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Post by ouchy on May 17, 2008 12:07:34 GMT -5
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Post by ouchy on May 18, 2008 12:04:11 GMT -5
Awww. I put her in her co-sleeper at 11:30 last night (after she'd fallen asleep on the boob), and then she'd wake up every 5 min. looking for me. I brought her back into bed with me, and she nursed like every 1.5 hours! I just feel better with her by my side, and she feels more secure, too. I guess we'll do naps in the co-sleeper and sleep with us at night.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 18, 2008 17:17:08 GMT -5
aww. when do you plan on moving her into her own bed, though? thats always my fear with co-sleeping. im so worried theyll get dependent and rely on sleeping with you :\
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Post by ouchy on May 18, 2008 19:53:22 GMT -5
Most co-sleeping babies transition themselves (on their own) when they're 2-4 yrs. old. My husband doesn't want her there past 1yr.... I really don't know what to do. Now that I know how much she emotionally needs me, I feel like it's abusing her if I dont' sleep with her.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 18, 2008 20:41:38 GMT -5
I mean, I can see where you are coming from - but I don't think it's always an emotional thing, ya know? Really, I think it'd hard for us as mothers (not that I'm a mother, but I can totally see where you are coming from ) to let them go. We don't know if they'll need us during the night, etc. Do you think it might be easy to transition her now versus a year old? I just know from my niece who was co-slept with that she's going on 7 and still is not sleeping a full night in her own bed. This is why I have mixed reviews. I think it's an amazing thing when you are breast feeding, but I'd be so worried... like you are... to the needs and emotions of both mom and baby :\ I hope you guys work it out though....
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Post by ouchy on May 19, 2008 1:06:09 GMT -5
^Babies nurse if they are hungry or need the emotional support/comfort nursing. That's just how breastfed babies are.
I dont know if transitioning will be any easier down the road. But right now, it seems almost like abuse if I make her sleep apart from me.
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Post by ouchy on May 20, 2008 14:11:25 GMT -5
LOL. Okay, so now I abused her! She was up screaming until 1:30 A.M. the other night, so once she fell asleep, I chucked her into the co-sleeper. She woke up 3 hours later to nurse, so I nursed her and put her back in. She woke up 1.5 hours later to nurse, so I nursed her and then let her sleep with me.
Last night, I put her in the sleeper, but 30 min. later, she was awake, so I let her sleep with me, and she nursed all night.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 21, 2008 12:06:04 GMT -5
do u think u might be giving her mixed signals going back and forth? Youve got a bright girl on your hands ouchy!
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Post by ouchy on May 21, 2008 12:54:01 GMT -5
Good point. She does know that she takes naps in the cosleeper. Hum. Now I'm totally confused on what to do. LOL! I think I want her comfortable sleeping both in her cosleeper and knowing she's welcome anytime in our bed.
Gosh! I wish I lived in a little hut in Africa. Then there'd be no question on how to cosleep.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 21, 2008 14:46:24 GMT -5
lmao. well why dont you do what youre doing? naps in the co-sleeper and with you at night till you can gradually put her in the co-sleeper full time. i think its a good way to transition her into being a dependent little girl when it comes to sleeping. i know that moms hate this idea... but eventually she won't need you all night, ya know? start slowly on showing her (and yourself) that its ok! mommy will always be there...even if shes a few feet away or in another room. thats the best reassurance and emotional support you can give her. but im sure easier is said than done, huh?
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Post by ouchy on May 21, 2008 17:07:32 GMT -5
I probably should have been more specific--I nurse her in our bed and then slide her into her co-sleeper for her nap (bc she will crawl off of our tall bed if she wakes up and gets the chance). So, she naps in the sleeper but doesn't fall asleep there. She just knows she wakes up there.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 21, 2008 18:29:22 GMT -5
but shes sleeping there? even if you are nursing her elsewhere... shes sleeping in the cosleeper.... i mean it seems to be for her safety at nap time... easier to keep her from accidently slipping off the bed if you are sleeping right there with her, huh?
i dont know. im not a mommy... but im thinking what you are doing is good as long as there arent too many mixed signals, ya know? that could get more confusing and frustrating for you both :\
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Post by ouchy on May 21, 2008 20:03:11 GMT -5
We got the co-sleeper (one that goes to the side of the bed) due to her interest in crawling off of the bed. We previously had one that goes inside the bed, but she wouldn't sleep in it. Here is what we have.
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Post by JackMcFarland on May 21, 2008 20:14:31 GMT -5
haha she looks so cozy!! shes still close though, huh? just not right up against you? haha i bet she figures out she can crawl up to you in the co-sleeper! youll be waking up with her face in yours... and her ready to nurse!
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Post by ouchy on May 21, 2008 20:20:48 GMT -5
Exactly! She wants to be face-to-face w/ me! Seriously, like forehead-forehead! She knows how to crawl from the bed into the sleeper...but not the sleeper to the bed, thank goodess! That will be when the other ledge of the sleeper goes up to meet the height of the others.
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