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Post by erzulie on Jan 7, 2007 22:20:43 GMT -5
Depends on the joke and who's telling the joke. Gay people tell gay jokes all the time, but the jokes invented by gay people tend to be different from those told by straight people. A good gay joke makes fun of a stereotype instead of reinforcing it. Then again, there are some jokes that really can only be told by the people they're about. Otherwise they might get taken the wrong way.
Anyway, ouchy, I certianly hope you're not planning to use this thread to tell gay jokes!
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Post by ouchy on Jan 7, 2007 23:31:42 GMT -5
Anyway, ouchy, I certianly hope you're not planning to use this thread to tell gay jokes! Of course not! I've just always wondered. My high school sweetheart...now really is a "sweetheart." I used to tell him alllllllll the gay jokes I would hear at work. Some of them were really bad. I feel bad about it now. He would laugh, but looking back, I don't know whether or not he was laughing because he thought the jokes were funny...or just to be a guy and not let on that he was gay.
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Post by candice on Jan 8, 2007 15:57:06 GMT -5
Hi. You know, I often wondered why there was no lesbian section but I didn't want to say anything in case my wonderings were unwanted. I am very much in favour of the idea. I am not gay, but I have many friends who are gay or bisaexual. One of them has endometriosis and she suffers many of the issues already brought up. I have often gotten the comment, "too bad your not a lesbian-that would solve all your problems . My major issues with the disease are sexual. The comment has bothered me as much as the other comment - "get pregnant". Anyway, now I'm off topic. My point is that I think that even if underused by gay people, the stuff brought up from this section needs to be shared and discussed. The more people understand that this disease affects everyone, gay, strait, young, old and even men (it certanly affects my husband) the better. As for rules with posting, as long as no one is posting anti-gay coments, I don't see any real reason to have rules. Unlike the teen section, where advice might change a little given the age and experience of the questions, adults really don't have a need to edit what we say to eachother. At least, I can't think of a situation where I would have to edit myself in a lesbian posting. Just my thoughts. Thanks for bringing this up.
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Post by erzulie on Jan 8, 2007 17:24:46 GMT -5
Candice, you should get your friend to join, then we'll have more reason to create such a section! Who is it that keeps telling you your problems would be solved if you were a lesbian? That's insane! Certainly from a sexual standpoint I am grateful to be a lesbian, because personally I can't handle any kind of penetration without pain, I mean I wouldn't even be able to wear a tampon, so there's no way I could have sex with a man. I feel really, really fortunate not to desire that, since it would be kind of frustrating to want to do something I couldn't enjoy. But that hardly solves all my problems--it just eliminates that one problem. I still have extremely painful, heavy periods, and sometimes I have a lot of pain even between periods, so I still have plenty of problems! I agree that rules are hughly unlikely to be necessary. Anti-gay comments are not allowed anywhere on the forum, so even that wouldn't be an issue.
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Post by candice on Jan 9, 2007 18:10:03 GMT -5
I've told my friend about the site. She doesn't have regular computer access so it's hard for her to spend her computer time online. She's a gradstudent and does all her computer work at the university. Usually, I pass information on to her I've read on here. As for the stupid lesbian comments, they came from some family members. It's funny though, the first time I had the comment I shrugged it off as a stupid, ignorant, but harmless comment. I figured, they just don't understand. But, the second and third time I got the comment, I got really mad. One ignorant person is enough. I thought, how could three people be so silly? It ges to show youhow uneducated peole are about the female body. What kills me is that two of the comments came from women. I thought, being women, they should be more understanding. Oh well, I educated them as politley as I could. It's hard to tell people about this disease without getting mad. I want to be factual, but I don't want to get into my personal life with people. It's like I have to give them a peice of myself to explain the disease and Ihate that. Am I not suffering enough? Now I have to tell random people really personal things just so that they don't say stupid hurtfull ignorant things.
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Post by erzulie on Jan 9, 2007 18:25:16 GMT -5
I know, it's a problem with the disease in general. I have to explain to people sometimes why I'm not well enough to do certain things at certain times, and I hate it because I feel like I shouldn't have to be discussing my gynecological problems with that many people!
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Post by irishmuse on Jan 9, 2007 18:51:05 GMT -5
What a GREAT idea!
I understand the whole fertility=more treatment thing. My doctor seemed to halt wondering what my problems were as soon as I told him we had no interest in having children. Just because I don't want babies doesn't mean I want to live in pain for my entire life!
As for sex pain---sure, it hurts when we're having intercourse, but orgasms without penetration also hurt for me. And I'm sure some lesbians use (and enjoy) dildos and vibrators for penetration.
I'm all for a lesbian section of the board! Unlike most of you, I'm the minority being the only straight one out of my friends (most are lesbian or bi)...LOL!
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