I see egg donation a little differently - a friend of mine is currently pregnant that way. It depends on what you want out of it I guess, but having a baby growing inside you would allow a closeness that may be wouldn't be there with adoption. It would be you that fed and nourished it, even if it didn't start from your DNA. Just my thoughts :-)
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I agree with you hellsbells, in a way. Just that for me I looked into IVF as the ONLY way I could possibly have a baby with my husband. I am really not that invested in it being "our" baby, because any child we adopt or foster, would be "our" baby anyway. But, if it were a case of my eggs being no good, I'd just rather skip to the next step and avoid the possible heartache of IVF not working. There are so many kids in the US and in the world without loving families. I know we can have a family through adoption....
My other worry is that I have been through so much with endo, and with my one ovary a "poor responder" the Doc would put me on the most aggressive hormone protocol possible. I have never been good on any hormones, BCP was awful for my mental health, and I'm fearful that worst case scenario is: intense hormone treatments, poor mental health in reaction to hormones, highly stressful procedure, possibly not even working, huge out of pocket expense, and then possibly not even getting viable eggs.... that's worst case, but really adoption sounds like a walk in the park compared!
Anyway I'll keep updating this. thanks to all of you for the support.
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I see where you are coming from, I have started TTC after a year of surgeries but really want to avoid IVF for a number of reasons. I have always thought about adoption, way before I knew I had endo, and my husband is on board. The emotional roller coaster of this all can be too much to deal with, and every woman has to come to their own best path. There really are so many options to create a family with eggs, surrogates, and adoption, it is all up to what feels right.
Do we have an adoption thread? If you go that route, I'd be interested to follow along your journey! Good luck with all your decisions.
I appreciate the responses. This is a huge issue for endo ladies. I suspect endo will become more and more prevalent, and a cause and a cure or protocol will be found eventually, but until then endo and related infertility will rise and affect more and more of us. It's an interesting conundrum.
Everything Conceivable: How Assisted Reproduction Is Changing Our World (9781400044283): Liza Mundy: Books.
I read the above book a year or so ago, and it explores a lot of issues connected with AR (assisted reproduction). If you see it somewhere it's really well written, worth a read and a think.
Rust myrtle yes I agree, nice to have a group, and nice to explore the ideas. Thanks and hugs to all...
I can understand your concern about the hormones, especially if you haven't had a good experience in the past. A good friend of mine had to go through IVF a few years ago (her hubby was is on some meds for life that cause birth defects, so he made a deposit before he went on them and because of his sperm quality, they had to do IVF). She became a different person while she was on all the hormones and was pregnant. Anxiety through the roof, couldn't sleep, paranoia, she was a mess. I didn't even recognize her. So, yeah, if you've had bad experiences on hormones before, I can see your hesitation on a super dose.
It sounds like you're well-informed of your options, and I hope you're able to come to a decision that works best for you so you can have a BABY, whether you grow it in your belly or in someone else's.
Endometriosis: The Complete Reference for Taking Charge of Your Health by Mary Lou Ballweg & The Endometriosis Association is my go-to book for information & treatment options. ******************************** Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wexler is my go-to book for understanding the menstrual cycle, hormones, and fertility indicators.