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Post by Karen on Apr 30, 2010 12:23:15 GMT -5
(Hugs!)
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Post by lizzylou on May 1, 2010 18:58:15 GMT -5
Where in the heck have I been? I'm sorry to hear! I don't know what else to say, I'm not so geat at comforting words. I'm just so sorry. I'm glad you got to say goodbye.
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Post by Kitty on May 1, 2010 19:10:40 GMT -5
I'm sorry for you lost Jenaya. I'm glad you knew what was right for you and headed here to cali! My thoughts are with you and your family during this time.
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Post by hellsbells on May 2, 2010 11:33:18 GMT -5
OMG I'm so sorry I totally missed your post! I'm glad you got to say goodbye, it was a comfort to me that I got to say goodbye to mine. He'll always be with you and will always be looking out for you. You know where I am xx
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Post by JC on May 2, 2010 22:51:42 GMT -5
I'm sorry for you lost Jenaya. I'm glad you knew what was right for you and headed here to cali! My thoughts are with you and your family during this time. I've been thinking about you alot during all this cause I know that you had the loss of your dad. Also thank you everyone for being so awesome. Thank you Helen for talking to me on facebook. I'm still in california, I'm sorry I haven't been around the board much. I'm actually a bit more involved with the funeral planning than I thought so I've been kinda busy. It's been crazy here but I feel so blessed and lucky to have the opportunity to be here with my family, AND in California!
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Post by pamelaj on May 3, 2010 7:40:52 GMT -5
Im so sorry to hear about your loss Jenaya. Im glad you were able to say your goodbyes though. I think that was what made loosing my dad a wee bit easier. Although the loss of a loved one is never easy, saying goodbye gives a bit of closure. Im glad your in Cali, surrounded by loved ones. I'll been thinking of you. Hugs!!!
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Post by Kitty on May 3, 2010 22:44:27 GMT -5
Ya Jenaya i totally know what you're going through. It's an aching hole in your heart. Time will cover the hole but it will always be there underneath. Just gotta remember that they aren't suffering anymore and are in a better place now. <3
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Post by JC on May 6, 2010 0:17:39 GMT -5
Ugh... tomorrow is the funeral. It took SO MUCH PLANNING. I can't believe how ridiculous funerals are. It's so sad how much you have to do and how expensive it is. I'm anxious to get this over with. It has drug on forever, I am just scared because I know the true magnitude of his death will hit me after I resume back to my normal life. Ugh
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Post by cherry on May 6, 2010 6:22:31 GMT -5
Hugs and prayers your way honey. I experienced my loss a long time ago so can't offer advice, but my memories are a comfort, I sometimes feel like he's with me. I hope your dad and siblings are coping ok.
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Post by Karen on May 6, 2010 6:36:50 GMT -5
I hope you're able to get some closure today, hun. It doesn't mean the hurt will stop, but I hope it will start your healing. As for helping plan the funeral, as exhausting and hard as it may have been, it is also a very sincere way to honor him properly. Wouldn't you want your closest family members making sure every detail is just right, that it's a service that's true to who you were? It's a very sweet final gift to your grandpa. I hope there's some laughter today, too, as you remember him! He sounded like quite the guy.
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Post by hellsbells on May 6, 2010 13:44:55 GMT -5
Funerals are so sad, but there's a huge sense of relief afterwards. One of the worst parts of a bereavement is planning/going to the funeral, but once it's over, you can all have a few drinks and toast his memory xxx
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Post by JC on May 7, 2010 12:07:54 GMT -5
So the funeral went well. It was a long day, about 100 people came. Tons of family I haven't seen in a few years. It was awesome. A bunch of cousins and uncles got really drunk at the reception. I was one of the sober baby sitters. LOL We did have some good laughs, then they'd get all sentimental and cry together. It was a good session. We had a good time. As for me, I guess I'm up and down. I feel the need to honor him as much as possible and just continue with my goals. He was always there for me, like a second father. I love him and I miss him, my heart feels broken. And Karen, he definitely was quite the guy. We were all laughing cause it was hard to talk about him without cussing. Since his service was in a Catholic church, we were all having a hard time. haha. He was a crazy dude, loved his women, loved his work, he was a Korean war vet, just an all around great guy. You either loved him or hated him. He sure had a f*cking MOUTH! That's where I get my potty mouth from!
I appreciate you ladies so much. You all know what this feels like unfortunately, but having you all here supporting me and being so understanding has made all the world of a difference. I will be back posting regularly in a few days when I fly back and get through finals.
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Post by sunshine78 on May 8, 2010 21:23:26 GMT -5
Jenaya, I'm so sorry to find out about this.
I hope you' re faring well (as well as can be expected - it all happened so fast; those are the ones that really just knock you down). I'm glad you had a chance to say goodbye. That'll be something that you can carry with you, always.
Good luck with everything... and don't worry about everything going down the toilet. It will all work out. Just keep on keepin' on. That's all you can do. *hugs*
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Post by Kitty on May 10, 2010 10:24:45 GMT -5
Jenaya I dont know the whole situation with your husband but when your mourning they say careful with those decisions. Because usually you have a hard time thinking. When my dad died i sent my bf away for like 2 weeks (we've been together 8-9 yrs). I do understand you need comfort right now ppl that understand. And support you. So I just wanted to give you a heads up we are here for you. And do try to think things through. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I know/understand how hard it can be. Especially having endo and going through griefing it can be very emotional times. Remember it's your right as a griever to be sad. And really no two ppl go through grieving the same way. You might want to get a book on grief. They can sometimes help. <3
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Post by JC on May 11, 2010 8:23:31 GMT -5
Thanks Kitty. I know you're right. I'm trying very hard not to make huge decisions when I'm so emotionallly charged. I had myself convinced that I was going to leave my husband and move back to california. Then we talked last night and I started to become unsure again. I am literally sick with anger and stress. I look forward to the day when all this is solved... whenever that will be....
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