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Post by kb on Mar 2, 2007 22:09:53 GMT -5
All this talk of happy pregnancies has got me thinking, my specialist told me to have a baby to get better, i have been told this by many people, but have also read in many places what a load of rubbish it is too.
I would like children one day but dont feel ready yet, im also scared that it wont work, that even if i get pregnant and it goes away it will just come back after the baby is born.
I am really interested in peoples experiences here, those who have had children, what the pregnancy was like, was the endo improved if not better after?
I really want to be better before i get pregnant, but at times i wonder if it isnt the better choice, not wanting to be convinced either way, coz no one can, just interested in experiences.
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Post by akcheryl on Mar 2, 2007 23:58:40 GMT -5
It's just my opinion, but I don't think that anyone should have a baby just to get relief from endo. Having a baby is a life changing event and should not be taken lightly. I think that when people decide to have a baby it should be because they want to extend their family, not as a method of pain relief.
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Post by AussieBird on Mar 3, 2007 3:11:21 GMT -5
Well said akcheryl, although I'm sure kb didn't mean it that way! I will be interested to read about people's experiences too. I have been looking forward to raising children my whole life, but I worry what my endo will be like after having them - will it improve or will I be so drained that I end up being not such a great mother?
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Post by kb on Mar 3, 2007 7:47:10 GMT -5
Yeah I agree akcheryl, completely. Its why i still havent had one.
But i do hold a great fear it wont get better with it, i cant imagine trying to bring up a child as sick as i am right now, i can barely look after myself. Just wondering more what other people's experiences are.
As i said, really want to be better first, i have to know i can manage this, that way when i have a child i can enjoy learning to be a mother, rather than have to battle being sick at the same time.
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Post by ouchy on Mar 3, 2007 9:51:04 GMT -5
I've never spoken to/read a story by someone w/ endo who was "cured" from having a baby. While I have read/heard a lot about symptoms improving during pregnancy, it always seems to come back. I actually went off on my OBGYN one time for suggesting pregnancy. "Why do you guys always tout pregnancy as a means for cure when it just comes back? " To which he replied, "Well, if you breastfeed, it stays away longer." I can just see myself w/ a 15-year-old dragging tit trying to keep my endo away! lol
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Post by kb on Mar 3, 2007 21:27:07 GMT -5
Good on you Ouchy I wish i had the balls to say it to my specialist, but yeah im the same, am yet to hear of anyone cured with it, but they still sprout it. When my dad said it to me not long ago, i said dad i cant be pregnant for ever, and he said oh it can go on years, thats what ur mother did, why do u think ur all so close together. Ive just said dad its not a solution.
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Post by ouchy on Mar 4, 2007 11:13:08 GMT -5
I also asked him how all those OBGYN's who push pregnancy on those of us w/ endo expect us to take care of a crying baby when the pain comes back.... He replied with silence!!! The silence made me feel like I scored points for the team!
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Post by AussieBird on Mar 4, 2007 16:53:00 GMT -5
Definitely!!
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Post by kb on Mar 4, 2007 19:16:54 GMT -5
LOL Nice work
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Post by cas3332 on Mar 4, 2007 22:54:59 GMT -5
Hi I am new here. I just had my very first lap on march 2nd :-( When my dr. came in to visit me during recovery pregnancy was his suggestion and I am not even married, how sad is that. I too agree, having a baby should not even be considered just in hopes that a disease will go away or to try and control it. I will say my mother after having my brother and a hysterectomy, her endo never came back.
I am 30 with no plans of getting married anytime soon and don't see kids in the near future but not saying I don't want them, they just don't fit yet. I am scared for what I have to look forward to with this disease.
My opinion to anyone is you need to do what you think is right and not what other people tell you to do. It's your life and your body :-)
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Post by anneny on Sept 8, 2007 14:14:13 GMT -5
My doctor also recommended pregnancy for me because he's trying to delay surgery as long as possible. Luckily, my husband and I were planning to start trying in a couple months anyway, so it hasn't changed our timetable much. We really want a family :-)
I know the endo will probably come back, and if I'm not able to breastfeed, it will come back even faster. Still, since I don't have advanced endo, my doctor thinks that even nine months of amenorrhea will be enough to shrink the growths a little.
How much pregnancy will help seems to depend on how advanced the endo is. If you have deep endometrioma (chocolate cysts), pregnancy amenorrhea probably won't help much once the little one arrives. If you have early stage endo, it might be as effective as Lupron, which isn't a cure, but seems to be fairly effective.
Of course, no one should get pregnant and have a baby just to get endo relief. But if you want children anyway, there's no harm taking advantage of the pain relief! :-)
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Post by baby bonnet on Sept 10, 2007 10:01:07 GMT -5
Hi,
Here's my living testimonial - During my pregnancy I forgot all about endo with all the endo symptoms being on hold. I had 3 months of morning sickness with morning sickness being an understatement as I had something more like all day sickness. Once the all day sickness went away I felt great and had a wonderful pregnancy. My daughter is 5 months old now and my unwelcome guest came back worse than ever 3 months after my daughter was born even thought I'm still nursing. All the endo symptoms are back twice as strong and I now need help with the baby when I'm bent over in pain. So for me pregnancy was only a temporary fix and nursing hasn't really helped either.
With all that being said I would like to point out that I didn't become pregnant to cure my endo but because my hubby and I were ready to share our love and home with a precious little child which we adore and would protect with our lifes. We found out I had endo because my OBGYN was trying to figure out what was causing my infertility problems.
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Post by ecco226 on Sept 24, 2007 14:43:06 GMT -5
I wanted to respond since I have had stage 4 Endometriosis - the worst stage and both ovaries were affected. I did have a laparoscopy. (I would not recommend a laparotomy.) It was done to preserve my ovaries and remove as much endo as possible. This was followed by two treatments of Lupron -- one shot per month. I knew my chances of getting pregnant on my own would be difficult since I had a lot of adhesions so my husband and I were going to try IVF one time. We had been trying before I found out about my endometriosis and this is what led us to our doctors. Anyway I did get pregnant for the first time and on the first try with IVF. The pregnancy was very smooth -- no pain at all! I delivered a healthy baby girl three years ago and was encouraged to breast feed the baby. I did and I am free of endometriosis since I still nurse her every now and then. I wanted to tell other women since I really was the worst case scenario and if I can get through this I'm sure the rest of you can as well. If you have any questions for me I'd be happy to help out. I've been there and know all the pain that you are going through.
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Post by macymoo on Sept 28, 2007 12:45:02 GMT -5
My dr also said to me if I want children I better do it sooner rather than later..I don't particuarly want children yet but I know I want children and don't want to miss that chance...I am 30 this year so time is slipping away:(( (on a brighter note my endo has been improving so maybe it won't be an issue)
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Post by ashleyendo on Oct 24, 2007 13:11:11 GMT -5
im 19, and ive been told to "try as soon as possible" since i was 16!!!!! i was just learnign to drive and they wanted me to learn how to take care of another life. it was ridiculous. however at 17 i became pregnant, it was an accident but i was ready to do what i had. Sadly 3 months later the baby stopped breathing, my doc said it couldn't survive in the environment in my belly because of my disease and ever since ive felt like i was my fault.
getting pregnant didn't help at all, in fact it could of made things worse.
: ) i hope you get things figured out
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