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Post by KSA on Jan 20, 2010 18:37:46 GMT -5
Like Karen said women with endo do conceive. I have one son and my twin sister has endo and she is on her third child. Alot of my friends are having babies now and I just had a hysterctomy so I understand the baby blues. If you can not have a baby adoption is always a option. Good luck think positive until you try to get pregnant you don't know maybe it will happen the first time? Are you at the point yet to start trying?
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Post by osb on Apr 3, 2010 22:03:05 GMT -5
I really do have trouble answering the question "So why don't you have kids?"... or even worse "When are you having kids?". I don't think these people are trying to stop my heart, they're just being friendly/nosy (community busybodies, or people who know I work with babies). So I try to smile and say something mysterious/jokey/turn the subject/er, how 'bout them Blackhawks....
Better that than launch into a completely unnecessary dissertation on endo, heartache, hormone shots and hopelessness - I'm afraid if I say one word, I won't be able to stop. TMI, seriously. But fer pete's sake I'm 42 - don't most people have the sense to not ask a woman that question after a certain point??! Am sort of looking forward to the day I look old enough for the question to pass unasked - bring on the grey!!
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Post by mawl on Aug 5, 2010 15:49:55 GMT -5
I think everyone in this thread described how I have felt these last two weeks. Even more today.....
I have always wanted children, but have always felt something was off. I then started to have these pains and the feeling got even worse. I am getting married in just over a year and our plan was to start trying on the wedding night. Well cross that off because now I am diagnosed with endo. I know there is ways to get pregnant and that females do get pregnant with endo but seeing my fiances cousin pregnant with her second and hearing my future sister in laws talking about trying for there first and second soon.......REALLY SUCKS.
I have two neices and a lot of close friends and family with babies and I love them to death. Its just hard knowing thats all I might have!
The worst part is, my sister has a little one and she does not act like a mom (unexpected pregnancy, father around part time). She is always running the roads, going to bars and having gramma babysit. I just found out yesterday that shes signing over all her rights to my mom, and that my sister is now stripping for work! I really do not know how to take this news!
I see my doctor next week, hopefully he can help!
Fiance and I have talked adoption before I was diagnosed and it was an option then, but now I do not want that to be an option!
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Post by sweety on Aug 6, 2010 10:36:11 GMT -5
So sorry you are feeling this way Mawl! Everyone's around are having babies. I have people asking me when will i have a child, any plans? I get so hurt unintentionally, n then they give you advices n all.. Well i don't know how to make them explain!! I just try and avoid them but deep down i want one so much! It takes a day or two to get over this feeling.. And i can just hope good for the future.. taking days as they come.. You are not Alone! Fingers crossed for you hun!
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Post by abornich on Aug 6, 2010 12:01:49 GMT -5
I am SOO glad to see these messages abou thaving babies! As a 30 year old in a not so great marriage, I struggle so much with this subject! Like some of you, in the last week or two, I have had SOOO many of my friends come tell me they are pregnant. For 5 days in a row I found out another person was pregnant. At first, I cried, and then I couldn't help but laugh! People would say stuff like... something is in the water... and I just wanted to lash back with... well, not in everyone's water! Anyway,... I am trying to trust God that He knows what he is doing, and if we are ever to have kids, He will give them to me. I pray my husband of 10 years will want them with me too!
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Post by khop1982 on Aug 27, 2010 0:43:32 GMT -5
akcheryl....I am just so sorry! I went through this many years ago but your post pierces my heart. I mean I seriously started crying for you. I remember when I first went to my endo specialist (also a fertility specialist). My former husband was with me. When the doctor came in he listened to me for a few minutes and then said "it's hard losing those babies every month isn't it?" I thought how can someone with no uterus understand me? that's how it felt...exactly! It was as if I were pregnant each month in my heart and when I got that negative test or started my period I felt like I lost a baby....horrible. I hope and pray you are able to have a baby. If not know this....I know it's hard to see yourself without a biological child but you are more than a mother. As women most of us grow up thinking we will have children. When we can't it really messes with our sense of identity. Remember you are more than just a mother. I will add you to my prayer list! God bless!
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Post by dotrat14 on May 4, 2011 16:19:03 GMT -5
I know this post is old but I am feeling the same way.
It is crazy to read all the posts from such young people! I am so envious!! To me if you are in your 20's you have so much time! OK, maybe you would have to do egg donor and with technology who knows but I would try and stress less about it. You have time behind you and that is huge. Make sure you are doing everything you can (diet, meditation) and I know it seems drastic - consider moving to a state that covers Infertility Treatments. If I were young and just starting a job I would move in a heartbeat! I would have packed up months ago! It is much harder when you are older and established in a career.
I am 41 and also love hearing, "oh do you have any children?" And trying to be nice when I say "NO"! I love my husband so much and we met later in life. I have thought that if I knew it was going to be so hard to have a baby (several failed IUI's and 3 failed IVF's later) would I have tried sooner with one of my previous boyfriends that I eventually chose not to be with? I am not 100% sure but I don't think so. My life has been good and I love my husband. I want to go through this with him.
I NEVER understood it when women talked about their "ticking clock", seriously, never felt it and did not get it. Well here I am and that clock is IN MY EARS!! It is amaizing that you do not hear the clock until it it right on you. It does not slowly sneak up on you. BAM!! There it is and you have just months to make it happen.
I don't have any siblings and my husbands siblings are all older so we don't have any babies in the family which makes it easy. I still have a very hard time seeing everyone around me at work and just in a random store pregnant.
I am glad we have somewhere to talk about this.
no one really understands unless you are in the same situation.
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Post by hellsbells on May 4, 2011 17:04:45 GMT -5
I get ya. 36 and single, no kids. I can't say I have a major burning desire to run out and get myself knocked up by some random, but that fear of running out of time is awful. I don't really like either of my choices, but having a baby is not something I would choose to do alone.
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Post by tigergirl10 on Nov 3, 2011 22:22:04 GMT -5
Glad I found this thread. I always wanted kids. My mom comes from a very large family of 11 kids. All my cousins in my age range and younger except the ones who are still single, have kids. My brother and his wife welcomed a baby boy in March. And I am the godmother, but don't get to spend that much time with him due to my job. My last day of my job is day before Thanksgiving. because I am getting married in one month, and my soon to be husband is positive we will have a child. He wants a stay home wife and mom. He has a 6 year old daughter that we have 98% of the time. She is the closest I have to a child and I love her dearly but still have to share with her very unfit mother. and it drives me insane.
Was on birth control pills since the age of 18 due to very painful periods. And I didn't meet the "one" til age 33. Didn't get the official diagnois of stage 4 endometrosis til last year of the age of 34. after nearly dying of bowel obstruction caused by it. It also caused me to loose my left ovary. The dr said it was the worse case he ever seen, so much damage to my colon, that left me with an ostomy bag for 9 months. Did 9 months of Lupron. had my last injection July 23rd. 3 months and 5 days later my period began finally! Cycle lasted 6 days. Don't know if I will start ovulating on my own this month. Before Lupron my cycle was a near perfect 28 days always has been since the age of 12. We tried for 2 months before I got my cycle back from Lupron. When the period was taking so long, I took 2 preg tests. Of course they were negative. and cried for days. We will be starting back up trying this week. Charted my fertile days, hoping that I will be ovulating. My gyno assisted in my surgery in March when I got the colostomy reversed. He said my tube looked good as well as my right ovary despite my disease being so severe. My right side looked completly normal and was never affected by endo. Only my left side was ravaged. Hope to have some good news soon with a Positive preg test. I turned 35 at the end of June, so nearly 35 and a half now. I feel time is running out.
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