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Post by hellsbells on Jan 9, 2011 11:13:53 GMT -5
So, there are several of us on here who are single and looking for love, and there are a few ways to go about it! Anyone want to share tips?
I've used a few different dating websites over the years, currently using a free one which I guess means there'll be more dogdgy types than usual. I 'unhid' my profile last night and had over 40 emails inside an hour, some from the same guys. One guy has got a little 'innuendo' on me and I'm not entirely sure how to take it. I'm no prude, but being a bit too saucy with someone I really don't know isn't really my bag though.
I fugured I'd give this another go as I've got a bit of bounce back in my step recently, quite a few options on this site at the moment, so I'll check in with updates and progress!
Anyone else want to share?
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Post by cherry on Jan 9, 2011 13:05:52 GMT -5
Well I think I've proven my total ineptitude with starting something with somebody, interested to see how this goes
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Post by sunshine78 on Jan 9, 2011 15:45:46 GMT -5
Once, I met a guy on the university message board, and regularly corresponded with him for a number of months, before meeting in person, in a group setting (with others who frequented the boards). We [dated, lol] on and off for two years. I liked that, because I got a feel for his personality, before I even found out what he looked like, and it was just a perk that he happened to be great-looking. AND... I got to find out what he was like among others, and found out he got along with all kinds of people, which was great. Any other dudes I've met were friends of friends who were work colleagues, whom I met at parties or other social outings. I also like cafes and coffee shops just for chilling... because you never know who you're going to run into. Whatever the case, as long as you know you and like you for who you are, and you're totally comfortable wherever you are, you'll suck people right in.
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 9, 2011 16:23:55 GMT -5
I haven't felt as good as I do at the moment in over 2 years...bring it on!
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Post by pretty on Jan 10, 2011 16:07:58 GMT -5
my advice is simple: remember that you are awesome, and act accordingly: let the men do all the reaching out and calling, etc. then you always know where you stand..... ON TOP!!! my husband knows how awesome I am, and remembers that he did all the chasing, that keeps our power struggle balanced and sane.... mostly
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Post by JC on Jan 11, 2011 9:30:32 GMT -5
When I was in the dating world I just wh0red around until I found one I wanted to keep. LOL
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Post by pretty on Jan 11, 2011 12:32:32 GMT -5
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 11, 2011 14:21:07 GMT -5
What do you make of guys who have the opinion that if you 'put out' straight away think you're not worth calling back? I say screw them, if that's their narrow minded hypocritical opinion they're not worth it!
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Post by JC on Jan 11, 2011 15:11:47 GMT -5
DUDE I banged everyone on the first date if I wanted to. Most of them called back. Some didn't. I didn't care! If the date was just only about sex then I wouldn't expect a call back unless they were absurdly impressed. LOL. But if you had a wonderful date, full of laughs and chemistry and fun, then why can't we hook up? It's a personal choice. Some women may not operate that way which is cool. But for me, if I was feeling the juices flowing I went for it!
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Post by pretty on Jan 11, 2011 15:18:20 GMT -5
Men want to wait. Then they know it's worth something.... that's my theory...
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Post by hellsbells on Jan 11, 2011 15:24:32 GMT -5
If they want to wait, fine, sometimes I do to. But I hate the idea of being judged because I'm fairly sexually liberated. I read somewhere years ago that a very high proportion of relationships begin with a one night stand. I feel it cuts the ice!
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Post by KSA on Jan 11, 2011 17:04:05 GMT -5
When I was single I did my share of lets get it on and did not care if I got called or not. My biggest problem was tho they always called! A one night stand is when they never call back right? I never had a one night stand. I tried trust me I just always felt bad even if they were horrible in bed I would still answer the calls. BLAH I wish I didnt. LOL sorry but you know what we are sexual just like they are and if you want to the first night so what~ Not every guy you will be with is THE ONE~ Sometime they are just THE ONE right then. Here is my qoute for the day in regards to dating~ "I think we can all agree that sleeping around is a great way to meet people." ~Chelsea Handler~ When your ready for love it will happen and you will know it the second you see the person. In the mean time HAVE FUN Girls~
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Post by gemstone on Jan 11, 2011 18:01:14 GMT -5
I say go for it. I'm all about the sex and it is a great way to meet people. The whole 'putting out on the first date' dilemma, in my opinion is not worth thinking about. If you want to, then go for it. If the person is open minded enough then they'll get it, if not, at least you got a shag!!!!
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Post by cherry on Jan 11, 2011 19:00:57 GMT -5
If it feels right, spend the night. There's misconceptions about what people think a first date shag means. And yet I have a friend who has clicked so well with someone that when he asked her back, there was no question and they've spent every spare moment together since. Some men want to feel like they're special in that you don't shag everyone you go out with. Some are crap in the sack due to nerves even though they usually initiate going to that level. And they don't call cos it's kinda your fault etc I just know for me, first date sex isn't quite possible cos of the shyness I feel atm, and I do like the build-up, hell even moving up the bases as the dates progress... the suspense and learning what makes them tick before you go balls deep. Literally! My feelings change with the seasons. I don't judge anyone who does, I envy them! I quite enjoyed the one first date thing I had in the summer, second date, meh. Hahaha.
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Post by JC on Jan 11, 2011 19:41:32 GMT -5
I think it's totally about what you feel. I really don't think it's wrong to sleep with someone on the first date. And if you want to wait then that's good too! I like what cherry said "if it feels right spend the night!" and if feel like you would feel better about waiting then totally do what's in your heart! and people who judge us for wanting to sleep with someone can go f*ck off!
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