me" lol
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Post by cherry on Aug 24, 2010 5:58:31 GMT -5
Jenaya I was in the same boat last time I saw my consultant. He's great, and an expert in fertility and endo, but the crying made him look itchy! I love that this board is a place for opinions as well as facts and that we have such a variety of experiences between us. Honestly, if I hadn't been a member when my old consultant tried to brush me off, I would have accepted it and been in a horrible situation today I'm sure of it. But I was told by endo girls to trust what my body was telling me, and to keep pushing to get proper care. And here I am today, with wonderful support, feeling as near to cured as I could feel, and with a brilliant gynae on hand if my endo 'reappears'. So I'd like to add a number 4 to jenaya's list that ties in with number 3: use and feed into your support system to the fullest extent. A problem shared is a problem halved and talking about experiences helps others to get answers as well as you.
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Post by JC on Aug 24, 2010 9:43:23 GMT -5
Well said Cherry! And cute picture!!!!!!
And lizzylou, OMG that was hilarious! I WANT you to WANT to help me!! hahah I can't begin to tell you how many times I've thought that about my husband. I sometimes think, "CAN'T YOU ACTUALLY CARE!!?!!?!?!? "
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Post by pretty on Aug 24, 2010 12:42:52 GMT -5
ladies you have the prettiest nicest pictures. cherry you look so sweet I love your cat! nice to see your face!
me too jenaya, usually have to wait a couple days for the caring I want to percolate through all the man-brain-layers and come out as his truth. usually in the form of: "you are the one best thing in my life and you know it so why do I have to say all this crap just because you like to hear it" bastard! we're both right. he does love me and I know it, and I need to hear it in different ways anyway.
and as far as doctors, I just want to cry for them too, they have obviously (some of them) come so far from the place where they started out wanting to heal others, to be in that place where nothing they hear is true, they distrust themselves, patients, and other doctors, and must just feel lost most of the time. makes it easier to doc shop tho, since you really need to have SOME kind of connection, and if they're not getting it, why pay again and again to go back and try to make them get it? so frustrating tho!
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Post by JC on Aug 24, 2010 14:05:18 GMT -5
I still think there should be a money-back-guarantee with all these damn doctor visits. I spent a total of $58 when I saw that crappy neurologist. WTF!? And I ended up WORSE off!
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Post by omaklackey on Aug 24, 2010 15:54:41 GMT -5
no kidding on the money back, My doctor in town told me the Gastro doc who screwed up my colonoscopy should have had to pay for it himself. That would have been nice...
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Post by sweety on Aug 25, 2010 10:06:46 GMT -5
Its funny and how often I thought about the same lol. Not just spending the consultation fees but all the tests they offer uselessly! Docs get offended if the see a patient suggesting things to them, jerks! They dont understand each patient is different and should be treated differently. Seriously if they actually want to treat us, they'll become so much experienced and great docs!
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Post by sweety on Aug 25, 2010 10:07:27 GMT -5
N hey nice pic Cherry, i love cats!
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Post by KSA on Aug 25, 2010 10:39:53 GMT -5
When my hematologist screwed up my iron infusion and did not give me the 15 minute dose as I had asked and almost killed me I called a good friend who does medical malpractice. He said docs can give out wrong treatments, advice and even almost kill you but if you don't die its not worth the fight. He said that in the end the doctors have so many expert witness that it costs a fortune to sue. My issue was not money, I just wanted to make them accountable for the wrong action and change the policy so that other patients would not have to experience what I did. He said its sad to say but someone will prob have to die first before they change. That is HORRIBLE! File a complaint with the medical board if you are unhappy with any treatment that was his word of advice for me. If you girls are not being told the right info I encourage you to please do that also. These docs are covered with all the insurance they pay to fight medical malpractice but if they do something wrong and you are affected do not let it slide because they are doctors.
The simple 15 minute dose test for me could of prevented my issue. The doc had already said he was worried I may not tolerate it but still did not inform his staff that they should do that. The staff was so mean to me about asking that I let them run the dose I will NEVER let anyone in the medical field make me feel bad about asking for anything anymore. I was clear with them I did not feel right. The lack of listening to patients and compassion from medical staff is damaging to a doctors reputation and practice. It cost me 5 days in the hospital and almost losing my life to realize I know my body better then a doctor or anyone else!
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Post by omaklackey on Aug 25, 2010 12:31:18 GMT -5
ah, communication... the world would be a better place if we all just communicated with each other. I had a little fun looking up the word:
1. the act or process of communicating; fact of being communicated. 2. the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs. 3. something imparted, interchanged, or transmitted. 4. a document or message imparting news, views, information, etc.
I recently changed doctors and she was trying to suggest some stuff about my stomach pain/inflammation and she goes "while it could be menstral related, you should maybe try a gynecologist" my response was classic........... "um didn't you read the chart, I had a hysterectomy for stage 4 endo" "oh no, I couldnt read the chart there was to much there to read" She actually said that! It was priceless! Now I think it was hilarious because the absurdity of that statement.
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Post by cherry on Aug 25, 2010 18:36:35 GMT -5
Speaking of that pic (thanks for the compliments guys ) my cats certainly think they know more than my doctors and like to give me pelvic physiotherapy. It really doesn't help though, with the claws.
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Post by pretty on Aug 26, 2010 15:20:54 GMT -5
Speaking of that pic (thanks for the compliments guys ) my cats certainly think they know more than my doctors and like to give me pelvic physiotherapy. It really doesn't help though, with the claws. ah, ha ha ha ha ha! love the critters! Soooo helpful they are!
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Post by cherry on Sept 3, 2010 3:02:59 GMT -5
Well Luther can be quite manly and just stomp all over me. He sees me holding a hottie when my sister is on her period and thinks 'I shall stomp on that area later' Aww but honestly, they have been very sweet to me when it's been terrible pain or I've been crying over some stupid boy. They're almost as good as dogs for being sweet during the bad times, sat next to me rather than on me and purring or chattering away to me. The budgies just exclaim a lot, they literally make whistling noises that sound like 'whoa! (you look terrible mummy, go take that mascara off)'
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Post by cherry on Sept 3, 2010 3:04:59 GMT -5
Damn I so wrote that in the wrong topic. I go to see my GP(s) on Monday, fingers crossed I don't get a stupid one (1 of them literally doesn't believe I could be in so much pain from endo and has said so. Avoid avoid avoid) "Yes doc I talk about vomiting or fainting with the pain because for endo girls it's not very unusual, and it wouldn't do to get hysterical would it"
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